Reaching out for help

Robert · MIP Old Timer

Reaching out for help

amanda2u2 · MIP Old Timer

I have cabin fever too. so glad the weather is more springlike so I can go outside and get some sun. Can you putter around a yard? I'm glad you're going to a meeting. Do you have some of the literaature to read? It helps me a lot to read AA literature, and the other programs' stuff too, to get some better thoughts than what occur naturally to me. Like Rick will be putting up a thought for the day soon. Ralph Marston's site is a pretty good one,,, and coping.org is good too. Can surf around those to tap into some positive thinking.

God bless you,

amanda

Phil · MIP Old Timer

Morning Rob...

Well...I know the feeling buddy...

Being alone is an ok thing..but when these voices start talking in my head..and I start talking back..its time for action.:)

Laundry..wash floors..do windows...read AA stuff..play on here..crank up the tunes..and drive the neighbours nuts..

Rent a movie..go for a walk...call other AA members and see how theyre doin...

Paint the house...paint someone elses house...chase the cat..chase someone elses cat....

Call 911 and ask them where I live...

Go to Walmart..take a can of tomato juice...and make a trail to the washroom..

Go downtown with a coffee cup...stand on the corner..with a big sign that says "Please give generously"

Or with a sign that says..."Please Help Me...Im not all here" and watch everybody disappear

You have a good day Bud.....

Always something to do..to fill in the time...:)

Youre not alone...

Rick · MIP Old Timer

Didn't have time to read the other replies. Make some Phone calls, keep busy, Go out if possible.

Good luck Gotta run Rick

amanda2u2 · MIP Old Timer

you too funny, Phil. anyway,, we all gave him enough good ideas to keep him busy for awhile. he can help me paint my apartment too.

God bless you all,

amanda

Robert · MIP Old Timer

"Ralph Marston's site is a pretty good one,,, and coping.org is good too. Can surf around those to tap into some positive thinking. " have you got the web address for these as I would benifit from looking at them. I am not a great googler!

Rob. PS I have made the first step towards applying for a uni course today.

Robert · MIP Old Timer

I am a little frightened ,I am wanting to apply for a uni course. but the only referee I can realistically use is work, I am off work with a bad back and scared that they will give me a bad reference.

Rob

amanda2u2 · MIP Old Timer

http://www.coping.org see the parents and adults toolboxes

http://www.greatday.com/motivate/ explore the menu on the left

amanda

Robert · MIP Old Timer

I am sure glad I am going to a meet as I am not feeling well at all in my head. I have started panicing about jobs!

i have not got a clue what to do with my life and I could do with some advice! I need a trade really and thats why I wanted to uni.

amanda2u2 · MIP Old Timer

What does 'uni' mean? Does it mean university? or is it a particular place?

We can't give you advise like that, Robert. Your life is between you and God. Sometimes the support of us peers in AA is not enough and we need to see a professional counselor face2face. Are you considering that?

Well, look.. the day is half over already. I have an appointment in a bit, and need to get ready to go to that. I'll see you later on, when I get back. It'll be good for you to start the Steps as soon as possible. There should be the "12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book and the Big Book at the meeting to get you started.

love in recovery,

amanda

Toni Baloney · MIP Old Timer

Hi Robert,

Sounds like you have been given a lot of good advice.

What works for me when I am more or less "trapped indoors" , and it sounds like you are not able to go for a walk, ? right.

What I try to do, when faced with Cabin Fever, is get into the Quiet Part of it, it can feel better for me, to work on shutting down my thoughts with an excellent CD I have called "The Healing Journey, by Emmitt Miller, Phd. I have used this tape for over 25 years, had to replace it a few times, but now it is on CD. You can purchase it thru Amazon.com. or directly from their Website, Emmitt Miller.org. Went thru Bilateral Mastectomy and Reconstruction 20 years ago, using that tape, kind of hypnotized myself with it, and can tell you from recall, I did go thru it, without FEAR. A memory I will never forget. Asked God to Please Stay right with me, that was the real Key. There is a part of the Tape that introduces a place for Prayer.

Quieting my mind, and allowing the silence to be o.k. can and does feel so much better for me when my thoughts are not on over-drive.

And Laying down, and doing deep, deep, circular breathing can have the same (almost) affect. Try focusing on the Breathing, try to ignore the thinking, close your mouth, breathing deep into your abdomin thru you nose, when you feel all the air inside you, slowly blow it out thru you mouth. Repeat, two or three times. This was an exercise that was taught to me, to offset panic, and it really does work for me. Silence, aloneness, try to find the Peace in that. Silence can be a wonderful place to Pray, like it is described in the Bible, "going into that Secret Closet, and Praying from that Place". Can be very soothing. The main thing for me is to stay with the "What is, IS". Surrendering to whatever I are fighting, in my head, works for me.

Thats just my 2 cents here. hope you are not in a lot pain. Bless you.

Hugs, Toni

-- Edited by Toni Baloney at 12:04, 2006-03-15

Phil · MIP Old Timer

Crossroads....

Decisions....

Fear of making the wrong one....

Fear of making the right one....

What do I want to do....

Buddy....Im in the same boat some days...health..back...etc..

The answers will come if we just easy does it..and sit back..and wait for them..and just try to do the next right thing..

I have opportunities on the East Coast of Canada...and freinds there say..Go for it....

I have other opportunities...in the USA..comming up...and freinds there..that say go for it...

The Higher Power..will take care of it...and guide one...if we let Him...

We just try to do the next right thing...in slow mode...

I hafta rely on that Higher Power (as I understand Him)

I try to run my own show..with all ahead full...self will...It goes for a crap every time...

Baby steps....

Im an Alky..I want do do this right NOW!! and THIS is the way its going to be...Kaboom!! ...conclusion? Shit Pile...

Some days I hafta just stand outside the whole picture..lookin in...

The answers will come...walk through the fear...one step at a time..

soberdrunk · MIP Old Timer

When ever I hear someone talk about cabin fever I immediately equate that to the movie The Shining. I don't know if that helps or not. Laugh!!! Well helpfully your not that far gone. I'm a big Stephen King fan by the way. Reading is a good way to get myself back sane again. Keep posting.

Robert · MIP Old Timer

I am just about ready to hit the sack, I have been to a meeting which was a great experience. I am just in a place of fear at the moment and it is all centred on my job.

I am off work with a bad back and really want out. but I feel like I have no escape or experience to move elsewhere.

recovering jb · Senior Member

hey robert-
maybe you could go back to school, or get an IT certification or something? just think of your interests and what you enjoy- im working on doing the same thing- in the meantime, enjoy being sober-

jb

Robert · MIP Old Timer

Hi there., the thing is I have done lots of college courses but not got a job from it. I was thinking something like plumbing or electrician. but not that as I am not good with my hands

Rob

soberdrunk · MIP Old Timer

Hang in there Rob. Something good will come around your way. One thing I keep doing is telling myself things are going to get better, over and over I tell myself this. I know for me as long as I take some direction from someone I trust things do get better. I hope you can find someone like this at an AA meeting. Great job on hitting a meeting. Another truth is that if you stick around AA you will here someone talk about what they are or have been through and it will be exactly what you are dealing with. It's funny how things like that happen. You're not alone, things will change.

Justin S.