As a sober woman in AA, I have worked very hard in my years of recovery to come to terms with years of shame and abuse.
As a sober woman in AA, I work hard to conduct myself with dignity and respect.
As a sober woman in AA, I avoid places where woman are not treated with dignity and respect.
As a sober woman in AA, I am feeling betrayed and hurt that I clicked on a link posted on an AA message board and found a picture of a woman's nake breasts on my computer screen.
My sobriety is my life. AA is not a game to me, it is the tool I use to stay sober and alive. Please help keep AA a safe welcome place for everybody.
Hey Robert, we all have brain farts, k? I know that sometimes I'll do or say something and then in retrospect give it a big blushing whoops. Don't know if everyone knows this, but it's okay to contact the moderators when you find something that offends you being posted. That way we can deal with it quietly.That's what we're here for, and it can save some hurt feelings that way. I have a great deal of respect for myself also, and I make choices, and sometimes those choices are to not click on links if there's any question in my mind as to it's content. Save myself some blushing that way. We are who we are, and that's what I love about AA. I love the forum because it gives me such a diversity of people's views. We do have alot of fun, it isn't always PC, and sometimes we need gentle reminders. Onward.
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Eh, that would go for me too, appropriateness. I posted Dr. Evil's autobiography in the recent story posting thread, (I still think it was a heck of a story), and someone did me the favor of removing it. Which was a favor. Your a bad influence Robert. You rubbed off on me and it's all your fault. When I'm finished with your fearless and thorough moral inventory, I'll be in touch.
I have seen many a joke posted on here that express some very feminist views. We do have to take things lightly or the result would be risking everything we've worked so hard to attain. Laugh and carry on...Tim
P.S. I did see but did not go to the link in question.
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Hi OKDonkey, I just want to say that I think it's great that you felt strong enough to voice your concern on the forum. I know Wren let us know that we can quietly let the moderators know about the posting needed to be linked, and there are times when that's an appropriate avenue. That said, I think to continue to cultivate this wonderful sense of community (on the internet) people need to be able to make their complaints and concerns known to everyone--so that they don't have to feel like they are the only ones who have a problem with a way something was presented or said or made fun of. If I feel like a community I'm a part of is condoning a behavior that I find hurtful or demeaning or counter to what that community is trying to do, then I too would want to address the board as a group. I support your posting. :) (Oh, and this isn't to say that Wren or anyone else doesn't!! Wren is wonderful and I appreciate her letting us know we can contact them directly with questions and concerns. I just wanted you to know that I think it was good that you did post your feelings to the community :) That said, I didn't see the posting. Also, Robert, I think the way you responded was awesome. You totally stepped up and were open to how someone else recieved your joke (that's what I'm assuming it was) and were sensitive to their needs as a community member. Actually, reading the way this thing was handled (and again I have to say I didn't see the deleted posting) impresses me--very nice people here. Cheers, Laura
P.S. Ryan, Ha! I've never seen Austin Powers so I didn't know that'd been Dr. Evils biography you'd posted. Needless to say, I was a little confused.
Thanks for speaking up about the link okdoky I didn't see that myself but Robert's laddishness reminded me of my recent ex's tendency to a similar jokish attitude. I don't know if I'm being over-sensitive so I'm simply outing myself.. I find men's laddishness ridiculous & offensive. I don't see the need in it. I know that at the end of the day it's about a person's journey to maturity & sometimes this takes time & sometimes we may just need to release the tension but it pushes my buttons! Buttons I know I'm responsible for but I'm just hoping & praying men can come to a sensitive sense as to proper attitudes towards women. I'm feeling very feminine at the moment & gaining a lot of strength through sistership as I'm recovering from a codependent relationship with a male who did not always have a healthy attitude towards women. I guess I am healing & biting a bit right now so don't be offended Robert. I feel sensitive & paranoid as I have been vulnerable to men in the past & I suppose I want to be taken seriously as opposed to a physical form/stereotype. I have to take accountability regarding my own opinions anyway & live & let live. Thanks for responding & taking this stuff on board Rob I'm sure we've all learned more xx
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I just wanted you to know that I think it was good that you did post your feelings to the community :)