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Remove Your Mental Filters
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You got to look at things with the eye in your heart, not with the eye in your head. -- Lame Deer, Medicine Man of the Oglala people Whenever were thinking, our experience is being filtered through our minds. For example, when I say to myself, What a beautiful sunset! I am not fully experiencing the sunse...
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6 Days Sober
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Dear Friends, Some may have read my earlier posts. I picked up a drink in February after over 8 years sober. I was a mess. Thanks to your support and going back to meetings I'm 6 days. I'm going back to my home group again tomorrow night (Friday night here in Sydney). Today I stayed home with my son who has t...
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Am I insane? lol
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Maybe I need to let God restore me to sanity... lol I'm up to 13 babies now! 6 turkeys, 3 guineas, brought one home from my friend's farm today... and now 4 chicks! went to the farm and home store to pick up a feeder for my guineas, since I was using a tupperware lid and it really wasn't big enough... wel...
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Laura Goes To An AA Meeting
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Aloha, Well, I did it. I went to a meeting tonight. It was an all woman's meeting and on the small side. It was an amazing experience! Thank you ladies and gentlemen for helping me get there! It was a step and discussion meeting and because I was new, they decided to focuse on step one--what a gift. Listeni...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 11th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We can depend on those members of any group who have gone all out for the program. They come to meetings. They work with other alcoholics. We don't have to worry about their slipping. They're loyal members of the group. I'm trying to be a loyal member of the group. When I'm tempte...
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Favorite Quote / Cliche'
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On or Off topic, list them. 2 of my all time favorites; "There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance - that principle is contempt prior to investigation." -Herbert Spencer Be w...
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Daily Reflections May 11
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A NEW SENSE OF BELONGING Until we had talked with complete candor of our conflicts, and had listened to someone else do the same thing, we still didn't belong. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 57 After four years in A.A. I was able to discover the freedom from the burden of buried emotions that had...
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I made the call--it's a step . . . and Shelly, the good fortune spider . . .
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Made the first step and called the local hotline to make sure the time and place of the meeting (that I found online) that I'd like to attend is still in exhistance. It would be a shame to work up the nerve, get there and discover it switched meeting nights. The all women's meeting is, indeed, at the same ti...
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TIRED
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Hey Man im always tired, ive been off uni cos im really tired out!! i go to bed at 10-11 and get up at 9 and i cant be bothered to do anything, i want to do stuff but i feel demotivated!! not got a bad head on i dont think you guys get this? any tips
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When I dont drink I get bored...when I get bored I get restless...
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and when I get restless I pick fights with people. Not physical fights, I just make mean spirited, hurtful little jokes and comments until I get a rise out of them. I have no idea why but somehow it makes me feel better. I get some perverse joy out of getting a strong emotional reaction form another human b...
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Some new pics of my babies...
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Jimmy the Guinea... about 2 weeks old now I think? This one shows how he's feathering now on his wings... My unnamed guinea... I was waiting until I know what sex they are before naming them, the only reason Jimmy has a name is cuz my roommate named him already... lol He's just a bit bigger than Jimmy,...
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Daily Reflections May 10
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FREE AT LAST Another great dividend we may expect from confiding our defects to another human being is humility - a word often misunderstood. . . . it amounts to a clear recognition of what and who we really are, followed by a sincere attempt to become what we could be. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS...
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Relationships In Sobriety
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My story is this in a nutshell: I was married at a fairly young age - instant family. I got sober about halfway through that marriage, and I have now been single (and sober) longer than I was married but in all that time, I never was in a serious relationship. Just some very short-term wannabes that did...
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Finding the Gifts
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Word of HeartI was thinking about this book I had read as a girl, about a family pioneering in the forest somewhere or other, for whom small things brought such great pleasure, an orange for Christmas, a crisp dress ordered from a catalog. It made such a huge impression on me, I remember, how such little...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 10th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ One thing that keeps me sober is a feeling of loyalty to the other members of the group. I know I'd be letting them down if I ever took a drink. When I was drinking, I wasn't loyal to anybody. I should have been loyal to my family, but I wasn't. I let them down by my drinking. When I came...
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Enjoying the Good Days
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Good feelings can become a habitual part of our life. There is absolutely no virtue in the unnecessary suffering, which many of us have felt for much of our life. We don't have to allow others to make us miserable, and we don't have to make ourselves miserable. A good day does not have to be the calm before...
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Meetings...
