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struggling a little...
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No, no thoughts of drinking... just... this is tough, doing the family thing... it's a heck of a lot easier to live 12 hours away and just talk to them on the phone a couple times a week lol I do love seeing my family, but I can only take so much... even when I lived here I could only take so much, I might h...
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Hi everyone
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Good morning everyone. I'm new to message boards and a recovering alcoholic/addict so an AA board seemed the right place to pop in and say Hi. I'm kind of at a loss as to what to say. I'm currently going through a lot of chaos right now. Relationship stuff. You know what they say at meetings, " relati...
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hello all
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Hi everyone, Hope today finds u all well, Its a long weekend here in the states, been busy here, went to c my son yesterday, he just finsihed college for the year and is working a job for the summer, When i first got sober he sent me a big book in the mail, i havent seen to much of him the last couple of years but...
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All is well, buttttttt
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Hi folks Just thought I'd check in, things are going ok. Kids are doing well, and getting ready for summer. One thing that is well concerning me is well now I have a bit of an issue. My feet have been acting up lately, got the left check out and as a result got a spur on the bottum of my foot and has progresse...
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Letting Go of Self Doubt
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A married woman who had recently joined Al-Anon called me one afternoon. She worked part-time as a registered nurse, had assumed all the responsibilities for raising her two children, and did all the household chores, including repairs and finances. "I want to separate from my husband,&quo...
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Growing Ourselves
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The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving. -- Oliver Wendell Holmes We are all on a life-long journey. It is a search for who we are and why we are here. It is a journey that expands our consciousness. There is an urge within each of us to move forward in life...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 27th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In twelth-step work, the fifth thing is continuance. Continuance means our staying with prospects after they have started on the new way of living. We must stick with them and not let them down. We must encourage them to go to meetings regularly for fellowship and help. They w...
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Recognizing Choices
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We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see. We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life. We may feel locked into behaviors such as caretaking or controlling. Feeling trapped is a symptom of codependency. When we hear ourselves say, I have to take care of this person . . . I h...
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Learning from Life
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The quality of our life is not dependent on the circumstances we encounter. The quality of our life is dependent on what we learn from the circumstances we encounter. Perhaps the greatest example of this wisdom is present in the life of Nelson Mandela. He is a man that suffered great pain and hardship...
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Only In Cana Du
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A Canadian is walking down the street with a case of beer under his arm. His friend Doug stops him and asks, "Hey Bob! Whacha get the case of beer for?" "I got it for my wife, eh." answers Bob. "Oh!" exclaims Doug, "Good trade."
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Have a nice day..:)
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"Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." As we work the first nine Steps, we prepare ourselves for the adventure of a new life. But when we approach Step Ten we commence to put our A.A. way of living to practical use, day by day, in fair weather or fou...
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Gossip
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Intimacy is that warm gift of feeling connected to others and enjoying our connection to them. As we grow in recovery, we find that gift in many, sometimes surprising, places. We may discover we've developed intimate relationships with people at work, with friends, with people in our support group...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 25th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In twelth-step work, the third thing is conviction. Prospects must be convinced that they honestly want to stop drinking. They must see and admit that their life is unmanageable. They must face the fact that they must do something about their drinking. They must be absolute...
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FOR SOBRIETYSPELL
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(((((((((((((((((ss)))))))))))))) ..no, It was nothing you said or done..... I can't even find the reply your talking about..lol. You have ALL been wonderful, and understanding...And I love how I can so idenify with you all....lol will keep reading all your posts..and gaining valuable insight...
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i witnessed a miracle tonight
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American idol had started and I had decided to stay home and be a couch potato when a little after seven I had the sudden urge to go to a meeting unbeknownst to me the same thing happened in a couple other homes elsewhere in town. Meanwhile across town at the local camel club (where most of our meeting here...
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LEAVING MIP
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(((((((((ROOMIES))))))))))))) Nothing lasts for ever...I have enjoyed my time at mip, meeting lovely people, sharing my experience with you all...I also have received wisdom on numerous occasions...... In growing within Al-Anon, we become whole again, we start to believe we ARE worth somet...
