I received a call this morning from my (ex) husband's sister. He passed away in his sleep this morning. I wasn't expecting it as my son and I had went to visit him in the nursing a week and a 1/2 ago and the nurse said it would probably be another 4 or 5 months before he'd go into the coma stage. I choose not to pull my son out of school to break the news to him. I have to go home tonight, look my son in the face and tell him that his father died. It breaks my heart.
The comfort I have is that he seemed to have died peacefully. And also the visit we had was a good one. He remembered memories we had, he told us he loved us, we got hugs and kisses and even got to see him smile and laugh. We assured him we loved him too. He told me he was going to make it back up to my house for a visit again. I was caressing his face and told him he was a good man. He took his energy to look up at me and asked "am I?". I told him yes he was that he had an addiction that he just couldn't seem to beat but that it did not make him a bad person. I was able to take a few pictures of him laughing with his son. I will treasure this visit with all my heart as we got to tell him how much we loved him.
Anyway I just wanted to update you as I have written a few times talking about him.
He's in a better place where his struggle is over. I have to think of it that way or it hurts way too much. We had a couple of saying with him the past several months and I hope it's what he is doing......."keep smilin' and "Don't worry, Be happy!"
I believe in God, and I believe that He gives us every chance to work things out before we go to our heavenly home. I have worked in a hospital and in hospice care and I have seen how God works during the time of preparing to die. It looks like your husband did resolve things as best he could and that you all got things worked out enough to be at peace,,, and it looks to me like he made it to his heavenly home. God bless you all. I will pray for your son, as it will be hardest on him, but he can make it, knowing that his dad is watching and praying from above, like an angel.
love in recovery,
amanda
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Lady, please accept my heartfelt sympathy for you and your son. May God bless you and your son with all the strength and courage you both need to get through such a heartbreaking time. I don't handle death as courageously as I pray for others to do, and so I apologize if my words sound clumsy . I'll be saying prayers for your ex-hubby to know eternal peace and serenity above in God's almighty presence.
Thank you for sharing with us and I hope you'll keep coming back to let us know how you're doing. We're here for you.
Lady Ladonna,I too want to offer my condolences,I am praying for you all. I will continue to pray in the days coming up for your son. My ex-husband passed away when our daughter was18,he too was a recovering alcoholic. My daughter didn't know him well and she seems so untouched by it all, but I see the scars.
I am praying for love,peace, serenity, strength, and God's presence to be with you both at this time.
I extend my deepest sympathy to you and your son at this difficult time. May your God assist you in finding the strength you need.
My prayers are for you tonight.
Chris.
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