I like Melodie Beatties take on codependency. It's when we feel "we have to do something". Sometimes I feel under so much pressure, I feel I must take care of everything. I get so caught up in this cycle of putting extra pressure on myself and taking on more responsibility...............................ummm... now I am trying to reverse it all. Try to take the pressure off of myself. Let others do it for themselves or make mistakes doing it.
I am trying to take out the 'fluff' I have added to my life in the last 18 yrs. I don't need so much stuff, busy-ness, I can do a little less each week or day. Hopefully, I can find balance again.
Yep Beatties book is practically a prerequisite reader for the Coda program. Being a man though, I relate better to John Bradshaw. His description of what you're going through is "trying to become a Human-being after living as a Human-doing for so long"