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Inspiration
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Inspiration starts in the home. -- Alpha English What does being inspired really mean? Alpha would say it means having the faith to tackle difficult tasks. She surely had it. In a time when few women went to college, she did and with honors. Then after a lifetime of teaching in a small Arkansas town, s...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 24th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In twelth-step work, the second thing is confession. By frankly sharing with prospects, we get them talking about their own experiences. They will open up and confess things to us that they haven't been able to tell other people. And they feel better when this confession has...
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No More Playing Small
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I was talking on the phone to a woman about a business matter. I didnt know her but I was impressed by her work. When the conversation ended, I reflected on how many times I had been apologetic about who I was and what I was doing. There was no need for that! Marianne Williamsons words came to mind: Your play...
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Looking Deeply
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The Good In All Sometimes we find it difficult to see the good in people, places, or situations that arent to our liking. We focus on the things we dont like in our lives as a way of fueling our efforts to create change. There is nothing inherently wrong with this, and it is one way we make progress. Ho...
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Worry
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Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained. -- Arthur Somers Roche A trickle of water that drains down the side of a hill poses no problem to the hill, its vegetation, or the people living in the valley. But if that t...
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checkin in...
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I'm down in Mississippi (basically in Memphis TN)... got here last night around 7:30 or so, spent last night at my dad's and am at my mom's now... Went to a meeting at my homegroup down here, it was a pretty small meeting compared to what it usually is, lots of new people I didn't know, but some old faces I w...
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should i say anything about his behavior?
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hi all, i have been on this board before. and i am active in alanon (although i don't go as often as i should.) i take care of myself the best i know how the my A's active drinking...go browsing at barnes and noble, go to the lake, do things with the adult children, read, go online and such. i very r...
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creative outlets
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Hi guys, ok so we all have something in common...we're alcoholics, yes it's true. Anyway I'd like to know what you all do besides having this disease. What are you're hobbies, interest's, ect... So because this is my idea I'll go first. I really like to draw, create, decorate, write, all that...
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What am I waiting for?
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I am on a quest for answers, though deep down I know I am probably on an endless journey. Your insight, however, could possibly help. I am a member of Al-anon and my AH has been sober from alcohol/drugs for almost 4 mos. We recently seperated, for another of his addictions was an A girlfriend and the tem...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 23rd May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The Twelth Step of A.A., working with others, can be subdivided into five parts, five words beginning with the letter C- confidence, confession, conviction, conversion, and continuance. The first thing in trying to help other alcoholics is to get their confidence. We do t...
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Scary...but true...
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Alcoholism is a disease of the body, thinking, emotions and spirit. Progressive damage to these four aspects interact in various ways such that a person is increasingly compelled to drink. Also, once drinking starts they cannot ?always? guarantee when they will stop or how much they will drink. Th...
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Enjoyment
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Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced. The belief that we must square our shoulders and get through a meager, deprived existence for far off rewards in Heaven is a codependent belief. Yes, most of us still have times when life will be stressful and challenge our endurance skills....
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The Inner Adult
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Much has been written about "The Inner Child" especially in the roaring 90s. I'm very much in touch with my inner child. My inner child is a selfish, indulgent, irresponsible, lazy, rip-roaring brat who is only sober by the grace of God. I'm still looking for my Inner Adult. I'll keep you...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 22nd May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ What impresses us most at an A.A. meeting is the willingness to share, without holding anything back. And pretty soon we find ourselves sharing also. We start telling our own experiences and by so doing we help the other person. And when we've got these things off our chest, we...
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Getting Needs Met
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I want to change careers . . . I need a friend . . .I'm ready to be in a relationship . . . Regularly, we become aware of new needs. We may need to change our behavior with our children. We may need a new couch, love and nurturing, a dollar, or help. Do not be afraid to recognize a want or need. The birth of a want or...
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Relationships...Dealing With Conflict
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With the physical and emotional closeness of a partnership, it is inevitable that there is sometimes conflict. It is often a sign that something is wrong or that someone is unhappy. Avoiding conflict or ignoring the problems could mean that you are choosing to avoid talking through important issue...
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Hope in Hardship
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Anything Can Be Overcome The journey that each human being makes through earthly existence can have hardship as often as it is touched by joy. When we encounter adversity, the stress we feel can erode our optimism, eventually convincing us that the issues we face cannot be overcome. In truth, there i...
