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we are not god
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The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success. On that basis we are almost always in collision with something or somebody, even though our motives are good. Most people try to live by self-propulsion. Each person is like an actor who wants to run the...
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Human Limitations
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I find it awfully hard to give myself a break. I don't know where that attitude comes from. -- Walker I. "I can't. I shouldn't. It's my fault." These self-abasing and self-defeating thoughts are expressions of shame. Because repeated thoughts turn into beliefs and lon...
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Co~dependency No more.. Please! God be willing as I am x
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This is very much a posting from the heart. My soul is now bare & ready to be fulfilled from the inside out with God as my source & the goodness & wisdom of my fellows for inspiration. I've been keeping up with people's stories & messages here for a few weeks & been gaining st...
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24 Hours a Day ~ March 2nd 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ Over a period of drinking years, we've proved to ourselves and to everybody else that we can't stop drinking by our own will-power. We have been proved helpless before the the power of alcohol. So the only way we could stop drinking was by turning to a Power greater than our...
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Daily Reflections March 2
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HOPE Do not be discouraged. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 60 Few experiences are of less value to me than fast sobriety. Too many times discouragement has been the bonus for unrealistic expectations, not to mention self-pity or fatigue from my wanting to change the world by the weekend. Discouragement...
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Mini-Lead, Story, Share
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I was wondering... is anyone interested in posting their story? Most parts of the country (USA) this is done in meetings but called by different names, "speaker", "share", "lead", etc. Obviously we'd be talking about a short form, and speaking for myself I...
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theres always one
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why is it there is always one? I go to uni and there is one person who seems to really bug me, she has a bad attitude and seems to dislike me, I feel uncomfortable when she is there, we do alot of group work and I find it difficult to talk to her when her back is facing me! I shouldnt give her power and all that but h...
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Anger: The New Drug!
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Hey guys and gals. I'm new on here. I'm starting this topic, though I know it has been addressed many times on this board. I need some experience, strength and hope on being almost 4 years sober and choosing to let my anger over the irresponsibility and callousness of others take over my world s...
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Update on my post
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Here's an update from my post the other day Talked to my son again, told him that I've had enough and that I've cut him off completely. (money, etc) Gave Him a certain time limit to get himself a job. Left a note this mornin for him to be out looking for a job by the time I get up, No more excus...
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Expectations of Others
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It is our job to identify our needs, and then determine a balanced way of getting those needs met. We ultimately expect our Higher Power and the Universe - not one particular person - to be our source. It is unreasonable to expect anyone to be able or willing to meet our every request. We are responsible f...
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Because Phil asked...
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The getaway for "a few days" turned into a week. The Lost Coast of California was more beautiful and soul-soothing than I had remembered. No phone in the room. No cell phone reception. Peace and quiet but for the surf crashing outside the bedroom balcony door. A heard of about t...
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Step 4 excample
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Does any body has step 4 excample? I am bussy but confused!!! Please advice!! Sober regatds jo
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24 Hours a Day ~ Feb Mar 1st 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When I find myself thinking about taking a drink, I say to myself: "Don't reach out and take that problem back. You've given it to God and there's nothing you can do about it." So I forgot about the drink. One of the most important parts of the A.A. program is t...
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Daily Reflections March 1
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IT WORKS It works -- it really does. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 88 When I got sober I initially had faith only in the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Desperation and fear kept me sober (and maybe a caring and/or tough sponsor helped!). Faith in a Higher Power came much later. This faith came slowly at fi...
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understanding
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I'm going on my 4th consecutive day of sobriety. I haven't gone this long without at drink in over 6 months. I feel really good, although there are moments I feel a slight urge. But anyway...Friday night I am invited / expected to attend a birthday bash for my best friend in a club here in NYC....
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Took this kid 8000 days...before it finally clicked in..
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God, Grant me the Serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference. Many folks do not understand the meanings of the Serenity Prayer, and of consequence are left in a limbo of constant confusion as they continue to battle the condition...
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Ninth Step in the News Again
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http://www.cnn.com/2007/LAW/02/25/forgive.ap/index.html
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A greeting to all
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I am new at this chatting business. So forgive if I err. I have a few 24 hours, but I sometimes miss other's conversations. It always reminds me of where I come from. My husband and myself are AA people,but don't get to face to face very often. Some of the most simples things have kept me sober....
