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NN59


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Hi Everyone,

 

This is my first post on this site.  I've been an alcoholic for over 40 years. I tried everything from counselling to hypnosis, etc. and just considered myself a stressed out accountant who drank to get rid of the stress.  When it got to a litre of vodka a day and beers and wine, I realised I could be an alcoholic (!).  I've always avoided AA due to the religious aspect (religion and me don't go together well, as I was an altar boy in the 70's - nuff said) but I went and was so pleasantly surprised!  I quickly became dry and was so for 3 months, then I relapsed.  2 months later I lost my job (not drink related) and our only source of income vanished.  I've now got another job, but it won't last as the company is about to fold, but I've now been drinking heavily again for 3 months, even though I thought we were financially secure.  I've had loads of support from AA who I lie to about how much I'm drinking, but they obviously know as They were the same as me.  Sorry for the drone - anyone have any helpful suggestions please? Yours in AA, Nigel

 



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Pythonpappy


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Welcome to MIP Nigel, ...

At least you came to find out that AA is NOT a religious group ... religion has noth'n to do with our program, but 'spirituality' has everything to do with our recovery ... it is developed deep within as we work the program ...

Yep, it's damn near impossible to successfully 'lie' to a 'seasoned' AA'r about your drink'n ... the older guys/gals have seen it all and 'been there, done that' kinda thing ... it's one of the reasons the BB made mention of the fact that for this to work, one must apply 'TOTAL HONESTY' when in recovery, else you're only cheat'n yourself from getting well ... and you have to realize you're not just hurt'n yourself(as I always thought), but your hurt'n your friends and family as well ...

'Helpful Suggestions' ???? ... YOU have to make one simple DECISION ... you want to get better??? ... or get worse??? ... Go one frick'n day without a drink, get to a meet'n ... reread the AA Big Book and get to work ... we cannot do it for you ... you have the answer to recovery, in go'n to meet'ns ... on a regular basis ... if you're not WILLING to do that, there is very little hope for your recovery and happiness for the foreseeable future ...

I suggest your start by 'praying' for guidance to 'make the right decision' ... to whomever you consider to be your 'Higher Power' ...



Love ya man and God Bless,
Pappy



-- Edited by Pythonpappy on Friday 14th of October 2016 11:50:11 AM

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jhamlett


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I'd recommend getting a sponsor and have that person take you through the steps.

Attending meetings and enjoying the fellowship of other people with the same problem is quite a relief, unfortunately it isn't a long term solution in and of itself.

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chris


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You know what you have to do, you did it before. Go to AA, follow directions, get a sponsor, work the program. I'm not religious either, makes no difference. Good luck.

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Welcome Nigel . I had heaps of things , come to me easy . And it all slipped through my fingers.

I had the house , the car , a Great job , a divorce , another pretty lady . When I got sober . I walked away from them all.

Why . To stay sober . Because if I was not sober . None of these things meant much to me , because I could get what I wanted.

Yes . When I hit bottom . I knew I Needed AA & sobriety . But did I "want it" . Yes to start with . I got "simple & easy" mixed up.

Until I worked it out , sometimes , simple is NOT easy . BUT . I Had to do what I did to stay sober . I left the pretty lady , walked

away from her , the house & the car & within 6mths left my job . That was over 30yrs ago Nigel . And yes . I too , thought .

I can't do this . I quickly learned it was not can't , it was . I won't or don't want to . You see Nigel , being an alcoholic . I had all

my wiring hooked up wrong . Like , I would go for a drink or a couple of drinks & come home after 20 , then have more at home.

Yes , I married another pretty lady , had a child , have a nice 4x4 & rv ,bought a property & now retired & travel , here in Aussie

& overseas . But I KNOW I would Lose the lot if I were not sober . Yes . I Still go to Regular meetings here & OS . And Yes . I

Have seen millionaires & a billionaire go broke after they picked up "That fatal 1st drink" . Why would I be not different .

That may seem scary Nigel . Working the steps of AA . Keeps us from those fears.

Today I am Willing . Not to pick up the 1st drink.



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Nigel, the steps are not a part of the program, they are the program.

Meetings, smoke breaks, coffee shops, gatherings, is the Fellowship of AA.

 

You dried up because moderate drinkers stayed in AA and the message has been watered down to JUST DON'T DRINK AND GO TO MEETINGS because it worked for them.

If you believe you are the real McCoy, try the program the next time you step foot in the rooms. Ask to buy a book.



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