To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself. To let go is not to care for, but to care about. To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive. To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies. To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality. To let go is not to deny, but to accept. To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it. To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be. To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
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Live each day as if it were your last...because tomorrow?
It might be.
Thanks Phil... Life's tests!!!! Having a sixteen year old daughter!!!!! Lani
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
We're all in the same sinking boat!!!!! I have to say, kids are awesome but I agree Phil, it is hard to keep our mouths shut at times. We know what is best for them, heck we learned it from our parents!!! Who we never listened to at that age!!! It just never ends!!
My daughter has her license. We paid for the first month of insurance with the agreement that she gets a job and brings up her grades. Hasnt gotten a job and we'll see about the grades, but EVERYDAY, she asks the same question re" driving somewhere! I think she thinks were gonna give in! NOT!! Then she gets all bitchy cuz we are sticking to our guns!!!! Oh well....
Im sure its just the beginning...Cant wait to see the saga unfold with my 15 yr old boy!!!!
Have a great day! Lani
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
For me: 20, 22, 24...... Watched my parents struggle with issues and fret over each of us at varying times. (Most recently a sister 50.) Conclusion.....the "head" is parenting consistently and must "listen" to the "heart". And often, yes, it is that we must "let go" and allow them their own choices. WHEW!!! ....... Yesterday, in one conversation, was told of about a friend diagnosed with cancer (in serveral places liver and pancreas). Son did not miss a beat as he went on to say he was watching "dad". He's having problems with his leg....last time a heart attack. Still reeling from the first tidbit...... I simply told son his dad hasn't taken care of himself....he refused to take blood thinner and other meds citing "no money" and it would help his health tremendously to stop drinking. It is the alcohol that has caused alot of his problems. I braced myself for ususal thrashing. He bypassed it and went straight to "gotta get going.... big 40th birthday bash at the tavern tonight. Don't want to miss it." Tone of the first item was "as a matter of fact"/almost emotionless, the second "concern" and the third "hear ya, gonna life my life as I choose". Like Phil said......wanted to get right in there and scream a litany..... The "head" was wanting urging the tongue to speak, however, "heart" took over and said "let go......youv'e been there and done that.....didn't work!" After he left, allowed myself to be sad over it all. I have no control over any of it so for me the best solution was to have a little talk with HP/God. Life sure is easier in OUR dreams/plans! LOL