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Living with people who drink
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So, today it's been 14 days since I last had alcohol. I know that I don't know what the future holds for me and alcohol. All I can do is concentrate on today and, more specifically, this hour. I'm beginning to understand the "let go and let God" feeling--just beginning to. Today...
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Problems
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The things which hurt, instruct." -- Benjamin Franklin How do you respond to the problems that continually surface in your life? If you're like most people, you feel victimized. Moaning "Poor me," we get angry, impatient, depressed and stuck. We think problems spoil what lif...
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N. Illinois Spring Conference - March 30-April 1st
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Hi, close to Quad City area? Moline, IL or Davenport, IA? NIA Dist. 90 And 91 have NIA spring conference in Moline, IL at Holiday Inn, Moline Airport. AA conferences, Alanon--alateen speakers, Banquet, Alcathons--Ask It basket--Dance--Ice Cream Social--Service Panels--Box Lunch w/AA Jeopa...
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Enabling and Rescuing VS Tough Love
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By Robert Burney "We cannot begin to make progress in learning to Love ourselves until we start being kind to ourselves in healthy ways. A very important part of being kind to ourselves is learning how to say no, and how to set, and be able to defend, boundaries. Unconditional Love does not mean...
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Daily Reflections Feb 28
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WHAT? NO PRESIDENT? When told that our Society has no president having authority to govern it, no treasurer who can compel the payment of any dues. . . . our friends gasp and exclaim, "This simply can't be . . ." TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 132 When I finally made my way to A.A.,...
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Accepting things in the present
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I've put a few post up in regards to my relationship with my son month's ago and got some great feed back also talked to my sponser and others. I've learned not to be judgemental and well learned not to react to certain things, as thought in the program and well just in general, you can'...
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24 Hours a Day ~ Feb 28th 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ We should be free from alcohol for good. It's out of our hands and in the hands of God, so we don't need to worry about it any more. But if we haven't done this honestly & fully, the chances are that it will become our problem again. Since we don't trust God to take c...
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Interesting reading
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There is a very interesting article in the March 2007 issue of Reader's Digest entitled "Battling Addiction - God, science and soberity 12 steps to nowhere." Just my share at this moment in time. Later - Jeannie
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Doing Better
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I had my first day back to school today and for most of the day I actually enjoyed teaching--something I haven't done for a long time I also printed out the "whiners anonymous" post and put it in my wallet
I wonder if being an alcoholic means that I was born without emotional boundaries...
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Another Lesson Learned
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One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbors to co...
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Daily Reflections Feb 27
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A UNIQUE STABILITY Where does A.A. get its direction? . . . These practical folk then read Tradition Two, and learn that the sole authority in A.A. is a loving God as He may express Himself in the group conscience. . . The elder statesman is the one who sees the wisdom of the group's decision, who hold...
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24 Hours a Day ~ Feb 27th 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When we came into A.A., the first thing we did was to admit that we couldn't do anything about our drinking. We admitted that alcohol had us licked and that we were helpless against it. We never could decide whether or not to take a drink. We always took the drink. And since we coul...
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Problems and Solutions
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Every human being is a problem in search of a solution. -- Ashley Montagu Each of us is a strong and fragile creature. We're always subject to forces outside our control, and we're learning steps for living that help us cope and rise above these problems. Our particular situation might seem s...
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The Lord is my Sponsor
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The Lord is my sponsor, I shall not want. He maketh me go to many meetings. He leadeth me to sit back, relax and listen with an open mind. He restoreth my soul, my sanity and my health. He leadeth me in the paths of serenity and fellowship for my sake. He teacheth me to think, take it easy, to live and let live,...
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Understanding Oneness
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February 26, 2007 Level Of Consciousness Sometimes we look at the actions of others and find it difficult to understand what motivates them. But we are all doing the best we can with the information we currently have. We have all been taught how to see the world from the examples of those around us and by...
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24 Hours a Day ~ Feb 26th 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When we came into A.A, we came to believe in a Power greater than ourselves. We came to believe in that Divine Principle in the universe which we call God, and to whom we can turn for help. Each morning we have a quiet time. We ask God for the power to stay sober for the next twenty-four ho...
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Can't find acceptance today
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Acceptance:
1) I'm totally stressed to go back to teaching tomorrow...