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I was just curious if anyone felt the same way when they first started attending meetings... This really doesn't make any sense to me, but after I go to a meeting (which hasn't been many yet) I always feel as though I want to drink. I feel like I just want to stop at a bar on the way home. Is this crazy? I heard f...
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Alcoholics Anonymous Is Based On Love
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And there are only two sins Interfering with the growth of another human being And interfering with ones own growth The privelege of a lifetime....is just being who you are.
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yay!!!
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I was trying to get my cat to take a picture but he wouldn't wake up and show his face!! This is my boyfriend for the first year of sobriety... I know that it is not suggested that someone have a relationship for a year but do you think this is ok? (I don't want to hear any sick jokes from any of you guys!!) haha....
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24 Hours a Day ~ 9th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We alcoholics used so little self-control when we were drinking, we were so absolutely selfish, that it does us good to give up something once in a while. Using self-discipline and denying ourselves a few things is good for us. At first, giving up liquor is a big enough job for a...
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4 Days Sober
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Dear All, I posted here the day after "the night before". After over 8 years sobriety, I let my meetings slide. I picked up a drink and 2 months later I was drink driving continually, lieing about money and my drinking and my driving and hit my rock bottom on Friday morning at 5am when I finall...
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Applied at another college...
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Well, I applied at the community college in Lincoln, well, actually I'll have to go to the campus in Beatrice on the other side of Lincoln... they offer agriculture there... been looking at the program and what all they offer, and also looking at the University of Nebraska in case I want to do a 4 year d...
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May9 Daily Reflections
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WALKING THROUGH FEAR If we still cling to something we will not let go, we ask God to help us be willing. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 76 When I had taken my Fifth Step, I became aware that all my defects of character stemmed from my need to feel secure and loved. To use my will alone to work on them would have bee...
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Learning New Behaviors
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Sometimes we'll take a few steps backward. That's okay too. Sometimes it's necessary. Sometimes it's part of going forward. -- Codependent No More Life is a Gentle Teacher. She wants to help us learn. The lessons she wants to teach us are the ones we need to learn. Some say they are the lessons we chose t...
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Experience of givin back
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morning all Justed wanted to share an experience I had the previlege of giving back to the program. We had our One Day District Roundup Yesterday, and I had the honour of chairing the round up, the overwhelming experience I recieve was un believable. I felt nervous and excited and all in all, the thou...
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finally getting an MRI...
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Well I guess I overdid it yesterday... although I was mostly doing light work. I was sitting most the day while sorting through things, getting up to move around every so often. Well, by the end of the day I was hurting so bad I went to the ER. I thought maybe going into the ER they'd actually try to figu...
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selfish thinking....
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I have learned that selfishness and self centeredness is the root of my problems. That fear is an evil and corroding thread. What Im about to type is something that happened today that made me think. But Im OK with it... My daughter and son in law live across town with my wife. (They just had the new baby bo...
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I am your disease
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I hate meetings. I hate a Higher Power. I hate anyone who has a Program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wish you suffering. Allow me to introduce myself. I am the disease of alcoholism. I am cunning, baffling and powerful. That's me! I have killed millions and I am pleased. I love...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 8th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ I'm grateful that I found a program in A.A. that could keep me sober. I'm grateful that A.A. has shown me the way to faith in a Higher Power, because the renewing of that faith has changed my way of life. And I've found a happiness and contentment that I had forgotten existed, by si...
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A mental health professional told me that I'm not an alcoholic...
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I went to my doctor and explained my thoughts regarding my alcohol use and she said that judging by what I told her there might possibly be some other explanations for why I'm "acting out" the way I do. She referred me to a specialist and his diagnosis is that I suffer from Manic-Depress...
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Daily Reflections May 8
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A RESTING PLACE All of A.A.'s Twelve Steps ask us to go contrary to our natural desires . . . they all deflate our egos. When it comes to ego deflation, few Steps are harder to take than Five. But scarcely any Step is more necessary to longtime sobriety and peace of mind than this one. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELV...
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Giving Ourselves What We Deserve
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"I worked at a good job, making a decent salary. I had been recovering for years. Each morning, I got into my car and I thanked God for the car. The heater didn't work. And the chance of the car not starting was almost as great as the chance that it would. I just kept suffering through and thanking God....
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THIS IS AWESOME.....LIFE IS TOO SHORT
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I was surfing the net looking for inspiration, on how to stop loving someone....lol (if only) And I found this, I had a few tears in my eye..... Gives new meaning to "Life is to short" I have a boyfriend who grew up with me. His name is Jin. I always thought of him as a friend until last year, wh...
