We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings.
We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and sometimes explosive ones that need to be worked through.
By facing and working through these feelings we and others grow. In relationships, whether it is a love relationship, a friendship, a family relationship, or a close business relationship, people need room to have and work through their feelings.
Some call it "going through the process."
It is unreasonable to expect ourselves or others to not need time and room to work through feelings. We will be setting ourselves and our relationships up for failure if we do not allow this time and room in our life.
We need time to work through feelings. We need the space and permission to work through these feelings in the awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes messy way that people work through feelings.
This is life. This is growth. This is okay.
We can allow room for feelings. We can let people have time and permission to go through their feelings. We do not have to keep others or ourselves under such a tight rein. While we work through our feelings we do not have to expend unnecessary energy reacting to each feeling others or we have. We don't have to take all our feelings, and others' feelings, so seriously while others or we are in the process of working through them.
Let the feelings flow and trust where the flow is taking you.
I can set reasonable boundaries for behavior, and still leave room for a range of emotions
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Some of us, though, tripped over a very different snag. We clung to the claim that when drinking we never hurt anybody but ourselves. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS , p. 79
This Step seemed so simple. I identified several people whom I had harmed, but they were no longer available. Still, I was uneasy about the Step and avoided conversations dealing with it. In time I learned to investigate those Steps and areas of my life which made me uncomfortable. My search revealed my parents, who had been deeply hurt by my isolation from them; my employer, who worried about my absences, my memory lapses, my temper; and the friends I had shunned, without explanation. As I faced the reality of the harm I had done, Step Eight took on a new meaning. I am no longer uncomfortable and I feel clean and light.
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"LOVE" devoid of self-gratification, is in essence, the will, to the greatest good...of another.
What an enjoyable reading for me right now. I have rested all day today due to fatique. I have fibromyalgia, C.F.I.D.S. and when I push really hard I get wiped out. Somehow I forget the HALT in my day. Never get to hungry angry lonely or tired. So it all comes barreling down on me at one time and I end up sleeping for the day.
I have a delightful husband that cares and allows me to rest when I can. I have been disabled for many years due to many of these health conditions, so when I am up and feeling good I can go fast and get so much done it amazes me. It is like I was 16 again and healthy physically.
In Sobriety there is a few things I have learned. One is that I am an Alcoholic and I have Recovered from the drink. The other is that I am an alcoholic and I have that mental twist that still goes on even today. That is why I am still in Recovery after many years of Sobriety.
So when I am this tired it is time to rest and pray until I regain my energy back again.
Gods Blessings to all of you for letting me post and Thanks for yours,
