Conflict can result from trying to change a person or situation that we don't like. And conflict causes stress and agitation, both of which limit our lives. They steal our ability to be open to opportunities for growth and change.
Why is it so hard to accept situations we don't like? Twelve Step programs tell us it's because of our ego. We feel diminished when others don't agree with our plan or our opinion. Our self-worth is tied to other people's reactions.
But we can change. We can let the success stories we hear in this program inspire us to let others be. We will discover how much better we feel when we're not on the battlefield with our friends and loved ones.
I don't have to have conflict with other people today. I can let others be themselves and do what feels right to them. I'll feel more at ease too.
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
"We feel diminished when others don't agree with our plan or our opinion. Our self-worth is tied to other people's reactions."
ZOIKS, Carol!!
Did I ever need to read this today, Carol. Not everyone out there is ready for recovery for themselves, and it really has not a darn thing to do with me when it's all said and done. I get so angry when I am reminded of how I used to want recovery until people would 'get off my back', and then I would go my merry way, and fall flat on my face again. The reason for the anger is because I care. been there. Done that. But just as others had to accept me for where I was at, I have to accept others too, for where they are at. I am here only by the grace of God, and not on my own power.
I too like to be inspired by success stories in the program. It lets me know I am in the right place. I don't want to 'conflict' with anyone any more. I don't want any battlefields in my life any more. One day at a time. I know this too is possible one day at a time.
Quetzal wrote: I don't have to have conflict with other people today. I can let others be themselves and do what feels right to them. I'll feel more at ease too.
Amen.
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