"Poor little ol' me." The PLOMS. How often do we succumb to this temptation? Usually it's an excuse for not doing what we know we should do, but do not want to do. Or it's a way to manipulate someone else into doing something for us which we should be doing ourselves. If we spend our time moaning and groaning about how unfairly life is treating us, we do not have much chance of discovering the plan which our Higher Power has for us, nor are we able to carry out God's will.
Trite as it may sound, the cure for self-pity is to think about those who are less fortunate and start counting our blessings. Taking some action, doing some small thing for someone else, perhaps a phone call -- these are constructive steps to take us off the "pity pot."
When we begin to feel sorry for ourselves, let's remember where we came from and what things were like before we found the program.
I measure every Grief I meet With narrow, probing, Eyes-- I wonder if it weighs like Mine-- Or has an easier size. --Emily Dickinson
How can we measure all the grief we feel, and how can we put up with it? Doesn't the Grief of Death weigh a ton or more? Doesn't it stretch out to a month, a year, or longer still? Is the Grief of Failure lighter than the Grief of Despair, but maybe longer? Isn't the Grief of Emptiness the heaviest of all? Whether we try to ignore or make light of it, our grief, like a ton of feathers or a ton of rocks, is all the same to us. This much is sure: if we lock our grief in, it will weigh more on us and lengthen out; if we open our hearts with weeping and words, others will help carry it away.
What old sadness can I let go of by sharing it today?
Thanks! I am not hung over today! Thanks! Due to rain I can't work today...thanks, _I can post with you guys today! Thanks! I can catch up on spring cleaning! Thanks. I have food. I am indoors, out of the rain. Thanks! I have music! I have clean clothes! I have books, and the internet. My rent is paid. I am fairly healthy. Thanks! I can think, (with what brain cells I have left- amazing! ) Thanks! I have meditations and prayer. I have a phone. I have a HP that works in my life. Thanks! I have everything I need!!!!!! Thanks!Thanks!Thanks! -and thanks for reminding me! -paul
I canot be in self pity and graditude at the same time''