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Daily Reflections May 22
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STEP ONE WE . . . (The first word of the First Step) TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 When I was drinking all I could ever think about was "I, I, I," or "Me, Me, Me." Such painful obsessions of self, such soul sickness, such spiritual selfishness bound me to the bottle for mo...
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The Evolving Relationship
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.... open up to hope and new possibilities... Some mornings we may awaken filled with thoughts of what is wrong in our lives. Perhaps we obsess about our failures or the limits of our relationships. If we let ourselves sink into self-loathing, we build a wall that separates us from those things that nu...
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found out what's wrong with my back...
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The doctor finally called me back over a week after having my MRI... I'm so sick of dealing with that dr's office... Anyway, they said the dr looked at my results, and I have a disc that is protruding but it's not herniated and said to stay on the meds they prescribed (muscle relaxers... that's going to he...
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Be Good To Yourself Therapy
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Trust yourself. You know what you want and need. Put yourself first. You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself. Let your feelings be known. They are important. Express your opinions. It's good to hear yourself talk. Value your thinking. You do it well. If you don't value i...
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This is cute
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Click here: SINGING BUG Thought I'd share this thought it was cute but funny at the same time Enjoy your day!!! Don't forget to turn your speakers on
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Daily Reflections May 21
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A LIST OF BLESSINGS One exercise that I practice is to try for a full inventory of my blessings. . . . AS BILL SEES IT, p. 37 What did I have to be grateful for? I shut myself up and started listing the blessings for which I was in no way responsible, beginning with having been born of sound mind and body. I went...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 21st May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the day ~ One of the finest things about A.A. is the sharing. Sharing is a wonderful thing because the more you share the more you have. In our old drinking days, we didn't do much sharing. We used to keep things to ourselves, partly because we were ashamed, but mostly because we were self...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 20th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ If we get up in a meeting and tell something about ourselves in order to help the other person, we feel a whole lot better. It's the old law of the more you give the more you get. Witnessing and confession are part of keeping sober. You never know when you may help somebody. Helping...
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Just hello
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I just noticed that my last post was number 99, so I figured that I should start a post rather than reply for number 100. I've been around this site for some time now, but it has taken some time for me to get to 100. I'd just like to say hi from Boston to all those who add to my sobriety with your insightful an...
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Can someone advise me why,........
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I am in the wrong because I am upset that my partner has moved the telephone number of my friend in a.a i now cant find it and wanted to see him. She said she will not be blamed but the simple fact is I last sighted the paper it was written on last week then she did one of her "cleans" which means all...
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Sponsor Relationship
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Hi, I was wondering, what is the sponser relationship supposed to be like? I mean, is she the teacher and I'm the student. Or is it not like that at all? The idea of giving authority to someone I hardly no is unappealing--I anticipate that I will be told to meet a lot of people and get a lot of numbers and mayb...
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Woo Hoo! Bike Week was awesome!
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Man! Oh! Man! What a glorious 8 days I spent in Myrtle Beach, S.C. We rode soooo much my rear is sore! Ate some great seafood, found a hamburger joint with the biggest onion rings I've seen! And saw about a go-zillion motorcycles......I had the pleasure of visiting a bar called "Suck Bang Blow&q...
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Emotional Sobriety
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http://www.emotionalsobriety.com/
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Sadness
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Ultimately, to grieve our losses means to surrender to our feelings. So many of us have lost so much, have said so many good byes - have been through so many changes. We may want to hold back the tides of change, not because the change isn't good, but because we have had so much change, so much loss. Sometim...
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just checkin in... rambling...
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25 days sober now... :) Getting my 1 month chip while I'm down in Memphis next week! I can't wait to go home and see everyone!!! I fly out on Tuesday, will be back the following Tuesday. I will have internet access down there, so I'll be able to check in... Haven't been getting to enough meetings late...
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Solving Problems
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"Shame is the first feeling that strikes me whenever I, or someone I love, has a problem," said one recovering woman. Many of us were raised with the belief that having a problem is something to be ashamed of. This belief can do many damaging things to us. It can stop us from identifying our pr...
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Mixed Messages
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Just curious on others views on this statement as regards to AA and its message to the alcoholic ? I am an addict, and have made no pretence to be anything else on this forum. Would also like to know your views on that, am i welcome or should i go elsewhere to find recovery? Thank you
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