One thing I need for my recovery, my mental health, my sanity is good solid rest at night...
NOT getting it.
My husband already works 16-18 hours a day.... we went to bed at 11 and then his obnoxious walkie-talkie goes off at 1am.... I get back to sleep. Then he comes home at 3... I'm up again, the dog is wiggling around and my husband is chit-chatting like a lunatic... then the alarm goes off at 5am... then his walkie-talkie... then his cel phone alarm... all 10 minutes apart. By 5:45 I am livid... wide awake and aggravated. I am sleeping in 2 hour increments... feel angry the last few days.... I have been able to sleep through this for the past year, as I worked myself to exhaustion too. But now I am just getting more and more tired as the days go by....
Thinking of cleaning up the spare bedroom... sleeping in there, or him sleeping in there... he won't care as long as there's a T.V. put in there to help him fall asleep. I don't know how he does it...
My recovery depends upon my getting good sound sleep at night. When I was usiong, I drank liquor non-stop and did a powerful stimulant... I would be up for days on end. When I detoxed I slept for literally weeks, around the clock, awake only to shower, use the restroom, or eat a meal. Right now I wake up feeling like I've used the night before... when I awaken I have terror, bewilderment and despair... and NOTHING'S WRONG.... except I am not sleeping right. I get so angry when I'm exhausted, I want to throw things and tear the house up!!!!
Sorry to hear about what's going on. I've come to realize how important sleep truly is lately. A couple days a week I need to get to bed around eight or so just so I can function at work. If I don't get enough sleep I become angry, irritable, and discontented. I like to call it assholism! That's just me though. I hope you can find some spare time to catch up on some sleep. Take care.
I just feel so rotten.... even my beloved pets duck for cover when I get up and get to stomping around the house...
Naps do me no good... I can only sleep for like an hour or so... which doesn't help. I need a good 8 hours...
I am going to get busy today cleaning some boxes and stuff out of the spare room and put some fresh sheets in there.. so one of us can sleep in there. i feel fortunate to have the extra space to do that. LOL we have been married less than 2 years and now sleeping separately... LOL HONEYMOON'S OVER!!!!
Well that spare room sounds like a winner, how about some little earplugs and one of those sleep machines too.
Seems like the T. in H.A.L. T. is bitting you in the butt.
Our Sobriety has to come first, and with no real solid sleep, my life take on a new meaning of "no meaning" just a walking chanky zoombie, until the following night.
I live alone, but I will let my "thinker" get going and if I am upset about something, it will wake me up, in the middle of the night, and then at the very crack of dawn.
I have been making a concerted effort to get to bed early, try my very best to clear my thinking into calmness before I go to bed. And I have been getting 7 1/2 to 8 hours sleep a night, the day feels pretty good, when that happens.
Spending your days, mopping up the mess in your Basement, then staying up, on and off all night, sounds like a pretty unpleasant combination.
Sleep Deprivation will, as you know, interfere with our mental and emotional Sobriety, so I am happy to see you taking action, to turn this Around.
I took a power nap and the spare room is near completion. My husb called and volunteered to be the one sleeping in the spare room. Bless his little heart.
Now I get to go out to dinner, at 5, with my AlAnon aunt... I can see it now... me cranky.... her asking, over and over... "You OK?... you look tired.... You OK?.....".....
Testing.... the spare room is ready and my husb just went to bed. I am off to bed shortly in the master bedroom.... hoping that this simple solution will solve our complicated problem....
awww Joni, hope it works out for ya. I know how ya feel...Sleep is a big issue for me too and unfortunately I can't seem to find a solution for it that works for both me and the hubster! Oh well...thankfully I can nap and napping is always nice.
Anyhow...hope you're peacefully slumbering and you awaken feeling refreshed!
Sleep deprivation sucks. I have been relying on Benadryl or Dramamine to knock me out to sleep most nights. I am hoping for a more normal sleep cycle soon.
Anyway, I know all about the phones, pagers, alarms going off at all hours. It is annoying, but after being married nearly 4 years, I've slowly adjusted. I can wake my hubby up, and then pass out and sleep for a few more hours before I have to get up.
Generally, having some noise like the fan or air conditioning going helps. It drowns out the grunts, snoring, and smoker's cough a bit. If only it helped prevent him from kicking me in his sleep, or rolling over so far on my side of the bed that I have two inches of space for myself. But he's such a cutie when he's sleeping that I feel a little guilty pushing him over. Oh--and he's a cover hog.
But I've just gotten used to it. It's taken a long time to adjust to sleeping with someone else, especially a noisy someone else. But it does get easier over time. Now, if my husband's out fixing an outage or something in the middle of the night and my bed's empty, it's harder to sleep because he's not there!
Husb was joking last evening... carrying the cat around and saying to her, "Well, Kitteroo, your dad got thrown out of the bedroom.... are you gonna come sleep with me?" LOL Also asked what the 'guidelines are'... "Now...Can I sneak in and steal a kiss before work...?"
Hahahaha.... helps to have some humor and light-heartedness there too.
Now I get to make 2 beds in the morning!! Kinda sad this morning, seeing his little 'things' scattered on the bedside table in there... but life is about finding solutions to problems, be they big or small.
Jonibaloni
