Hi, well I first just checked in after a long while, then I decided to ask for some help from you.
I have a very dear friend, very close to her, and she and her husband are going through what I think so many people are going through, Home Foreclosure.
My problem, is I Pray so hard for them, try so hard to let go and Let God, but I wake up worried, they have three children in their teens, one of the boys has Muscular Dystrophy, and they do not know where they will even be living.
Her husband changed jobs, and that was the beginning of what she describes as sort of Financial ruin for them, no money for there House payment, or Jeep, and on and on.
I am Sober, and that is what counts, have to remember that, thought i was really into Coda stuff not being so bad.
This is going on so much in this country, it just came so close to home, to see someone you love, going through this, it is hard, and I think that it what i need to understand, I cannot make things better for them, Control Issues?? That has crossed my mind. I will miss them so much if they leave the State of California, which is their plan, to go live with an inlaw, for as long as they can.
Read Carol's topic of Detachment, and it helped, but here I sit worried. Worry is a useless emotion, I know that, it does not solve anything. only puts our nerves in a knotted mess.
Thanks for reading this, and any advice here would be greatly appreciated.
My sponsor reminds me often that I can't have fear and faith at the same time.
When I find myself slipping into worry mode, I realize I am in the process of edging God out because I don't trust him enough to hand it over to him and leave it with him.
Just my two cents :)
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while it may be tough to watch, you can learn and accept the gratitude that it's not happening to you. A lot of people got in over their heads with this real estate stuff. Hopefully it'll be a lesson for us all. My home is paid for but now and then my ego tells me I should have a bigger home! That's when I tell myself to STFU and be grateful with the home that you (I) have. Are you affected by all the fires out there?
Good to meet you, I was a participant for a while here, then who knows why, just needed a break.
And you are right, it is just tough to watch. Very tough. But it is what it is.
I live on the Coast, so the fires did not come this close, but it was pretty scary.
It affected everyone in this area, air was a brown grey for a week, everyone stayed inside, with AC on, and TODAY, it is raining Cats and Dogs, I swear it feels just like gold falling from the sky. haha.
Cannot remember when I enjoyed the sound of rain falling. and it is going to rain all day!!!! Just hope that does not mean land slides for the folks on the hills in the Eastern part of the county.
Would love to pack up and move home, I am from the San Francisco Bay area, and with this Real Estate market, and the slump we are ALL going through, moving is not an option.
So just make do with what is. As far as my dear friend and what she is going through, I just feel for her, but as you said, it involves getting in over our heads, and that reminds me, of simple gratitude, just like you, for what I have, and want for nothing. There is a Zen Montra, that goes, I want or need nothing, and when I breath into that one, it is really so calming.
Thanks for the response, and once again, glad to meet you.
