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forgetfulness
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It ocurrs to me that when I was drinking there are so many small, yet rich experiences I lost out on. Like the 1st cup of coffee in the morning, which I am currently enjoying . We live in such a fast paced society that we have lost ways of healthy winding down in the evening, and pleasant ways to negotiat...
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Just checkin in
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Just wanted to share some gratitude for where I am today in recovery. As you may recall, I relapsed three weeks before my 18th sobriety birthday (although the "set up" was a year prior when I got "too busy" and stopped going to meetings). I spent a lot of the first year back just t...
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Step One Questions
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Step One. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol & that our lives had become unmanageable. The Disease of Alcoholism What does my alcoholism mean to me? Has my disease been active recently, if so how? What is it like when Im obsessed with something? Does my thinking follow a certain patte...
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Giving
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Learning to be a healthy giver can be a challenge. Many of us got caught up in compulsive giving - charitable acts motivated by uncharitable feelings of guilt, shame, obligations, pity, and moral superiority.
We now understand that catering and compulsive giving don't work. They backfire.
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The promises do come true...
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The one promise that has evaded me over the years has been the fear of economic security. Raising two girls on my own, in a small Kansas town of 3000, has been tough. One of the ongoing consequences of my alcoholism was the fact I walked away from a chance at a nursing degree, with an academic scholarship i...
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Is there a difference?
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I am wondering if all addictions are the same, chemical or not. My husband is addicted to an A woman and it seems to be all consuming. At work there are complaints that he spends "hours" in the bathroom - he is busy texting his g/f. I've seen the bills and they must text back and forth 30 times a...
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coming back
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hello. i thougth i would introduce myself, i just signed up on this forum. My name is Sarah, and I have 27 days sober. I have a sponsor, a homegroup, and i have been making meetings. My sponsor is taking me through the bigbook, and i just re read bills story. i have had time before (1 yr then relapsed. 1 1/2...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 9th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Third, alcoholics recover their proper relationships with other people. They think less about themselves and more about others. They try to help other alcoholics. They make new friends so that they're no longer lonely. They try to live a life of service instead of selfishn...
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Imagine My Surprise...
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Amongst all the bills and crap in the mail yesterday.... an envelope from my counsellor. Have not seen him in a few months. First thought, "There's Anthem Blue Cross and Blue Shield again, denying coverage..." Not so. I opened the envelope and I have a $5 credit, which I overpaid out of pock...
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Thank You All.
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I have to thank all who come here, and post. I learn something from every post. It might be strength, focus,love, or direction, every post helps in some way. THANK'S.
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Just Sharing
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Hi Everyone,
Danielle mentioned, in a post yesterday, that I hadn't started a thread with a share recently. So, here I am and thanks for the nudge Danielle.
I hurt my neck in January, shortly after I got back from visiting my parents, and it's still painful and troublesome at times. It looks as if it...
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Follow up on I have a problem brewing
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I just got through sweeping and mopping my floors, again. I could not believe how much dirt my dust mop picked up and then I wet mopped and I could not believe how much dirt was in the water. I guess some of it was dirt I missed the first time and some of it is dirt that has accumulated since I mopped last time...
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Are YOU Alcoholic ~ only YOU can decide
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To answer this question ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honesty as you can.Is drinking making your home life unhappy? Does your drinking make you careless of your familys welfare? Do you drink because you are shy with other people? Is drinking affecting your reputation? Do y...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 7th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In A.A. alcoholics find a way to solve their personality problems. They do this by recovering three things. First, they recover their personal integrity. They pull themselves together. They get honest with themselves and with other people. They face themselves and their...
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I have a problem.
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I have not been an assertive person in the past, and I am learning to be more assertive. I found a neat part time job milking, and feeding sheep. Sheep cheese is a big thing here. Well I got myself into a situation that I fixed a few things that were broken, and now they want me to do more maintenance for t...
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Self Care
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I don't precisely know what you need to do to take care of yourself. But I know you can figure it out. -- Beyond Codependency
Rest when you're tired.
Take a drink of cold water when you're thirsty.
Call a friend when you're lonely.
Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed.
Many of us have learn...
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Eastcoast Scott
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Well, not to embarrass anyone but just wanted to shout out a great big HELLO and WE MISS YOU SCOTT!!!!!! I hope all is well and that springtime is bringing you the sunshine you've been craving!!! Stop by and say hello!!!!! Lani
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24Hrs a Day ~ 8th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Second, alcoholics recover their faith in a Power greater than themselves. They admit that they're helpless by themselves and they call on that Higher Power for help. They surrender their lives to God, as they understand Him. They put their drink problem in God's hands and l...