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Thought Id share something kinda neat
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This is kinda neat... see the huge 100 year old oak laying on the ground in front of my buddies house? This fell on a perfectly clear day, not even a breeze... just BOOM. Missed the house literally by inches. The closet branch act...
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Change
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I can change. I can live out my imagination instead of my memory. I can tie myself to my limitless potential instead of my limiting past. -- Stephen Covey I was eating lunch with a friend who shared that she disliked one of the vegetables on my plate and hadnt eaten any since childhood. I suggested that so...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 7th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ It's very important to keep in a grateful frame of mind, if we want to stay sober. We should be grateful that we're living in a day and age when alcoholics aren't treated as they often used to be treated before Alcoholics Anonyous was started. In the old days, every town had its ow...
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Excellent writing
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Very appropriate for my recovery! THE COMPANY YOU KEEP It is better to be alone, than in the wrong company. Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. &qu...
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So I'm a little slow and reluctant
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I've been sober for a little over three months. I consider myself an alcoholic. I've begun to read the big book. What have I not done? Gone to any face to face meetings . . . not one. I didn't want to go. At first I thought it was because I didn't need to. I gain insight here, as well as support. I've got some gre...
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wired and in a cleaning mood...
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12 days sober... I pulled an all-nighter last night... roommate's over at our friend's house for the weekend helping to plant the tons of bushes and trees they bought at an auction... So... I went to a meeting last night, did the grocery shopping, got home and cleaned out my babies' cages, cleaned...
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Letting Go Of Fear
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Fear is at the core of codependency. It can motivate us to control situations or neglect ourselves. Many of us have been afraid for so long that we don't label our feelings fear. We're used to feeling upset and anxious. It feels normal. Peace and serenity may be uncomfortable. At one time, fear may have...
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Alcoholism Stages
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Alcoholism stages can be categorized into three stages of alcoholism -- early stage, middle stage and end stage alcoholism or late stage alcoholism. Alcoholism stages generally take years to develop. Alcoholism is a disease where alcoholic beverage consumption is at a level that interferes wit...
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HELP...BEFORE I JUMP IN AGAIN
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HELP....BEFORE I JUMP IN THERE AGAIN (((((((YO Guys))))))) I posted this on the al-anon board and got some wonderful replies.....i am asking If any of you can reply to this also... I love the wisdom I recieve from you as the recovering Alcoholic.... (((Guys)))))) You all know I opened a face to face gr...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 6th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ I've noticed that the ones who do the most for A.A. are not in the habit of boasting about it. The danger of building myself up too much is that, if I do, I'm in danger of havinf a fall. That pattern of thought goes with drinking. If one side of the boat gets too far up out of the water, i...
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support!!!!!
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hello everyone, im new here. so i got sober in dec of 05 and drank again in sept of 06 and continued until jan of 07 when i found out i was pregnant. i quit instanlty and have spent the last months accumulating some peace and happiness with many things that i learned from AA and other places. but now i look a...
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Obstacles To Step Three
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When I was new to AA, I was convinced that I was powerless over alcohol and that my life, because of my drinking, was unmanageable. As I began to do what I was told to do, I discovered that I didn't have to drink anymore. I reasoned that now that I didn't have to drink, I could, through hard work and the use of m...
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tipsy
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Tipsy, please dont send me any more private messages. Id prefer you share your feelings here in the forums, good or bad. Hope you have a better day.
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About to go to a party . . .
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There are quite a few new posts her I want to take time to read and respond to later this evening. Welcome if you are new and reading this. I only have time for a quick note. I just feel like I need to reach out for moment before going to a party after I shut this computer down. It's a family/friend party. Ther...
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Daily Reflections May 6
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"HOLD BACK NOTHING" The real tests of the situation are your own willingness to confide and your full confidence in the one with whom you you share your first accurate self-survey. . . . Provided you hold back nothing, your sense of relief will mount from minute to minute. The dammed-up emo...
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Apology is more than saying "Sorry"
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Addiction creates moral wreckage. People who become addicted to alcohol or other drugs might lie, cheat, or steal in order to get and use their chemical of choice. Often what's left behind is a trail of shattered relationships. In this situation, apologies won't do. Alcoholics Anonymous calls for...
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Please Help
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Dear Friends, I am so sick today. I had over 8 years good sobriety in AA and I picked up a drink in February of this year. This is the first time I have been back to AA in any capacity. I thought I had it all under control and last night I went to a work function and I got so drunk and stayed out till 5am in the morn...
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