Hello its all fun and games here, I had got in and was putting the roast pork on, and my partner got me! trying to control the situation as usual., I was just drainging the juices of the pork and my partner insisted that she take over, i firmly told her no, well that was it, she screamed at me threw down the cleaning apperators she had in her hand, ( I had already tidied but it was as per usual not up to her standards) and ran off to bed crying, I think i will leave her to it, I was not thinking it befor but i think i may be forced to move out in the acedemic year as she will **** it all up for me! the only reason I do not want to go is for the pets, she has just stormed down stairs and out the door and drove off somewhere, even though I am cooking a roast for everyone, not a care for anyone in the world apart from her her and her
Relationships are tough. I wish I could offer you something to help ya but I am so ignorant when it comes to relationships it's not even funny. Hang in there and keep doing what ya know is right for you.
Well....Im not any authority on any of this stuff....Still learning from mistakes...
I guess the words that enter my little mind...are "Calm Communication"...And "Our way" not "My Way"
Another one is "Compromise"
And "Yesterday has nothing to do with today" if the baggage has been dealt with...and let go of....
..."Forgiving" ..."There doesnt hafta be a winner"
Im divorced...for a short time...but I will share with you that every time there was conflict..the "Yesterdays" came into it..and everything escalated...
And yup...it takes two...I did a lot of things wrong on my side of the street...that I regret doing..
If you truly love her my freind....Try to understand where shes at....and try to meet in the middle...
Life is too short....
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Well,, that's what my mother did,, and later my sister too. When they didn't get their own way they threw tantrums,, just like 2 year old children. I stayed firm. In a codependency sometimes one dominates and the other one becomes just an extension of the dominant one with no ideas, will, opinions, directions of their own. It is a drag,, and I had to move to a different town to begin to build a life. "We" means you and me, both having an identity that is distinct, and working together.... "we" does not mean siamese twins, or that one is a parasite on the other one.
Hey,,,, that pork sounds good. I like a man that can cook.
love in recovery,
amanda
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My ex liked the fact that I did most of the cooking, gave her more time for her school work (she was going back to school at 45 to finish her degree).Then one day she complained that my cooking made her fat. she had to eat diet meal, which I bought for her, I had to put less cheese and stuff on her haldf of the pizza. I went from not doing anything wrong to not being able to do anything right. The harder i tried the worse it got, it was like trying to hold sand, the tighter you grip the more it slips through your fingers. I finally had to just let go, she left I think she had wanted to leave for a long time she just wanted a reason. It hurt then it still hurts now. I had my part to play in it, we had everything we needed to be happy but we couldn't work it out together so we grew apart. At one time I felt she was the other half of my Soul now she's a total stranger. You and your partner need to sit down and work it out before it's to late. Good luck. Bob.
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COR DEAR what a difficult day, i really dread the weekends, because they are so tense, today my partner treated me like dog poop., I was there for you when in the past is the sort of comments she makes, and says i am being inconsiderate just because i would not let her run the show. I really am feeling it!
