As several of you know, my wife kicked me out in mid Augest after coming home with our daughters after I've been drinking. She told me to get my sh*t together and maybe she'll let me come back, after she's convinced that I'm serious of course.
Since then I've been going to AA several times a week and working and living the steps. I voluntarily installed an interlock device and have been taking vivitrol (a new medication to help with alcoholism, look it up for more info). We have also been going to counseling. Since my exit from my home, I've only slipped once when I was alone in my apartment, what can I say, I'm an alcoholic.
Nevertheless, My wife can see that I am serious; that I'm doing the right things and moving in a positive direction for our family. We've still been doing things together and our relationship has greatly improved. My relationship with my daughters also has greatly improved as well. The other day, after talking through what's going on my wife asked me to return. We throughly discussed how everything is going and our expectation of each other. We mutually agreed that I could return. I did not ask to return and wanted to make sure that she was comfortable about it. We did agree that if I we're to come home drunk again that I would leave perminately.
There is still a lot of work on both our parts as there were other issues not related to my drinking that are/were causing problems as well. We are still going to counseling and trying to use the tools she has given us.
I can say that for me, the support I receive from meetings and forums like this one, as well as working the program, have been the biggest help for my soberity. Though I've been in and out of AA for many years, I've never had the incentive to really WANT to quit as I do now, which is a great motivator. I've always known what to do, but I never really went for myself.
Anyways, I'm feeling great today! There are still going to be issues and problems that I'll be faced with in daily life. My wife and I are still going to argue. My kids and I are still not going to communicate (pre-teen girls). But that's life, a normal life, and TODAY I can deal with it without drinking.
Good for you!!! It sounds like things are really looking up for you. You sound very happy. Hard work pays off in big ways. I am glad that you will be there for your girls. You have been threw a lot and you can give them really good advise as they grow. You are becoming a great inseration for me and I am sure others. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Try not to skip any meetings. I found going to 5:30 pm meetings (we called them "commuter meetings" ) on the way home from work very beneficial to keeping a mental balance at home. I don't know if you have those around or if schedules permit, just a suggestion.
That's terrific news! And, I'm so pleased that you are feeling great today.
My boyfriend and I separated because of my alcoholism, but we're working on it. And, it's going really well. I wish you and your family every luck and success in the world.
Take care,
Carol
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That is wonderful news, Snopup. I know what a huge decision this is for both of you. Yup, life will still be there the way it was but now you'll be able to deal with it on a whole new level. Pre-teen girls, huh? LOL, keep ya on your toes! Keep us informed, love chris
Thanks for sharing you great news with us, Snopup. I'm wishing the best for you. What a journey, hey! You have my best. Keep onwards & upwards, Danielle x
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