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Healing
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We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity... We should anticipate these stages in our emotional convalescence: unbearable...
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Daily Reflections 9/12
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I AM RESPONSIBLE For the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 87 In recovery, and through the help of Alcoholics Anonymous, I learn that...
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Daily Reflections 9/13
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REPAIRING THE DAMAGE Good judgment, careful sense of timing, courage and prudence - these are the qualities we shall need when we take Step Nine. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 83 To make amends can be viewed two ways: first, that of repairing damage, for if I have damaged my neighbor's fence,...
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Times of Reprogramming
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Recovery is not all-tiresome, unrewarded work. There are times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice what we have learned. There are times of change, times when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a particular problem. These are the times when what we've been practicing in r...
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A good way to approach each day
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"When you wake up in the morning, Pooh," said Piglet at last, "what's the first thing you say to yourself?" "What's for breakfast? said Pooh. "What do you say, Piglet?" "I say, I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?" said Piglet. Pooh nodd...
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introduce me to you
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Hello My user name is twoworlds. I am an alcoholic. As a member of the fellowship with 29 years of unbroken sobriety behind me the quality of my life and the people who I love and who, love me has improved . This is a new experience being part of an online fellowship so please be patience wit...
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Coping with divorce or relationship breakup
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http://www.helpguide.org/mental/coping_divorce_relationship_breakup.htm
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Intoduction of myself
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Howdy, Since I've recently read a few introductions, I thought I best do the same as I have already posted a few. My name is Greg and I am an alcoholic. I've been in and out of AA for about 27 years with a collective 12 years of soberity. In the begining (the frist three times) I was told to go by various le...
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Hey Ya'll, I'm baaaaack!
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Any folks new to the program please, this intro does by no means, apply to you! Had to rejoin. Lost all my info and at 53 oldtimers starts settin' in. I ain't gonna' tell ya'll who I was before, mainly because don't want the old stuff rehashed. Be it true or what I might read into a post, be I wrong or right, i w...
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We said goodbye today
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It's been a week since I received that cowardly email from him......I've cried over it, I wanted to drink over it, I got really pissed off over it...Then I turned my attention back to me. I signed up for a Yoga class, I've been to the gym 4 times this past week. I pulled out my guitar, which was coverd in abou...
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Daily Reflections Sept 11
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MAKING AMENDS Above all, we should try to be absolutely sure that we are not delaying because we are afraid. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 87 To have courage, to be unafraid, are gifts of my recovery. They empower me to ask for help and to go forth in making my amends with a sense of dignity and hum...
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Conflict and Detachment
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In a relationship, there are those wonderful times when things go smoothly for both people, and neither person needs to focus too heavily on the concept of detachment. But there are those challenging times when one person is in crisis or changing - and we need to detach. Then there are stressful cycle...
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Relationship Expectations
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Would it surprise you to know that many times the expectations we have of others are born out of our own psyche, and have little to do with the person we have them about? Expectations in relationships can begin when we take our own ideals, standards, and views of things, and project them onto other peopl...
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Just me, LisaF... changed my name...
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Hey y'all, Well since the divorce is final and I decided to go back to my maiden name, I'm no longer Lisa "F"... so have been changing my name where I used that screen name... Phil has called me "chicken little" in here sometimes, and well, I couldn't think of anything else... l...
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Alcoholism and marriage...
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I have a problem. What if being married to my wife is the reason I drink? I became an alcoholic about 5 years into our marriage. We have been married for 8 years now. I recently went to rehab and continue to go to meetings. I had not had a drink for almost 2 months when I took one about a month ago. She kicked me o...
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I felt it today...
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I was at work and my body temp sky-rocketed.. my blood started boiling for some stupid crap that I shouldn't have been upset about in the first place. My stress was high today. Today is day 2. I spent the majority of the day wondering why I have wasted this much of my life screwing around... drowning... I...
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6 months sober and struggling
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Hi, not posted for ages went to rehad october last year and struggled afterwards. Last drink 5th March this year so just over 6 months ago. Everything been fine for the first 3 or 4 months on a high at being clean (also had drug problems but mainly alcohol) Have had a problem with over the counter pills!!...
