Hi! If you could go to page 4 (accessed from the bottom of this page) and go down to the bottom? third one up is on relationships, posted by Phil. It is very very good, and gave me some serious things to think about and consider. It was oh-so-true. Take a look at it and see what you think.

Marriage isn't easy for anyone, unless it's on a 1950s tv series. For two alkies, you do have more problems. But, you also have more solutions than the average normie couple. You have 12 steps that can be applied to yourself, as individuals and worked on in regards to eachother.  Try doing them as a couple and see how that works. Just like staying sober, marriage takes work, it takes compromise, it takes new thinking. I'm looking at my 16th coming up on the 11th of May. I'm dual addiction, he's PTSD, and a survivor of alky parenting. Boy, could I tell you stories of the first years.....but, we did it, and I found that I recognised many things in what Phil posted as having worked for us. Perceptive changes. Sharing. Divorce isn't the only answer. There are also counselors.

Keep us updated? and many blessings, Chris (Wren) PS: check out the post called High Cost, again by Phil, on this page a few topics down. I just read it, and it also applies to marriage...