"When alcoholism strikes, very unnatural situations may develop which work against marriage partnership and compatiible union. If the man is affected, the wife must become the head of the house, often the breadwinner. As matters get worse, the husband becomes a sick and irresponsible child who needs to be looked after and extricated from endless scrapes and impasses. Very gradually, usually without any realization of the fact, the wife is forced to become the mother of an erring boy, and the alcoholic alternately loves and hates her maternal care.
Under the influence of AA's Twelve Steps, these situations are often set right.
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Whether the family goes on a spiritual basis or not, the alcoholic member has to if he would recover. The others must be convinced of his new status beyond the shadow of a doubt. Seeing is believing to most families who have lived with a drinker.
1. 12X12, pp. 117 -118
2. BB p 135
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do your best and God does the rest, a step at a time
wow, amanda, i had to be my "mom's mom" trying to take care of her, keep her sober, and NEVER getting MY needs met.....i hated/resented her and also becuz for a bottle of booze , she would enable my perp....yep, took a LOT of work to come to the point where i could release her to God and not hate her anymore.....this program helped me stop hating her and letting her Go (she is dead now) but dead or alive, the memories of thier stuff can mess one up for YEARS............thanks for gr8 share, friends in recovery, rosie
