My granny would have labeled it "ugly" & then she'd say "God don't like ugly" ..It was silly, petty and childish..But it's buggin the crap outta me. I'd readily call my sponsor but she's out of town this week..... so, ya'll get ready laugh. There are soooo many other things soooo much more important....But, gotta get it off my chest........
I have a coffee mug that belongs to my John. It has his place of work printed on it and for whatever reason it's 'special' to me.....About a year ago I took it to my HG's clubhouse and put it on a hook next to all the others. I probably only really even use it on Sunday mornings. I'm not much of a coffee drinker after about 10am - sometimes but not often.....So, this 30ish yr old woman who's been in my HG about 5 - 7 months now and never attends the Sunday morning F2F, happened to be there this past Sunday morning. She shared something during the meet that helped me a lot, so after, I followed her into the kitchen to say thanks and realized she had my cup. No biggie, till I said "that's my cup" and I wasn't mean or anything about it, I just made the statement I thought it was gone and was happy it wasn't. Welllllll....She got a bit bent outta shape and exclaimed "This is MY cup!" So I politely told her it was Johns', yada, yada. She then said "I been using this cup as long as I've been here". I said Great and went about my business.....At yesterday's noon meet she had my cup again! For whatever reason it bugged the living crap outta me! I thought about it off and on the afternoon and even lieing in bed.....Then, I had a 'drunk dream" that almost floored me.... Got thru all that, went about my day. So at the noon today, she wasn't there, and I took my mug! I snuck it outta the clubhouse like I was stealing! Now, I feel like I did steal it! And it's mine....and for childish, stomp my feet on the floor reasons, I don't want her using my cup when I'm there!!!!!
I've just decided that my drunk dream means something is lacking or amiss in my program .......and acting like a baby about a friggin' coffee mug is not a good way to work a program either!
Like I said, go ahead and laugh. Seems REALLY petty (and boring compared to the post below me!!!)
ES&H? Please.... I certainly can't share this one in a f2f and my sponsor won't be back till Saturday.
I feel like I'm 10 and got caught with my hand in the cookie jar
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Well done, Jen. I think you've done the totally right thing by taking it back. I know it's special to you & I think you left it there on faith that nothing would happen to it & to bring something meaningful to you to your HG hang~out. Luckily for you & John it didn't get broken. I dread to think how you would have been if that had happened! lol Don't feel bad. Maybe you feel bad that you had it there in the first place putting yourself into a position to be hurt ;) All's well that ends well. Tell your new friend that it wasn't meant personal to her & offer to get her a new cup she'll like just as much as an amend & smooth things over. Whatdya reckon? There's no harm done here. A few offended feelings but nothing more. Don't let yourself worry. You didn't mean any harm & the cup is rightfully yours even if she did get attached to it! You know how obsessive about these 'little' things we can get ;) Love & laughter in recovery, Danielle x
Most importantly tis John's cup. I'm sure he's glad to have it back, you naughty imp x
-- Edited by Sobrietyspell at 18:49, 2007-11-27
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Doll, honey, I love ya, and thanks for the chuckle! You got a big heart kiddo, and sometimes it rubs your conscience a little bit too hard. I couldn't have said it any better than Ironman. Small thing?... well... yeah... maybe, but it is still your cup so you have every right to take it home.
You got a big heart kiddo, and sometimes it rubs your conscience a little bit too hard.
Wow! That never crossed my mind...This type of thing can happen to me often....Guess I don't feel quite so crazy now and hopefully when such an insignificant "situation" arises again, I won't feel so out of sorts, now that you've made it make sense. and pretty much put a name on it for me... ...Thanks, Dan!
Love u 2!
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Hey Doll!! Thanks for sharing!!! I can just see you..."ITS MY CUP AND YOU CANT HAVE IT!!!!" With a little foot stomping!!! HAHA!! I liked DAnielle's idea. Buy her a new cup, maybe with a cute saying or her name on it, and present it to her!!??? Not that you have to but would be kinda cute!! Love ya, Lani
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I'd have done the same thing. If the lady had said "I hope you didn't mind me using it" I'm sure you've have told her to use it any time. But when people act like that it's hard to let it go. I think you took the high road by waiting. That's not just any old coffee mug, it's sentimental to you and there's nothing wrong with that.
btw I collect coffee mugs from the places I travel to so this hits close to home for me LOL
I think that you did the right thing. After all, that mug has a lot of sentimental value to you and you would have been pretty upset if anything had happened to it.
But, like Danielle suggested, maybe you could buy the woman her own coffee mug.
I still allow 'silly' things to get to me and I'm working on it. Progress not perfection, right?
Take care,
Carol
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I agree with everyone here! What bugged you wasnt the fact that she used the cup it was her attitude and when people give attitude it is soooo hard not to come back with one even worse! You did absolutly the right thing! And I love the idea of getting her a cute mug of her own. Very nice idea!!!! Love ya girl!
