We don't need to announce our judgments and opinions to the world or to the people in our life's. We don't need to debate any issue about anything with anyone. Provided we know our own truth and find it to be a truth by which we can live our own lives. We should be willing to help others find their own truth. Helping another find their own truth does not mean selling our truth to them or attempting to force ours upon them.
As we enter and walk down the road of recovery and discovery, we are going to develop some new and meaningful ideas about ourselves and the world around us. With these new ideas we will establish new morals, values, standards, convictions, principals, and beliefs. We shall not want to leave them up for negotiation, nor will we want to compromise them by entertaining ideas or behaviors that are not consistent with the quality of our recoveries. We have spent our life's vaselating back and forth, leaving our souls up for negotiation and compromising most anything we ever stood for. Today we can own our own truths and stand by them. We can let others find and have their own truths without attempting to destroy theirs with ours.
Now, there are some who would say that this goes against the idea of open-mindedness. However, once open-mindedness is truly understood we can see that it just isn't so. We can remain open minded while having our own ideas, by remaining compassionate, sensitive, and understanding to those around us, that have established and live by different ideas. We can live and let live. We allow ourselves the freedom to be exactly who we are and what we are. We can allow others to be exactly who and what they are.
It's important to remember that God isn't done with any of us yet. That we are all in the process of having more revealed. What He may have revealed to you or I He may not be ready to reveal to any one else just yet, and it is His job to reveal the truth by which each individual should live, not our job.
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Written by John F.
7/22/94
Acceptance
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life —unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake.
*See page 449 in the 3rd edition or page 417 in the 4th edition.*