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Awesome sayings instead of complaining for once..
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-Healing a broken relationship is not a one step process-but for the men and women willing to go the distance, the prize is worth it.... -Conditional forgiveness (Well,Im willing to forgive them if...) is no forgiveness at all. -Imagine how our marriages would change if we sought to be a host or hoste...
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WHERES THE RULE BOOK....
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I have to share this.. On two occassions now I have made comments at meetings and was told that "perhaps thats something you need to ask before the meeting, questions arent asked here, you should talk to your sponser, you dont put the money in the basket before its passed....Talk to so and so, mayb...
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Our poor children
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I am so sad right now.. My daughter, age 15 1/2 got caught drinking at a school event. She is a cheerleader and for years has said how gross drinking is after seeing myself and her father drink for years. Funny, I always said I would know when she was because she couldnt pull the wool over my eyes!!!She defi...
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Daily Reflections 9/10
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RECOVERY BY PROXY? They [the Promises] will always materialize if we work for them. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS p. 84 Sometimes I think: "Making these amends is going too far! No one should have to humble himself like that!" However, it is this very humbling of myself that brings me that much clo...
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Self-approval
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Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others. Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they disapp...
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Stopping Our Pain
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Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn. - Beyond Codependency There are many sources of pain in our life. Those of us recovering from adult children and codependency issues frequently have a cesspool of unresolved pain from the past. We have feelings, sometimes from earl...
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Daily Reflections 9/9
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OPENING NEW DOORS They [the Promises] are being fulfilled among us - sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 84 The Promises talked about in this passage are slowly coming to life for me. What has given me hope is putting Step Nine into action. The Step has allowed me to see and s...
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Daily Reflections Sept 8
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"WE ASKED HIS PROTECTION" We asked His protection and care with complete abandon. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 59 I could not manage life alone. I had tried that road and failed. My "ultimate sin" dragged me down to the lowest level I have ever reached and, unable even to function,...
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Big Book online
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http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/bigbookonline/en_tableofcnt.cfmThis book had a large hand in saving my life.......for those not familiar with it, please keep in mind it was written approx. 70 yrs ago.....
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Beer Warning To All Men!!
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Police are warning all men who frequent clubs, parties and local pubs to be alert and stay cautious when offered a drink from any woman. Many females use a date rape drug on the market called "Beer." The drug is found in liquid form and is available anywhere. It comes in bottles, cans, or from...
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Daily Reflections Sept 7
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"OUR SIDE OF THE STREET" We are there to sweep off our side of the street, realizing that nothing worth while can be accomplished until we do so, never trying to tell him what he should do. His faults are not discussed. We stick to our own. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, pp. 77-78 I made amends to my dad...
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Feeling Fried
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I probably drink on avrage 3 times a week. I used to drink ALL the time for about 5 years. Slowed down alot. I just feel confused all the time like im fried out. I cnat concentrate. like my brain has "static" or the blue screen of death. I hope you get what im saying. If I were to not drink anymore al...
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Powerless over Others
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Stop making excuses for other people. Stop making excuses for ourselves. While it is our goal to develop compassion and achieve forgiveness, acceptance, and love, it is also our goal to accept reality and hold people accountable for their behavior. We can also hold ourselves accountable for our ow...
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Below the Surface
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Finding Deep Strength We have all faced moments in our lives when the pressure mounts beyond what we feel we can handle, and we find ourselves thinking that we do not have the strength to carry on. Sometimes we have just gotten through a major obstacle or illness only to find another one waiting for us th...
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Being Thankful
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I never lose sight of the fact that just being is fun. -- Katharine Hepburn The first good news each day is that we wake up. We are breathing. Our heats are beating, our minds working. The adventure of living begins. What does the day hold in store? We have no way of knowing what surprises lie in wait for us t...
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What Is Trust?????
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Trust is: Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately. Placing confidence in other...
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Drink the poison and wait for HIM to die
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That's what I feel like right now.....All that heartache, all those years, getting sober, getting drunk, getting sober, watching me fall flat on my ass, watching me pick myself back up, he was always there. I finally make peace with the fact that our relationship is what it is and will never be anymo...
