This is just a quick note, but I wanted to say that with this annoying stiff neck, and soreness, I was letting it start to take over how my day was going to go.
And I was looking at it from a completly different prespective this morning, payed no attention to it, and Laugh directly at it. Well something good happened, it has minimized itself down to its right size, its only a few little muscles and discs in my neck.
I am 62 years young, and once when I was watch Ophra, many years ago, there were 3 women of the show that were in there 70s, they looked like they were in their 50s, and she was asking them to share there secrets of staying so young.
The first woman said she ate 6 green apples everyday of her life. ??? Could not relate to that one.
The other talked about Yoga, and all kinds of new age music and new age foods??? Could not relate to that either.
The third, simply said, it is about how she preceives her self, and she communicates in the world, has never talked about another to another, keeping all relationships strickly one to one. And her number one secret was that she NEVER, EVER talked to anyone about Body Parts.
Loved that One, and could relate, and with that I want to take back all that I have mentioned to the board about my physical pain. Can I do that? Hope so, maybe I go back and erase them all, just kidding.
My new Philsophy, starting today, with my Higher Power is to ask Him to help remember to just Laugh at Life, when those Lemon trucks are headed for my house, go tell the driver, he's got the wrong house! Could work.
Enough of my silly little self today, hope everyone is having a happy Joyous, and Free day this Saturday.
we can choose our responses to life: laugh or cry...I'd rather laugh. When I catch myself obsessing about some bad thing (real or imaginary) I can sit back and have a chuckle about that part of my brain/personality that keeps harping on it. It goes along with some buddhist things I've read: things are not good or bad...they just ARE. We put a label on it (good or bad). Sometimes things are just a challenge for us to work past.
well,,, my perspective is... I'm coming from a different place. I am learning how to acknowledge my pain and my needs. I was taught to be in denial of them,, as if I never had a negative thought or any unfulfilled need. My parents couldn't deal with anyone else's needs. So I usually stuff them,, and that is a big reason for my drinking... if I have a bad feeling or a real strong need,, just drink it away,, or,, I turn into "Doris Day", or try to be real stoic . I shared my pain yesterday,, and am not sorry,,,, have to acknowledge it to be able to work through it. But,, I agree with you in so far as not to get 'stuck' in it. If we get stuck in it, then that is a real depression. There is also the issue of what do we do when we acknowledge it? I used to fight it. That makes us all adrenalized and tightens muscles and keeps us stressed. I'm trying to acknowledge it and work through it to the other side (as someone put it). It seems to have worked for me. I would never ask for help,, no use,, and now I'm learning to ask,,, ask God, and share it with someone. Some people aren't into helping others,,, but God provided 3 people to come help me,, and you all to support me spiritually. amazing. That's part of why this doctor is putting me through some changes,,, I'm not comfy letting people close enough to help me,, cuz that makes me vulnerable to letting them hurt me also.
For my neck pain,, sometimes I use heat. I got a real good executive leather massage chair here at my desk. Just turn it on while I'm typing here. ahhhhh
right now I am listening to some praise and worship music,,, not too loud though.
love in recovery,
amanda
-- Edited by amanda2u2 at 19:52, 2006-03-11
-- Edited by amanda2u2 at 19:55, 2006-03-11
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And I read somewhere that the body/brain doesn't differentiate between a heartfelt smile and one that you force yourself to have. The brain releases feel good endorphins into your system regardless! So for the past few weeks I have been practicing to smile, even when cicumstances don't seem to warrant it. It is working. More people are connecting with me daily. It's so easy! -Paul
That is really good news, I actually practiced it last night, or rather the middle of the night.
I had been waking up at around 4:00, brain on over-drive, unable to return to sleep, well last night I somehow, reversed it, with just what you had written about, about the endorphins not differenciating a smile. I woke, got up for about 45 seconds, went back to bed, looked at my thought processes running around. Forced a big smile on my face, asked God to help me return to sleep, WoW! next thing I knew, it was 8;30, waking up to a friendly phone call.
I was smiling at what I thought was whatever it was that was keeping my mind awake. Just smiling at it worked. No thoughts about it, just the smile worked, instantaneously. I am going to practice that one again, that is for sure. Thank you for that insight.
. I shared my pain yesterday,, and am not sorry,,,, have to acknowledge it to be able to work through it. But,, I agree with you in so far as not to get 'stuck' in it. If we get stuck in it, then that is a real depression. There is also the issue of what do we do when we acknowledge it? I used to fight it. That makes us all adrenalized and tightens muscles and keeps us stressed. I'm trying to acknowledge it and work through it to the other side (as someone put it). It seems to have worked for me. I would never ask for help,, no use,, and now I'm learning to ask,,, ask God, and share it with someone. Some people aren't into helping others,,, but God provided 3 people to come help me,, and you all to support me spiritually. amazing. That's part of why this doctor is putting me through some changes,,, I'm not comfy letting people close enough to help me,, cuz that makes me vulnerable to letting them hurt me also. 