How often have we heard someone rationalize their actions and behavior through the tenth step at a meeting? Is it okay to call someone on their bs in a meeting? I hear people with years of sobriety doing this. Oh I acted this way and said this but it's okay because I said I'm sorry. I don't care whether or not your sorry. Forget that. What are you doing to amend your behavior so it doesn't happen again. That's the question!
I chaired a meeting tonight and was able to choose the topic due to the format. I made the topic the responsibility statement.
I Am Responsible...
When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help I want the hand of A.A. always to be there. And for that: I am responsible.
Needless to say it kind of went over like a lead balloon. Two people with 25+ years didn't even contribute. Nothing!
Seems like I get more out of the meeting after the meeting sometimes.
They are responsible for their stuff..We are responsible for ours...:)
I bull shitted everybody in AA for a long time Justin...Others saw right through me...
They didnt say a word..
They knew...that sooner or later..I'd fall on my ass..."I did"
We dont hafta call anyone on their bullshit....sooner or later..they will hafta get honest...and look in a mirror...and call it on themselves..
Some never do...even oldtimers...and eventually pick up that drink....conclusion?..insanity...and back into the depths of Hell..
What goes around comes around...and we each hafta go our own hard and rocky paths...sometimes through pain..before we get humble enough to realize..that we arent done learning yet...and never will be...
We are responsible for our side of the street only...and to those that reach out for help...
With some? The only difference between a newcommer and an oldtimer..is age.:) Ive been where some of those oldtimers are at..its called complacency...sooner or later I suffered because of it...
Used to figure..that I had all the answers..and had did my part to help others...
Well...Ive said it before...some days I dont know shit...and the program goes right out the window..
Ego thing....self centered thing...self will thing....old thinkin and stinkin thinkin thing....and the train..starts to go backwards..:) DOH!!!
Have a good Tuesday bud...
-- Edited by Phil at 01:21, 2006-07-04
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"LOVE" devoid of self-gratification, is in essence, the will, to the greatest good...of another.
Yes, I am guilty of taking other peoples inventories. Whomever says they aren't are lying through their teeth. I don't like to do it, but it happens. I guess the difference with me is that I voice some of what I see in others where some people keep their thoughts to themselves.
For me I have to use this message board as a sounding board sometimes to see where I'm at.