2) I'm not prepared for classes tomorrow...
3) I don't have the shopping, laundry, cleaning done...
4) My husband's flight home was cancelled due to weather...
5) His new flight is going to get him in late Tuesday, s...
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24 Hours a Day ~ Feb 25th 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ Some people find it hard to believe in a Power greater than themselves. But not to believe in such a Power forces us to atheism. It has been said that atheism is blind faith in the strange proposition that this universe originated in a cipher and aimlessly rushes nowhere. That'...
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24 Hours a Day ~ Feb 24th 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When we came to our first A.A. meeting, we looked up at the wall at the end of the room and saw the sign: "But for the grace of God." We knew right then and there that we would have to call on the grace of God in order to get sober and get over our soul-sickness. We heard speakers t...
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Speech!Speech!Speech!heheh
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It's Sunday morning, you people. Lets keep sober this 24. And don't drink nothin either. When I first read the following, fresh sober, I was floored. The first few paragraphs alone took months to digest, and I realized that this was something I would do well to come back to, and read, if a parag...
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Symptoms of Alcohol Withdrawal
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Withdrawals Can Be Mild, Moderate or SevereAlcohol withdrawal refers to a group of symptoms that may occur from suddenly stopping the use of alcohol after chronic or prolonged ingestion. Not everyone who stops drinking experiences withdrawal symptoms, but most people who have been drinking for...
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Wow, what do you think? Temp sponsor...
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So I got a temporary sponsor... I didn't actually ask her to be my sponsor, I had told her I needed to get to know women out here and that I hadn't found a sponsor here yet, and she said "I'll be your temporary sponsor!" so I said ok... So we talked a long time the other night... and sh...
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I'm so glad you're here
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Hi There;
I'm so glad you guys are here. I'm 9 1/2 yrs sober and have spent this last week dying for a drink--still sober though I live way in the boondocks and took a job this year teaching chemistry at the local High School (I still think it's funny that I'm certified to teach chemistry). Any...
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Codependant Relationships
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If any of this sounds like you... • Recognize your addiction, talk to a healthy friend or adviser and begin today to take back the control of your life and your well-being. • Realize that you are powerless over what the other person feels, thinks or does. You didn't cause it and you can't fix it....
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Been there...Done that..:)
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Codependency occurs when a capable adult relinquishes control of their life and their happiness to another person, believing incorrectly that their passivity is somehow going to give them what they want. Falling in love usually starts off with a wonderful cocktail of hormones and joy juices like...
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Recognizing Feelings
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Experiencing feelings can be a challenge if we've had no previous experience or permission to do that. Learning to identify what we're feeling is a challenge we can meet, but we will not become experts overnight. Nor do we have to deal with our feelings perfectly. Here are some ideas that mig...
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Strength
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We don't always have to be strong. Sometimes, our strength is expressed in being vulnerable. Sometimes, we need to fall apart to regroup and stay on track. We all have days when we cannot push any harder, cannot hold back self-doubt, cannot stop focusing on fear, cannot be strong. There are days w...
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
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*********************************************************** February 23, 2007 A.A. Thought For The Day Besides our jobs, our families, our friends and our sobriety, we have something else which many of us found through A.A. That's faith in a Power greater than ourselves, to which we can...
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Business Meeting 2
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Hey All - thanks for your feedback on my business meeting post last week; I did show up for last nights business meeting. As it turns out, one of the individuals with the strong opinions last week didn't show up, the other seemed to have amnesia regarding her opinions of the previous week and sudd...
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Daily Reflections Feb 23
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MYSTERIOUS PARADOXES Such is the paradox of A.A. regeneration: strength arising out of complete defeat and weakness, the loss of one's old life as a condition for finding a new one. A.A. COMES OF AGE, p. 46 What glorious mysteries paradoxes are! They do not compute, yet when recognized and accep...
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Keep an open mind
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An older friend of mine always lived by the rule, "Let your conscience be your guide. Whenever he was faced by a tough decision, he said, "I stop thinking and I start feeling." For this wide old gentleman, wisdom came from listening not so much to his mind, but more to his heart. He a...
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New
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Hello, I joined this forum a few months back because I felt like I did not want to go to face to face AA. So I figured i'd turn to an online support group. I never posted and I kept drinking. I've been on a drinking binge for the last year or so. I cannot remember the last time i've gone a...
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