Um well This week has been pretty much for the shits,
I'm at my wits end, son is going tomorrow weather he wants to or not. Yesterday was not a good day at all. He missed the bus yesterday and well turned in battle of the wits, deep down he wants to go and realizes that he needs to do something. His actions yesterday were not normal, it wasn't him, in other wards he was on something that I had no control over. But prayed for my higher power to watch over him, now fighting to stick to my guns, If I don't do this now, things will never change. We are both stubborn and well i realized that I can't controll everything other people do. Yes I've made my mistakes even in sobriety and well I've learned from them and hope not to make them again.
For today I hope to talk things over with my son, as calm as possible. I pray that at some point down the road that we can get past these hardships with out resentments. Just wondering if I could ask for some advice?
I want to express to him how I feel and his sister feels, and would it be better to talk to him or write things down for him to read later. Since talking to him he seems to explode, could cause problems, if any suggestions please feel free to share.
i expressed to him that opportunities like having a place to stay and someone offering to help get him back on track doesn't come by everyday and well I just can't do it alone anymore. He understands this but is still afriad to go, showing signs of excuse and wants to cling to his child like behaviour. I told him it's time to step upto the plate and start being an adult, he's almost 18.
Thanks for lettin me share and any suggestions would be appreciated to my question. I could have thought about where'd i go wrong but ya know, I guess it's what you would call doing what I could do as a parent with the best of my ability and the tools that were given to me to raise my children without prejudice, weather some agree or disagree. I do love my children dearly and will always love them no matter the outcome they will always be my children, with the great times, hardships and fun times. I am proud of both of my children for who they've become and that is where I get strength from and my higher power and both parents whom are watching over me.
Hugs and I'm still hanging in there, so greatful to have my strenght in soboriety,to help me keep my cool.
Tina quoted "If I don't do this now, things will never change"
Cant give you advice....
But I think that you answered your own question...
"Nothing changes if nothing changes"
I can share with you ....
That there were different times in my addiction world...
That living at my parents home...or running to them with sob stories, for easy cash...or...to be in a safe place...was pretty common...
And I had them wrapped around my little finger....until they finally said "No More"...at the age of 32..
When that time came...I was pretty pissed...but looking back..it likely saved my life...(Tough Love)
There were times when....I lived there also...had a roof over my head....food to eat...had my drinking and drug buddies, close by...dealt in weed...and anything else, that was not legal...and didnt hafta work for anything....so why..would I want to leave...?
Had the world by the butt....or so I thought..:)
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yesterday seem to go a little easier then all week, I had to work last nite. Managed to talk things over with my son yesterday.
Thanks Phil for sharing and well i think your rite i did answer my own question, and well dwelled on it a bit and come to realize that this is the right thing to do. I have family down in the city and he'd receive the help he needs.
Where he's going to stay, will do him some good, I had a change to speak with the individual who is gonna help him while he's down there. Her Job intells of working with trouble youths and young adults, and well raised a child alone as well and can identify with my situation. She's set up a routine to help him get his education and will be taking him (son) to talk to a counciler on Monday.
I left her an email stating what happen on wednesday and I wanted her to be a ware of the situation, she informed me not to worry, but ya know us alcoholics and being a parent.
I'll be back on later to let ya know what the situation is.
