We all have days from time to time when it feels like the world is against us or that the chaos we are experiencing will never end. One negative circumstance seems to lead to another. You may wonder, on a bad day, whether anything in your life will ever go right again. But a bad day, like any other day, can be a gift. Having a bad day can show you that it is time to slow down, change course, or lighten up. A bad day can help you glean wisdom you might otherwise have overlooked or discounted. Bad days can certainly cause you to experience uncomfortable feelings you would prefer to avoid, yet a bad day may also give you a potent means to learn about yourself.
You may consider a bad day to be one where you've missing an important meeting because your car stalled, the dryer broke, and you received a piece of very bad news earlier in the morning. Multiple misfortunes that take place one after the other can leave us feeling vulnerable and intensely cognizant of our fragility. But bad days can only have a long-term negative effect on us if we let them. It is better to ask yourself what you can learn from these kinds of days. The state of your bad day may be an indicator that you need to stay in and hibernate or let go of your growing negativity.
Bad days contribute to the people we become. Though we may feel discouraged and distressed on our bad days, a bad day can teach us patience and perseverance. It is important to remember that your attitude drives your destiny and that one negative experience does not have to be the beginning of an ongoing stroke of bad luck. A bad day is memorable because it is one day among many good days - otherwise, we wouldn't even bother to acknowledge it as a bad day. Know too, that everybody has bad days, you are not alone, the world is not against you. Tomorrow is guaranteed to be a brighter day.
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Funny, isn't it, how friends and a Power greater than ourselves can neutralize nightmares?
WREN this is sooo good and sooo for me, i just HAVE to insert my take ok????? WOW, thank U for sharing this.........look at my post "i need to live like today is all i got" and u will see what i am saying...........SOMEONE is tellign me something here.......
Wren wrote:
April 24, 2006Finding The GiftBad Days We all have days from time to time when it feels like the world is against us or that the chaos we are experiencing will never end. One negative circumstance seems to lead to another.
ME____________oh lately this has been me.....thinking i am under a "bad cloud" and that it will NEVER get better....getting a really bad attitude of hoplessness cuz one negative circumstance seems to go into another , for the past almost 2 yrs. since i have been in recovery it seems WORSE cuz i am not running away/ drinking/ drugging to numb it out or escape......so its magnified.......i know, part of the package of recovery........i have a s****y attitude lately
You may wonder, on a bad day, whether anything in your life will ever go right again. But a bad day, like any other day, can be a gift. Having a bad day can show you that it is time to slow down, change course, or lighten up. A bad day can help you glean wisdom you might otherwise have overlooked or discounted.
ME_______________yep, been feeling like this lately....i mean i am ok, for a while then it just "beats me down after a while" and i think, i am cursed or something......i will not call this a gift, but a flag that i need to yes, slow down.....RELEASE......DETACH, in my actions not just my lips/words......i am seeing that EACH thing that has happened is like "deliberate" stuff that i won't be able to control......its like i am FORCED to either fight it and go furthur into negative, OR MAKE me let go...MAKE me SOMEHOW, release me from this.....just "throw it up to the skky in my head and WALK away"........with my impaired trust in any diety, it is even harder....but somehow i must MAKE me let go......with chanting/ meditations ANYthing that will cause me to CEASE to resist.....
Bad days can certainly cause you to experience uncomfortable feelings you would prefer to avoid, yet a bad day may also give you a potent means to learn about yourself. You may consider a bad day to be one where you've missing an important meeting because your car stalled, the dryer broke, and you received a piece of very bad news earlier in the morning.
ME______________oh i have been feeling so helpless lately....like triggering majorally, the "old days" of helplessness, NO way out thinking, when i have been telling myself "hey this is NOW, and U R healthier...the perp is dead....U R thinking better---U do have options" etc, etc......