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Help me be responsible
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As a result of doing many inventories, I realize the importance of "telling on myself." I need to be accountable for my actions, big and small. So I thought I'd just put it out there to help keep me accountable and move me to action. I am having trouble working while I am at work. Sorry if yo...
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Maintenance
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"Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." As we work the first nine Steps, we prepare ourselves for the adventure of a new life. But when we approach Step Ten we commence to put our A.A. way of living to practical use, day by day, in fair weather or fou...
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Looks like I'm headed west!
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Well, my insanity is taking me to Hayfork, California lol Actually I've had quite a few people tell me it's not insane, that it'll be great to have this kind of experience, and I think so too, I'm really excited :) I've talked to my friend out there, I asked him if he was actually serious, about renting...
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I have a BIG Question...
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Hello everyone and thank you in advance for reading this. Please do not be offended I just need some help. I am a compulsive gambler and I haven't gambled in a little over 9 months. I went through the 12 steps with an AA sponsor however. Now the problem is that I still attend mostly AA meetings. I don't drin...
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Word Power
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I know I'm controlling, but so is my husband. Possibly more controlling than I am. Each time I set out to leave him, each time I started to walk away, he knew exactly what to say to pull me back in. And he knew I'd respond. He knew how to say exactly what I needed to hear to keep me where he wanted me. He knew what...
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Ordinary Moments
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Saving a time for quiet appreciation... An aesthetic life, in the broad sense, is a spiritual life. Couples can strengthen their partnership and enrich their lives by making aesthetic experiences daily events. Saving time for quiet appreciation of the good things in our lives - communicating wit...
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Family Emergency Please Read
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Dear Family, I am sorry that we have not been in the rooms for the past 2 weeks. We have had a death in the family, Johns sister. We will be able to provide more information when we get home. We have been in Virginia taking care of family in the time of crisis. We will still be out of town for a few more da...
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frustrated
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Hi all. This is my first time on line w/ u all, so be patient with me. I found this web site and was hoping it was a 24 hour type thing where I could chat with someone when the urge took over. Maybe it is and I just dont know how to use it. Im Lani, and I AM AN ALCOHOLIC. I have to say, I have been going to meetings ever...
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The Reality of this being a progressive disease
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I just wanted to share a word of caution from my experience with surgery this week. I made it clear, verbally and in writing, to both m doc and my anesthesiologist that I am a substance abuser. I won't go into details about the surgery itself. It went pretty well. My body doesnt handle anesthetics well an...
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Finding Direction
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I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life. -- Anony...
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Catch a bigger one!
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Hey everybody, Here is the corrected version. Join us for a fantastic time. Do you need to get on with your life and have some fun. I finally got sober and have been sober now for over 20 years. I go to men's stags and I get involved in life with my buddies in AA. In the past I did not get together with th...
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Accepting Love
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Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn't have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate. To compensate for the other person's unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or most of the work. Doing...
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My strange day.
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Today was different. My GF and baby are off island for a couple weeks, and the solitude is nice. In the sake of prudence I can't say a whole lot about the relationship between baby mom and I online, except to say that we're as ill suited for each other as two people can be. But we have the best kid ever and so th...
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Slow Down
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"The soul requires duration of time -- rich, thick, deep, velvety time -- and it thrives on rhythm. Soul cant be hurried or harried .... We may go through many events in the day and experience nothing because the soul has not had the opportunity to feel them from many different points of view.&quo...
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Labor Day
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Labor Day weekend (in the US)........and to many that means an extra day of "vacation". There are festivities going on in many cities and towns. Barbecues, camping, swimming, boating ect. And many of these activities will/do include alcohol. By Tues. morning the papers wi...
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"Go Easy"
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Go easy. You may have to push forward, but you don't have to push so hard. Go in gentleness - go in peace. Do not be in so much of a hurry. At no day, no hour, no time are you required to do more than you can do in peace. Frantic behaviors and urgency are not the foundation for our new way of life. Do not be in too muc...
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