Within each of there is a well of energy that must be regularly replenished. When we act as if this well is bottomless, scheduling a long list of activities that fit like puzzle pieces into every minute of every day, it becomes depleted and we feel exhausted, disconnected, and weak. Refilling this well is a matter of finding time to focus on, nurture, and care for ourselves, or "you time." Most of us are, at different times throughout the day, a spouse, a friend, a relative, an employee, a parent, or a volunteer, which means that down time, however relaxing in nature, is not necessarily "you time." Though some people will inevitably look upon "you time" as being selfish, it is actually the polar opposite of selfishness. We can only excel where our outer world affairs are concerned when our own spiritual, physical, and intellectual needs are fulfilled.
Recognizing the importance of "you time" is far easier than finding a place for it in an active, multifaceted lifestyle, however. Even if you find a spot for it in your agenda, you may be dismayed to discover that your thoughts continuously stray into worldly territory. To make the most of "you time," give yourself enough time on either side of the block of time you plan to spend on yourself to ensure that you do not feel rushed. Consider how you would like to pass the time, forgetting for the moment your obligations and embracing the notion of renewal. You may discover that you are energized by creative pursuits, guided meditation, relaxing activities during which your mind can wander, or modes of expression such as writing.
Even if you have achieved a functioning work-life balance, you may still be neglecting the most important part of that equation: you. "You time" prepares you for the next round of daily life, whether you are poised to immerse yourself in a professional project or chores around the home. It also affords you a unique opportunity to learn about yourself, your needs, and your tolerances in a concrete way. As unimportant as "you time" can sometimes seem, it truly is crucial to your wellbeing because it ensures that you are never left without the energy to give of yourself.
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Thanks for this re~affirming post, Wren. We can't serve when we're over-tired. We can't hear the messages inside if we're exhausted, let alone respond to them. We become off~beam & wonder how to respond to things or make 'ill-fated' decisions. Step11 is a good way of renewing this energy. I'm nowhere near sufficient in this as yet as I'm still very much learning about myself & the difference between my needs & my wants in my Step4. I do take care to pray & ask for God's will for me though sometimes feel out of sync with this if I'm rebelling or not hearing what's meant for me. My Higher Power was recently trying to reach me & help me understand that despite my years I'm still very young & especially so in recovery. As soon as I surrendered & accepted this message I felt attuned & safe again in the knowledge that what I choose to call God loves & cares for me. This gave & can give me energy on a daily basis but I have to remember to ask & listen. That quiet communion with a Higher Power. Our running power. Thanks for all that you add to everything everyone says. It's a real boon for me & another way of taking care of myself in listening to others. It helps & gives me energy. Thanks Wren x Danielle
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Thanks for another super post. It was really what I needed to hear today. I seem to spend a lot of my time being busy and without making time for myself. I know that that isn't good for me or my recovery. Thanks for reminding me.
Take care,
Carol
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
