I am Dori and a grateful alanon .I have been in alanon for 3 years and it is been alot of work.When I first came in I was a mess I came into change the person I was in love with .
Instead I changed me.The A in my life went our own ways.it was painful but I got through it.I had alot a sister to a drunk driver and my dad died a drunk. I had so mucvh anger against any one who drank and couldnt understand if they just loved me they stopped.
With alanon I learned it a disease.I still was hurting and couldnt be around any one who drank didnt have any compassion .
my sponsor suggested I go to AA meetings at first I said no and the first few were hard and I wasnt always nice.
I found this new group had a lot of men and women who have been in Aa for years and started going to a few and wow .
I saw a glimpse of what the other side goes though and I started to heal of my lost of my dad the love of my life and it was amazing of the respect I began to have for someone who was working being sober.
I started to have real cmpassion and realized it was not about will power it was about working each day and working the steps the same steps I work to stay sober.
So I do come and read your posts not to judge or seem superior but cause I get strength encourgement and hope from you all so thank you for letting me peek in once in a while .
Thank you much. These boards are obviously 'open meetings', of sorts, and we are blessed with the anonymity of the internet, so I see this as a real gift that it has helped you, too. What a huge blessing it is to read this post.
My mother died in an alcoholic car accident when I was 4 years old, but then I went on to get 4 DUI's... amazing. If this is not a DISEASE, then I don't know what on earth one would call a disease.
I love and respect your program as much as my own. It has made a world of difference in my family, even long before I was 'done drinking'. I had a wonderful fellow who was in AlAnon finally leave me, too, to save himself from drowning right along with. I am glad to say that those wounds heal, too, if both people are fortunate to get a 12-Step program going in their lives. We are not back together; have both moved on, but I know we are both better people for what we went through.
I am honored to have you 'peeking in', as you say, at times.
Thank you so much for your honest and thought provoking post.
I'm an alcoholic and until very recently I couldn't really see the damage that I had caused to my boyfriend. We separated just over eighteen months ago and I continued to drink.
I tried to fool myself into thinking that everything had been fine in our relationship. There was always good food on the table; the bills were always paid; the housework was always done; I never drank in bars or clubs and publicly humiliated him. I just couldn't see what the problem was.
In November last year, I went back to AA. My life has changed so much and I am working so hard at this wonderful program of recovery. Last month, my boyfriend stayed with me for a few weeks. We have remained in daily contact since we split up and he has followed my progress closely.
I just hadn't been able to see the chaos that I had caused in his life. He broke down in tears as he told me how bad things had got for him. It was a massive eye-opener for me. He called Al-Anon and was so grateful that there was somebody he could talk to.
Now, we are both working at our joint recovery. He is coming to stay with me again in ten days and we are so looking forward to it.
I am truly grateful to AA and to Al-Anon.
Thank you for your post.
Have a wonderful day, Dori.
Carol
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Hi Dori...thank you for your honesty! I'm a dual programmer...I'm an Alcoholic and recently began going to Al-Anon. It definately ha been like peeking over the fence for me.
