I am always working on this one ! it is the silly little things i have to watch, only this morning i was preparing for breakfast i got out the bowls and plates and my husband ( who was ready early ) began to cut the fruit and put it into the bowls i use the plates for fruit and the bowls for cereal however he was helping and instead of pointing this out i decided to do a bit of ironing and he fetched more bowls for the cereal and all was well How ridiculous ! For that moment i was irritated i mean biting my lip so as not to say the plates are for the fruit and the bowls are for the cereal in the grand scheme it does not matter it was still breakfast, if i had said he would have felt his efforts were futile that i was critisising this would not of been my intention my intention would be for breakfast to happen the same as usual my way
As Wren said we all should grant others the right to pursue their own paths. My girlfriend and I just broke up over such issues. The procrastination and lack of communication on her part ruined the relationship and the business we were trying to get going. In short, her procrastination meant bills weren't getting paid on time- which, although I paid the greater part of them was her agreed upon responsibility- and made trying to get our business off the ground virtually impossible. My question is when a significant other continues- for years- a pattern of behavior that threatens the relationship and the committments and goals both parties have agreed to doesn't there come a time when asking politely is no longer an option and it is time to put one's foot down?
Miraculousy sober today.
Gem ----------------- Welcome to MIP GEM...
Kinda reminds me of 2 dogs pulling a sled....and one isnt pulling...
Puts a heavy load on one side...
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Pleasure to meet you. You're absolutely correct about the sled analogy. It's actually better that's she's gone though it is putting me in one hell of a bind and is threatening my ability to keep my home and the business together. Hand-fabricating your own jewelry and cutting the stones to boot is extremely time consuming and now it appears that I have to go out and sell too. I'm on disability as a result of deep vein thrombosis plus I am also diabetic which is a real drain on the amount of energy I have. Needless to say I am at wits end, but I still keep looking for other options- and I don't think about going out and getting drunk. That, in itself, is miraculous. I will say this though- if someone had told me what I would experience in sobriety, and from my home group, when I was first getting sober I would have never made it and would probably have blown my head off. But I do my best, human as I am, to treat others the way I would like them to treat me, practice the principles and steps of the AA program, talk to God and my sponsor frequently and help others whenever I can in whatever way I can. That's probably why I am still sober and not suffering the compulsion to drink today.
Gem
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i use the plates for fruit and the bowls for cereal 
however he was helping and instead of pointing this out i decided to do a bit of ironing and he fetched more bowls for the cereal and all was well 
How ridiculous ! For that moment i was irritated i mean biting my lip so as not to say the plates are for the fruit and the bowls are for the cereal 
in the grand scheme it does not matter it was still breakfast, if i had said he would have felt his efforts were futile that i was critisising this would not of been my intention my intention would be for breakfast to happen the same as usual my way 
