...setting aside our carefulness with each other...
If we cannot tolerate our mistakes, we will never be able to move on from this place. If we do not step up to the plate with bat in hand, we will grow old without knowing what first base is like.
Life is a risk. A committed relationship is a risk. Letting ourselves go, voicing opinions, telling our deepest feelings, playing frivolously at the park, setting aside our carefulness with each other and sometimes falling flat on our faces --all these things give us the pleasure of being alive. If we insist on playing it safe, then we never feel the thrill of the game. Our lives with each other become flat and empty if we do not take some risks. We have a right to be weak as well as strong; a right to be respected when we feel silly as much as when we appear dignified; a right to say what we believe even if it is half-baked. The greatest mistake is never to engage life.
Think of one thing you would like to do with your partner if you could set aside all judgements and evaluations.
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Something I've learned about life....You can refuse to take a great risk because it can result in great loss.... however, by passing it by, you must also accept that you will not have a chance to reap it's potential great rewards.
I expressed my feelings to a male friend about how I was upset about a few things he had done that hurt my feelings and he basically said screw you. Then I began to feel bad, doubt my feelings, pretty much beat myself up. Then the light bulb went on......real friends listen to you and dont disgard your feelings as if they were dog poo.
But I had to engage at the risk of his anger! Now, I just have to let it go and be proud I spoke up for me! If he is a true friend it will work out, if not, so be it!
