I'm at my dad's, made it here safe and sound... my car worried me a bit on the way, but made it, I gotta get it in the shop real soon... my cousin said my brakes need to be bled, that they have air in them, which is why they aren't stopping good (let me tell ya, that was real fun in the hills just south of St. Louis... lol)
My poor dog is sooooo mad at me, but she'll be ok soon... she doesn't adjust to change well at all. I'm so worried she will tear something up outside tonight... and my dad and stepmom will kill me if she does. I couldn't fit her crate in the car, I'm picking one up tomorrow from freecycle, but she's outside alone tonight... had a long talk with her tonight lol told her not to chew, not to tear anything up, and that I will be inside and I'm not leaving her, and to go to bed... lol Yes, she does understand every word I say, but it's a matter of if she'll listen lol
I don't know how long it will last being here with her... my dad just wanted me home, told me right away that my dog would be ok, but didn't discuss it with my stepmom, and she doesn't seem too thrilled with it at all. They just spent a ton of money on their yard, and also new carpets inside, and pretty much everything inside is valuable (they're "rich" snobs lol) and she won't let my dog come in although she is very well housetrained.... then my dog started playing with one of her dogs, it will take my dog a little time to understand that my stepmom's dogs are small and she can't play rough with them. She stepped on one of them and scared it and the dog yelped, which my stepmom really didn't seem to like. *sigh* We'll see, I"ll give it a little time...
Oh, and they don't have internet anymore (stealing a neighbor's wireless right now lol). I'll have to get the thing to use my phone for a modem and pay for that plan to be added to my phone... cuz I've used neighbors' wireless before and they seem to catch on after a bit and kick me off lol
Anyway, I gotta start changing my address on all my credit cards and bank stuff... and check in with a few people online...
Just wanted to let y'all know I made it here safe.
Well, my stepmom just came up here, told me to bring my dog in, up to my room, that's the only place in the house she's allowed... she's been scratching on the door that goes in to their bathroom, and making her dogs bark. I'm not sure what I'm gonna do, if she'll just get to keep sleeping in my room, or if I'll have to set up a kennel away from the house for her, or what...
And the crate i was supposed to get on freecycle, got an email tonight, the girl said she asked her friend about it and it was falling apart and won't work for me... I guess I'll have to buy a kennel or stuff to make a kennel... just what I need, more expenses when I'm already broke...
Now I gotta teach my dog that she is NOT a guard dog... lol cuz she heard the dogs and my stepmom downstairs and started barking... *sigh* This is gonna be a pain in the butt...
Oh, and they're having a big labor day party, like they do every year - their big annual drunkfest... and they said I gotta find somewhere else to stay that weekend... cuz they'll have a lot of company... just like when I visited home in May... yeah, that's gonna help a lot as far as getting my dog settled and adjusted here... ugh... well, guess I can't really complain about that cuz it was planned before I came here, and I didn't give much notice... but it's just a pain.
Oh well... guess I'll try to make the best of being here... my dad and I have gotten pretty close since I had moved to Nebraska... and my stepmom and I have grown further apart in the last year... so this is gonna be a lot of fun...
I hope this is temporary living situation for you. For most of us, our disease began while we were living with our parents (I'd like to say more here but a word should be sufficient). I grew up with 2 alcoholic parents that got divorced when I was ten. While getting sober, just talking to them on the phone was difficult. I can't imagine going to live with them during my first year (or any year for that matter). My Mother, who has over 30 years in the program, and I can spend exactly 3 days together before it starts getting ugly. I pretty much hold my tongue these days, and I can attribute that to a lot of work in two other annon programs. Good luck Lisa, you're braver than I am!
Lisa, Been keeping you in prayers and will continue to do so. It is probably going to take a little adjusting ...... for everyone. I am so thankful you made it okay. Sort of worried. My good friend at work has a mother who lives in Memphis whom she spoke to last evening. Said the one and only bridge was closed acrossed the Mississippi River to the AK side. Whew! Anyway you are safe....... Find some meetings and keep on pluggin' away. You have all the tools ........ Keep us all posted. Wanda
Thanks y'all... yes, this is temporary apparently... my dad said I could "Move in" with them, ya know, sounds like I"m welcome here for awhile, I had thought maybe if it was going ok I'd stay here and go to school or something... although it's not working so I couldn't stay anyway... but my stepmom left a note for the maid this morning, saying I was going to be here for a short while, might be here for a few weeks. Great. So yeah, to her it's definitely temporary.
After the deal last night with my dog... my dad called today, said the woman that works for him is bringing him a really big dog crate for her... which means she will be outside all the time and won't be allowed to sleep inside... my dog is going through major separation anxiety, I don't want to do that to her.... I'm praying she stays out there and barks and whines all night so they'll let her come in at night, although that will just piss my stepmom off more lol Then I was at my mom's tonight, and my dad calls at 9pm telling me I had to come home cuz they were going to bed soon... and I do understand this, the dogs would bark when I got home, so I understand, fine, I have a curfew. But he was complaining about last night too, and said he better not have to deal with that again. *sigh* I do realize my dog will adjust and be ok, but it took 2 months for her to get over the separation anxiety when I moved to Nebraska... and she's so upset right now that I'm worried about her and don't want to upset her worse.
I don't have anyone else here in town I can stay with. My family in Arkansas want me to come out there, I can at least visit with my cousin, and my brother, over there... my aunt said I could stay with her awhile if I need to, that we'd make it work out between my dog and her dogs, and my dog would be welcome in the house, and they fenced in the carport recently so she would have an area to go outside and not be attacked by my aunt's dog... I think this is what I'm gonna have to do... Although I won't have internet there, unless I get the thing set up to use my cell phone for internet, and that will only be if I have service there, since she's way out in the country...
Wanda, I totally agree with what you said, about not being able to live with family in the first year.... I won't be able to be here at my dad's long at all. And when I visited down here I couldn't be at my mom's more than 2 days. It shouldn't be so bad with my aunt at least.
So anyway, I might bounce around a bit visiting people until I find farm work somewhere... or at least maybe a trailer for rent on a farm... something...
Oh, got my brakes sorta fixed today... they bled them and said it was fixed... it is better, but still not quite right. Gonna take it to the dealership as soon as I have money and get everything taken care of on it... they had a nice big long list of stuff it needs done where I took it today, and for once they were telling the truth and not just trying to take my money lol Cuz I know it needed all that stuff... but couldn't get it done today... But it is running ok enough now at least.
Wanda, yes the bridge was closed, and thankfully I found out before I got that far south... I crossed over into TN from near Caruthersville, got to Dyersburg and took the highway south into Memphis... I called my mom to see if that would add on too much time cuz I was sick of interstate driving and I didn't want to deal with traffic through West Memphis anyway, and she didn't know, called me back after a bit, just in time before I got to the exit, to tell me to go that way cuz the bridge was closed...
Well, gonna go do some reading up on separation anxiety in dogs... someone at the dog park today told me that there are meds for it... I don't know about putting my dog on meds... as against meds as I am in humans lol But I'll see what I can find out about it, how to help her... because she really is not doing too good, very upset... and if I go around visiting family for a bit, she is not going to get better for quite awhile if I can't figure out something to do for her...
