Hi, my husband is a very nice person. But he changes completely when he gets drunk. He doesn't care about me and my children. I am planning to take him to an alcohol addiction program ( http://www.canadadrugrehab.ca/British-Columbia-Alcohol-Drug-Rehab-Programs.html ) in Edmonton. He has also agreed to come with me for the treatment. Is there anything in special that I need to note before taking him to a rehab? Please give some genuine replies and suggestions.
Are you in need of treatment as well??? .... I think it may be a good thing if y'all go to treatment together however, treatment usually doesn't work unless one chooses, for themselves, that they WANT it ... Generally, we come to see that drink'n doesn't work any more and we see the need to 'change' ... treatment can open that door to the change we need in our lives, but only if we, personally, decide we want it ... ... ... The day we wake up and see that to continue drink'n only serves to make our situations worse, never better, we become 'open' to the change needed for us to enjoy life ...
I pray that you and your husband will approach recovery with the right 'frame of mind' ... Yes, do it for each other, do it for the kids, do it for your friends, but most of all, you need to do it for yourself ... you cannot work the program for your husband, nor can he do it for you, it must be worked separately for each of you ...
Love you guys and God Bless, Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
Have you heard of the program called Alanon? It is a separate program from Alcoholics Anonymous and it is intended to help the family and friends of the alcoholic. There are people there who have been through everything you are now facing and they can offer you their experience, strength and hope.
Dealing with someone else's alcoholism is not something that can be done on our own, just based on personal intuition and judgement, because the most effective ways to deal with alcoholism are often very counter-intuitive, and it is not uncommon for well meaning spouses and family members to actually make things worse just because they do not have the experience and background for knowing the best way to handle things. So I strongly encourage you to find some meetings of Alanon near you, and go there on your own, without your husband, as soon as possible.
If you need help locating Alanon meetings, just ask.
