Hello, everyone...I hope that today finds you with many blessing...
I believe in my program and I am here to support and be supported...I say this b/c I am leaving a site that does not support my program and can not see my point of view...
I feel pressured to leave my H and I don't feel that is what my Hp wants from me right now...
Thank you for being here and I look forward to making friends...
Rinder wrote:Hello, everyone...I hope that today finds you with many blessing...
I believe in my program and I am here to support and be supported...I say this b/c I am leaving a site that does not support my program and can not see my point of view...
I feel pressured to leave my H and I don't feel that is what my Hp wants from me right now...
Thank you for being here and I look forward to making friends...
Hi Rin:
AKA DF. You'll find much support here with AA and Alanon related issues. It's not a big community, but the people are quality.
Thank you Phil...I agree...we don't have ACA here...I'm just an adult child...I wasn't clear...It's a pleasure to meet you...
DF...ah...Ironman...Wow...I look forward to being in the community...thank you for the invite... :)
All I know is when I was focusing on WH (wayward husband) and C (contact), I was in alot of pain and I felt like I was spinning my wheels...
WH has said that OW (other woman) has nothing to offer him...he wanted our M, so therefore I think that it WILL work itself out but I have to do the footwork and become the best person that I can be...
Like you said this is the best Plan A...I don't think that it can get any better for me...
I have to learn to mind my own business and yes, that's rough after being on MB for nine months...but I have faith that my HP will take care of me and WH in time...
I'd rather him talking to OW than sleeping with her...lesser of too evils...
WH addicted the feeling...that OW provides...YES...I believe that...
It's just my valley is not as deep as others would like to think...I can handle this...I am handling this and I will be okay...
Thank you for letting me share and I think I handled myself well today...JMO...
You did handle it well. It will work out. I can tell you that this program will help you with not only your marriage, but in all other aspects of life too.
Don't listen to the doubters...they can't possibly understand this way of life.......it's not......normal! It's better than normal! It's different, yet peaceful.
You don't need to live in the "what if" anymore. Live in the NOW! You don't need to fear the WH and OW possibilities...the fear will leave when you open up to God.
Reading the last few posts on your MB thread has me sad. Sad for everyone who has had infidelity come into their life, then now fighting it with all their energy...trying to control the outcome through their own will.
Notice how one said "His will beat yours." No way Rin!
You are taking the harder, higher road, and it's more effective and fufulling for sure!
I'm encouraged that your H is spending more time at home now and showing committment. This will only get better!!
Letting go and letting God is so easy, yet so hard. You need to crush your self-will, and it looks like you have begun that process.
I believe in what I'm doing today, how I am handling things today...I did notice the comment on WH winning...
I see this as a win-win sitch...I didn't understand that before Tues. and it is hard...
I'm sure that I will have to check myself...LOL...I know that I will have to check myself later down the road...
Has anyone read "Hinds Feet on High Places"? That's a WOW book!TBH, that's what started be thinking...my S gave it to me when I started Step Two...
I think that I will refer to WH as my DH from now on...I didn't think he fit the "label" to begin with...I mean sure he IS talking with OW but it could be worse... :)
Anyway, I feel better not only about my decision to surrender to win but myself as a whole...I have faith that God will look out for me and grant me great blessing along the way...
;) He already has...
A little background for others that I would like to share: My SD (stepdad) is an alcoholic, he molested me and sometimes hit me...my mother was very passive...and I am an only child...however, I do have a half sister and brother...
I was removed from my home and went to live with my grandparents...then, my SD moved out and I moved into the family home...I wasn't suppose to see my SD but I did anyway...thanks to my mother...
I used my environment to motive me to go to college and graduate...LOL...I picked one six hours from home and met my DH there...we have been together for 13 years, married 9 this Valentine's day...
We have two wonderful, energertic boys, 4 and 8...
I believe that outside of Dh talking to OW...we are doing well...there is no domestic violence in the home...well...there was but I was focusing a solution...a few things got burnt and some glass got broke...
I'm in a good place....I have grown so much in the past ten months...I began Al-anon last Oct...LOL...started going to deal with WH and OW...well, little did I know that alcoholic was the disease that has affected my life so much...I'm working to rid myself of that stinkin thinkin...
I'm proud to be a member...I have made wonderful friends...something I had few of since childhood...and I plan to make more...to share my experience in hopes that my trials and tribulations speak to someone else...
I can say that I have much better tools Today...
Thank you all for letting me share...what a journey it has been and the narrow road is straight ahead... :)