Multiple misfortunes that take place one after the other can leave us feeling vulnerable and intensely cognizant of our fragility. But bad days can only have a long-term negative effect on us if we let them. It is better to ask yourself what you can learn from these kinds of days. The state of your bad day may be an indicator that you need to stay in and hibernate or let go of your growing negativity.
ME____________this is me....just one thing after another with NO breather in between......i feel so vulnerable, and helpless, fighting this and that is a word i need to stop---- "fighting this" "dealing" with this ALONE makes it harder......and yeah, the fragility of my whole life.....how tentative i hang on to my meeting my basic needs.......i am one pay check away from being homeless almost........and i do NOT want it to have a negative effect on me.......letting GO is the key i see here for me....RELEASING me from it....if i hve to MAKE me do it......i know i am better at taking care of me, and making myself rest more....lightening my stress load.....cutting off things i don't need to be dealing with.......but i do see my negativity growing and i am concerned......i see a pattern, EVERY thing that happens to me is ALWAYS something over which i am helpless....i either can't afford to fix it......OR i just cannot do anything about it for some other reason.....so i am being FORCED to just "LET GO" and it scares me, cuz hanging on b4 was what kept me alive.....now i know i MUST...and i will work the steps on RELEASING me......DETACHMENT.........LETTING GO......even if i don't think an hp interferes in our lives very much, what can the negative forces do if i give NON resistance....if i just say f*** it and walk away???? it takes the power away from the circumstance doesn't it.....
Bad days contribute to the people we become. Though we may feel discouraged and distressed on our bad days, a bad day can teach us patience and perseverance.
ME_______becuz the past 2 years has been sooo rough, dealing with inner child pain work.....dealing with my ptsd......AND dealing with life's BS negative multiple misfortunes, yeah, i am getting discouraged and it is making me a cynical person.....so i gotta get to work on DETACHMENT....."riding it out and NOT fighting it"....i see this what i have to do just by the fact that my crap is ALWAYS either at night when there is NOTHING i can do......or on weekend......or NO money to fix it......or just ZERO i can do about it..........so the pattern here is stuff that is forcing me to LET GO or go nuts......
It is important to remember that your attitude drives your destiny and that one negative experience does not have to be the beginning of an ongoing stroke of bad luck. A bad day is memorable because it is one day among many good days - otherwise, we wouldn't even bother to acknowledge it as a bad day. Know too, that everybody has bad days, you are not alone, the world is not against you. Tomorrow is guaranteed to be a brighter day.
ME____________and my attitude has sucked lately.......i don't know about destiny, i think we can "modify" our life charts, but to really change our karma??? naw, but we CAN live with it better.....life is not fair, many times....it has NO guarantees that we will get what we want, but i guess by changeing me i CAN give myself a "shot at life" i CAN modify my chart in that the crap that keeps happening, if i keep giving it NON resistance, maybe i can live with it better??? or it will go away cuz i gave it no energy OR maybe things WILL ease cuz i learned to DETACH....LET GO.....NON resist....... lately it HAS been an ongoing stroke of bad luck, i mean if i posted about EVERYTHING, U guys would think i was exagerating......but really, maybe i am bringing this s*** on me by fighting it and giving negativity power over me by NOT letting it go......teaching it that "hey i am not going there with U" and thus taking its power away from me by my DETACHEMENT..................GR8 share, i really needed to see this......rosie
I'm glad, Rosie, that you heard what you needed to--I love how that happens. I'll be all troubled about something, and then *poof*, someone says or posts just the words I needed to hear. And this little bulb goes off for me, and I'll be reading it and saying "yeah, yes, that's it!". And today? I really really needed to hear that I'd posted something that didn't offend anyone, LOL. love Wren
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Funny, isn't it, how friends and a Power greater than ourselves can neutralize nightmares?
Thanks Phil, I will surely do that. today has been bread baking day, and I always enjoy it. And tonights Medium, LOL, so that makes like, the perfect Monday for me....
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Funny, isn't it, how friends and a Power greater than ourselves can neutralize nightmares?
