Well in my previous post "Scared of My Husband's Sponsor" I talked about my hubby's sponsor suggesting that because I didn't accept the fact that I could have some control over my hubby's using/drinking, then he didn't think that we belonged together.

I really stuggled to post that or not, as the perfect codie that I am I was worried that I would offend some. I still struggle with the desire to be accepted/liked and am really working on accepting the fact that other people's opinion of me are none of my business.

Logically I knew that my hubby's sponsor was not using program tools when he made that statement, but the itty bitty sh***y committee was so loud that logic would not be heard. (I need to find extra strength duct tape to keep the committee's mouths shut.)

But thanks to you all who responded and with the help of my alanon friends the committee shut up enough for logic to come in.

I am going to continue to work my program (alanon) and hand everything over to HP. LOL, like I have any control over anyone but myself anyway.

I just wanted to thank you all. For your insight into sponsorship. I dug out and dusted of hubby's big book and will read the chapter about working with others before hubby comes home from Alaska.

I just feel extremely grateful that I have found another safe place to heal, and I will keep the venting down and reserve that for the other board .

Yours in recovery,

Dolphin123