well, the 4 year relationship i was in thats been over about a year had ended badly with him refusing to speak to me any more as it continually went to conflict. (same old story, i wanted more) we were stuck in a pattern that suited him to a "t" but didnt do much for me. usually i end up on much more civil terms with ex's, so this not speaking to me has been difficult. yesterday i found out he is hooked up with someone else and has been for several months now...i am shocked at how devastated i feel. couldnt sleep last night, feel nauseated and weepy. im also hurt no one told me before this so feel like a fool that i been saying how i miss him and still love him to people and all the while they knew he was with someone else...OUCH, my heart hurts.!!
Mm, I know that hurts, Cindy. It's a hump to get over, for sure. I agree, give yourself permission to grieve over this, but don't beat yourself up for it. And when you've finished grieving, maybe you will be able to see that this is a finalization, and you will be able to move on in your personal life, too. I hope in the end, you'll feel a freedom. Letting go isn't something we do real well, but it does get better with time. Love shouldn't hurt. PM me if you need to, we're here for you. Love Chris
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I know how much that smarts, Cindy. I've been there too & it took me 2years to get over it. Alcohol didn't help. I don't think it'd take me that long again knowing & having the fellowship I do now that would help & support me. People may not have told you to try & spare your feelings or thought it wasn't their place & that hurts too though a little of that was pride for me. I wish you the very best in your healing. Acceptance & grief will help & eventually you'll be able to move on even better than before. What a beautiful opportunity to let go & be ready for your next love. Best wishes for you, Cindy. I hope you feel better soon, Danielle x
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thank you so much for all your kind replies, it helps to put things in perspective for me. i am feeling better now that the shock has worn off and my program has kicked in. you guys are the best. love to you all!
