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Robert


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I am in the wrong because I am upset that my partner has moved the telephone number of my friend in a.a i now cant find it and wanted to see him.

She said she will not be blamed but the simple fact is I last sighted the paper it was written on  last week then she did one of her "cleans" which means all my "junk" gets crammed into the corner

I feel of no value in this relationship and as long as I nod my head and agree to use my credit card for her she is happy but the minute i get an identity back she does not like it.

fed up ! its shit with her shit without her - cant win.

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Does she support your being in AA?  Does she argue against your being in AA?

Does she participate in any group(s) like Al-Anon?

Can't advise you on your relationship, my friend.  Can only ask questions, and let you decide the answers, (and let you decide what you can and cannot live with).


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And I have some questions too.  Is this the same woman you had the same complaints about when you first came here?   Why are you still with her?

amanda

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ally


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((((Robert))))

Us dang women, and our cleaning sprees. If it moves its out..lol

Sounds to me like the incident with the telephone number is just a sign of an underlying issue..I call that nitpicking...biggrin.

STOP.....think, can you get this number from somewhere else.....can you call another member.. Can you get to a meeting...

I used to have a resentment agains AA, I felt my best friend was being brainwashed against me..lol (now you see why i need al-anon)

Just for today, focus on YOUR recovery..."How important is it"

Wishing you all the best,
A lifetime of recovery

Ally Girlevileyeevileye

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Not taking sides or making excuses for her, but women have a NEED to "nest", it could just be that simple.........

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Howdy Mate....and the rest of you critters..:)

Ive never seen...or have been in a perfect relationship...

I was one of those guys that went for a long time in AA carrying baggage....and was always attracted to the ladys that were carrying baggage of their own..Quite an enmeshment.....but ...what a hell of a ride.....a few rude awakenings...and still learning...

All I know about relationships...is..

If there isnt complete honest loving communication....and acceptance....and work on both sides....the chances of it prospering... are a big fat ZERO...

We are all perfect imperfect human beings...

"Dont sweat the small stuff..:)




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What Phil said.

(Specially that 'baggage' thing.............whew!)

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this lady doth protest at being referred to as a woman carrying baggage! that's what makes us interesting! ( i can feel u guys cringeing at that statement from here!)  anyways robert, all i know is that thing about communication skills is vital to making it work......both parties need willingness, anything is possible if there is love and willingness. most of us totally suck at communication, hence the growing industry of councillors. lots of good information out there, books, people in happy working relationships to talk to. relationship councillors etc. asking your higher power for guidance usually leads to whatever answers you need. blessings to you

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