I realize through out my work nite, um kinda hard to explain.
I'm pretty easy going and full of life, my co-workers are a great bunch of people to work with. We all have our days and well ya know that goes without saying. I love my job and really dont' complain about much, figure certain things go with the territory and take alot of stuff with a grin of salt.
My co-workers except me for who I am and well that feels great, I get a whole lot out of making people feel great about themselves, costumers and people I work with. Recently they hired new girl whom is quite polite and quiet, keeps to herself and well real shy, we all do what we can to well make her feel appreciated.
I've done my part to help out as much as possible and well I've been known to be real senistive toward others and their feelings, some reason this individual thinks other wise of me and last nite I got a real unplesant letter from her and she seems to see things differently about me.
In giving her some guidance, she takes everything so personally and ends up in tears, I truly feel for this person, she reminds me of myself at point in my life and well right now I'm taking the steps to pray for her. No one try's to make her feel low, but she does and takes everything the wrong way.
It hurt s to see someone like this and hurt that she would call some nasty remarks!! But I guess it goes without saying, a person can only controll what their actions and reactions are and not anyone elses.
I tried approaching the situation and feel unsure how to approachin it without any bad feelings, I don't go out of my to make people feel any less than they should about being aorund me. Or at least I don't feel i do this in any way shape or form.
Hi Tina, That's a difficult situation you've got there. Even with all of the details you've shared, it's hard to really understand the situation. You could try to talk with her and get things out in the open, but it sounds like you have been talking with her. This may not sound to great, but maybe there really isn't anything you can do. If she can't be honest with and like herself/ if she's over critical of herself, then chances are she'll be over critical of others (I used to be this way) and perhaps even transfer her own issues on to those around her. Maybe the co-worker just needs some space. It sounds like she isn't open to the support you are offering her and to push it further might just continue to hurt the both of you. I don't know--just my quick two cents. Take care, Laura
Thanks for the suggestions, I work with her tomorrow and well been thinking on talking with her. To let her know and reassure her that there hasn't been anything either of us did wrong. i think you may be right on that part laura.
I spoke to my co-worker last nite and reassured her that she didn't do anything wrong what so ever, and if i had an issue with her that she'd be the first to know. Also told her that I didn't like to hear that someone uncomfortable around me and she didn't have to feel that way.
I reassured her that she was doing fine, it seems that she's having a difficult time adjusting to taking a little advise on how to do things, in a different envoirment. This morning whe went into tears again, due to gettin some advice from the baker. I felt bad for her, but there's really nothing no one can do, right now I'm gonna pray for her that she'll become a better and much stronger person for it. Hope she find's the courage to well get more self esteem.
maybe the baker wasn't as nice as you - maybe the baker was a real snot with her? I agree with the others that you have done all you can - to the best of your ability - just my share at this moment in time Later - Jeannie
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