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To "Let Go" Takes Love




To “let go” does not mean to stop caring,


it means I can’t do it for someone else.


To “ let go” is not to cut myself off, it is


the realization I can’t control another.


To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow


learning from natural consequences.


To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which


means the outcome is not in my hands.


To “let go” is not to try to change or blame


another, it is to make the most of myself.


To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.


To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.


To “let go’ is not to judge, but to allow another


to be a human being.


To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging all the


outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.


To “let go” is not to be protective, it is to


permit another to face reality.


To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept.


To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead


to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.


To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes,


and to cherish myself in it.


To “let go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody


but to try to become what I dream I can be.


To “let go” is to not regret the past,


but to grow and to live for the future.


To “let go” is to fear less and to love more.

- Source unknown


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I'm so glad you put this one up!  It was such a revelation to me when I first saw it a few years ago! So many people do not understand this principle!  I'm going to make some more copies and pass them around!  Letting go does not mean cutting people out of our lives,,  but it means letting them be who they are, and letting God guide their lives instead of us controlling them!


love in recovery,


amanda



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Ah, thank you Phil. The message in this should probably be put on billboards across America. How we assimilate the guilt and responsibility of others! " I can fix it, I can fix it". I did that to myself for years, and couldn't understand why I couldn't have normal relationships with people. I think I was deluded into thinking I was Gaia and could change the course of the world if I could just love them enough. which meant I set myself up for failure a zillion times. Letting go so that people can find their own paths, experience their own journeys--I had to learn to do that the hard way. And yknow, people wouldn't let me go, back in the 70s/80s, and it nearly killed me. Once they did, I had to find my own way, experience my own consequences, and that is what people need to do. Let them go to find their way, build their own foundations....Awesome post, Phil, thanks.. Wren

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Hi Phil,


And I share the thanks for this Post.  Letting Go, No Expectations, Loving freely, this was a major turning point in my Recovery.  Foreign at first, "What?, I mean if I love you, then you need to love me back"  Wrong thinking, and it has changed through the understanding of how this Program works, the 12 Steps, leads us to this understanding. The St. Francis Prayer is a major contributor to this change.


What a relief to Let Go  of the Outcome. So much freedom, didn't understand for a long time. Living with "no expectations" makes us free, and usually turns out to be better than anything I could have hoped for.  Not always, but not going to go to a judgement on that either. It just works.


Have a great day, and thanks for all that you bring to the MIP Board, my friend.


Love and Hugs, Toni



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