Because you're not what I would have you be, I blind myself to who, in truth, you are. --Madeleine L'Engle
Sometimes we expect far too much of the people around us, and because no one can ever live up to those expectations, we are almost always disappointed. But wouldn't it be better if we just let go, and let people be who they are? Then we'd be able to see them as they are--with all their beauty and goodness in which we take joy, and with all their faults which we can also see in ourselves.
When we have put someone up on a pedestal, sculpturing them to fit our needs and desires by smoothing out the rough edges and creating new curves here and there, we cannot see the real person underneath our work. All we see is the illusion we have created. That is denying the person's real identity and is disrespectful. It's much better for our friends and for ourselves if we drop our expectations and illusions, and accept them all just the way they are.
What unfair expectations do I have of others? ------------
Taking Care of Ourselves Emotionally
What does it mean to take care of myself emotionally? I recognize when I'm feeling angry, and I accept that feeling without shame or blame.
I recognize when I'm feeling hurt, and I accept those feelings without attempting to punish the source of my pain. I recognize and feel fear when that emotion presents itself.
I allow myself to feel happiness, joy, and love when those emotions are available. Taking care of myself means I've made a decision that it's okay to feel.
Taking care of my emotions means I allow myself to stay with the feeling until it's time to release it and go on to the next one.
I recognize that sometimes my feelings can help point me toward reality, but sometimes my feelings are deceptive. They are important, but I do not have to let them control me. I can feel, and think too.
I talk to people about my feelings when that's appropriate and safe.
I reach out for help or guidance if I get stuck in a particular emotion.
I'm open to the lessons my emotions may be trying to teach me. After I feel, accept, and release the feeling, I ask myself what it is I want or need to do to take care of myself.
Taking care of myself emotionally means I value, treasure, explore, and cherish the emotional part of myself.
Today, I will take care of myself emotionally. I will be open to, and accepting of, the emotional part of myself and other people. I will strive for balance by combining emotions with reason, but I will not allow intellect to push the emotional part of myself away.
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Morning Chris..They actually get snow in Texas?? Wow. Ive been watching too many western movies...:) Always thought it was extremely hot all year round, there.....so...when it snows? the horses change from horse shoes.. to snow shoes?? hahaha
Got enough oil down there...just light a match...itll warm up the whole state. :)
North of Niagara Falls..its a balmy 28....2 ft of snow on the ground...and after 2 days from blizzard hell...its actually settled down..and fairly calm..for the moment..
Quite a change from the 90 and 95s from 4 months ago...
However..we take what we get ehh?? Keep Smilin!!
One day at a time.
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Hope everyone has a great sober day! Chris it's not snowing in my part of TX yet but the wind is blowing and it is COLD!!! Suppose to be snowing in the morning.
Phil have you ever seen a tumbleweed ?? Just wonderin'?
Yes---I do know what tumble weed is...cant say, as Ive actually seen them for real...but still get those western movies...where it shows tumbleweed...rolling across the plains...with the help of a strong breeze.
Happy Trails To Youuu..:)
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And you have a good day...tooo. Jeannie..
If youre a Canadian? Its strongly suggested that one uses the word "Ehhh" in their vocabulary
Im goin south to warmer climates..eventually...so am practicing....the "Ya'll" thing. lol
Later
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Going south - and give up the hundred degree hot, sticky summers, and breaking out in a sweat just to breath? The cold winter nights where you curl up beside the fire with your other half when the hydro is out for twelve hours or more and all the roads are closed - so you can't go anywhere ( not even across the road because you can't see that far for the snow storm)? Give up the snow boots, snow shoes, skies, winter coats, gloves, mitts and of coarse the toque. Boy, you sure won't have much of a wardrobe left - just shorts, shoes and socks.
Sure going to miss you.
EEHH!!
Jeannie
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