I am in need of some assistance and hope I could find it here. I am a member of AA and Al anon. I am a 43 year old male and I have 16 years of AA recovery and about 3 in Al anon. I have gotten away from working the steps in my daily life. I really feel like I am missing something so I am back trying to work the steps. I attend about three to four meetings a week some AA some Al anon. I am very lucky that the desire to drink or drug has left me long ago. I am very grateful for that!! I thank my Higher Power daily for this!! But I still feel the need to be compulsive in other areas in my life. I want to learn how live better in all areas of my life. Ok I could go on and on about my issues. But what I am really looking for is a Male sponsor that has worked and believes in continuing to work the steps.
I live in a town of about 50,000 where are no males in the Al anon program that are working the steps. And it is hard because I have 16 years in AA and most (there are only about three) they have less than six months in Al-anon. So they are good people but don’t yet have the information I am seeking. So I turn to AA I have not seen anyone in AA (hopefully Im not just making excuses) that I feel like understands what I am going through. It is hard when at most of the meetings I go to I have the most sober/clean time. I have always been taught you find someone that has what you want and usually they have more time than you. I am currently in a relationship with girl in AA. This brings up another set of issues. It is going well I just want to keep growing and increase my spiritually.
I am really motivated re-work the steps. So here I am doing my part and then turning it over to my Higher Power. I have faith my HP will bring me what I need.
If anyone has any Ideas or comments please feel free to email me at
I would be open to an online sponsor too. Not sure how that would work but I am open. I could see this working for both parties. It does not have to be “all about me” J
Wish peace and serenity to all that reads this, Gary
Hi Gary and welcome. I'm an alcoholic named Jennifer.
For me, this whole forum itself is like a sponsor. We all share ES&H together. So, either way, I hope you'll continue to be a part of MIP and keep coming back.
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