This is my first post to this message board. I just joined yesterday. I don't want to drink anymore. That's what I say every morning. But as the day passes on, I fail and give in to the drinks, to comfort me. But it's always a false comfort, but, it's all I feel I have. I want to quit but always fall and fail. Any input would be appreciated.
Gotta not drink the first one !! Post here and find An AA meeting and go to it.
This is the only way I can stay stopped. Tried many times on my own, but it never lasts to long. This is a good site with lots of good people who care and have been right where u are at.
It's the first drink that gets ya. Put it down for today and do the same thing tomorrow.
Keep in touch as much as you possibly can with others who share our "disease", and are also taking "one day at a time". I know that is what will help me.
If you are fortunate enough to have regular AA meetings in your area, go to as many as you can, even if you think it is not helping. I fell out of step after years of non-attendance. I am not going to let that happen again.
Also, don't be afraid of that first meeting. You will find the other folks there are quite accepting. And, no one is going to put you in a corner and force you to tell your life story. However, when you do feel like talking, they are ready to listen.
Welcome, You are in the right place. Like Rick said, don't pick up that first drink today, if you already have you can start over right now. Before you know it you'll have 24 hours sober.Dan,is right get to an AA meeting.
I'm glad you found us, keep posting , you will get a lot of support here.Keep it simple.
i was very much like you and always picked up anyway .till i found aa and eaa. found that one day at a time. turns into weeks and then months. as we drink one day at a time time adds up
into years of drinking!so does soberityone day at a time. god bless u wagon
i learned to never say never. If i keep telling myself i will fail, i'm a failure...i fail.
thinking negative keeps us weak
thinking positive gives us strength
tell yourself today
i am worthwhile
i am precious
i am beautiful
cause you are
i get through the day by concentrating on the positive, not picking up that dreadful first drink
i go to AA cause they saved my life, they teach me how to live without booze, one day at a time. How to rely on others for support when i need it and even when i don't. How to look inside myself for the answers that are there. To surrender to the 'disease' and accept myself and others. Change starts within and nothin' changes if nothin' changes!
I had a couple of bottoms myself, today when i stay in the here and now, this moment and tell myself i am ok it seems the next minute i'm ok too.
you don't HAVE to drink anymore, you are not alone
Hi, Nothing more to add, it's been said by everyone else. You will get good advice here, the people are great. Welcome to recovery, it's good to have you here.
Honestly, it will get easier given time.
Bye for now.
Chris.
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I don't want to drink anymore. That's what I say every morning. But as the day passes on, I fail and give in to the drinks ...
I had that very same deal, klynnenicholas. I got to where I wanted to *never* ever drink ever again, but I always ended up going right back to it anyway, and usually for that "comfort" you have mentioned. Sobriety and reality were just too much for me to handle, and at my very best, I never lasted for more than a couple of days.
Have you ever heard of "Alcoholics Anonymous", the "Big Book"? Here is that very same deal clearly shared on page 34:
"As we look back, we feel we had gone on drinking many years beyond the point where we could quit on our will power. If anyone questions whether he has entered this dangerous area, let him try leaving liquor alone for one year. If he is a real alcoholic and very far advanced, there is scant chance of success. In the early days of our drinking we occasionally remained sober for a year or more, becoming serious drinkers again later. Though you may be able to stop for a considerable period, you may yet be a potential alcoholic. We think few, to whom this book will appeal, can stay dry anything like a year. Some will be drunk the day after making their resolutions; most of them within a few weeks.
"For those who are unable to drink moderately the question is how to stop altogether. We are assuming, of course, that the reader desires to stop. Whether such a person can quit upon a nonspiritual basis depends upon the extent to which he has already lost the power to choose whether he will drink or not. Many of us felt that we had plenty of character. There was a tremendous urge to cease forever. Yet we found it impossible. This is the baffling feature of alcoholism as we know it - this utter inability to leave it alone, no matter how great the necessity or the wish."
You are not going to hear much about that kind of problem in today's A.A. Instead, many people are going to try to convince you that you, like they claim for themselves, actually can quit for good by just not drinking one-day-at-a-time.
Maybe so for some of them -- watch how many end up drinking again -- but for some of us, that is just not possible. Personally, I tried the one-day-at-a-time thing long before I had ever even heard of A.A., and I came here because I could *not* do that.
There is a way to permanently recover from chronic alcoholism, klynnenicholas, and you can find out more about that from "Alcoholics Anonymous", the book.
Write to me if you would like some help ...
leejosepho@hotmail.com
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