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I have a problem brewing
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My apartment manager recently did an inspection of my apartment. I have to admit my apartment was dirty, somewhat, I was in the process of cleaning when my apartment manager came in. What needed to be done was that the floors needed mopping and the frig needed some cleaning. The apartment manager s...
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The gift
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The Gift By accepting this sobriety gratefully, as a gift, and using it willingly, I have become aware of other gifts available to me as a human being. To get the benefits, I need only to ask and then use. This is the crux of the program and the crux of living: acceptance and action. The gift of understandi...
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Those Old Time Feelings
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I still have bad days. But that's okay. I used to have bad years. -- Anonymous
Sometimes, the old feelings creep back in. We may feel fearful, ashamed, and hopeless. We may feel not good enough, unlovable, victimized, helpless, and resentful about it all. This is codependency, a condition some des...
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Meetings?
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Hey I'm on the chat and no one is showing up i went on at 8 and no one was there so now im on at 9....?
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sad
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I find it sad that after a year, I still really want to drink. Maybe I am grieving. There are currently no stressors in my life, things are really good. Friends, family- all healthy and happy. I really liked going to sleep drunk. I feel ashamed about that so it's important that I say it. A good test f...
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peaceful
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today was a day of gratitude for me- the weather was gorgeous- I planted a rosebush (guaranteed not to fail- right.....) but I planted it anyway, with hope. And yes, there is a metaphor there. Relentless self analysis can be counterproductive, at the risk of sounding clueless again . I chewe...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 6th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ All alcoholics have personality problems. They drink to escape from life, to counter act feelings of loneliness or inferiority, or because of some emotional conflict within them, so that they cannot adjust themselves to life. Alcoholics cannot stop drinking unless they...
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Less is MORE, for me at least........
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What a freeing weekend this is becoming. Every spring, I do a major "Pitching Out Session" that lasts for a few weekends. Room by room, basement included, "if it is no longer useful to me, everything MUST GO". (Sounds like AA) I have been wandering the house deciding what can st...
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change
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Change In the process of change I can recognize two immensely significant steps for me. The first step I took when I admitted to myself for the first time that all my previous thinking might be wrong. The second step came when I first consciously wished to believe. As a result of this experience I am conv...
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Your First Time
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How did u feel when u started writing things about how alcohol destroyed ur life- was it easy, how long did it take? How soon after entering fellowship u actually did it- did u do it because u felt inclined, or ur sponsor said so, or u thought u will do it beacuse the program requires u to look fearlessly int...
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husband problems
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Earlier today I had the thought: everything is my husband's fault. If only it were that easy, and I didn't have to take responsibility for my actions. He's a critical guy (just like my dad -- what a surprise). I seldom hear good things about myself. Just subtle digs or outright criticism. Like, &...
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Denial
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Dealing with Denial in Alcoholism by Mark S. Gold, MD October 4, 2006 Denial is a characteristic distortion in thinking experienced by people with alcoholism. For decades, people who treat alcoholics, and recovering alcoholics themselves, have puzzled over why alcoholics continue to drin...
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Patience
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How sick and tired we may become of people telling us to be patient or to learn patience. How frustrating it can be to want to finally have something, or to move forward, and then not have that happen. How irritating to have someone tell us to wait while our needs have not been met and were in the midst of anx...
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new daily reading
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Since most of us read the daliy reflections on our own and it was really Doll's baby to begin with, I thought I would start my own reading or quote or whatever for the day.....Feel free to comment or add to it! Its really for me but hope others will benefit from it.......It may be random stuff but bear with m...
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Walk in dry places
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Walk in Dry Places Letting Go of Resentment___ Releasing the Past How can we really put an end to festering resentments toward other people? "Pray for these people," the Old-timers said. "Go out of your way to do something good for them." This is a big order for most of us, bu...
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scared and confused
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I've been told by my psychiatrist and people who care about me that I have a drinking problem...and I know that I do....but I don't want to stop drinking. I mean I'm only 18...I want to be able to drink champagne on special occasions and drink on my 21st birthday :(. What do I do!??
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Writing Down the first Step
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Dear All, Today I heard from the woman I requested to be my sponsor over internet.We were both online, and I told her about my slip.Perhaps my fellow members called her, perhaps its just a miracle that she was around today.She asked me to write down the first step- how alcohol affected my life.Though I...
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Detaching in Love
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Detachment is a key to recovery from codependency. It strengthens our healthy relationships - the ones that we want to grow and flourish. It benefits our difficult relationships - the ones that are teaching us to cope. It helps us!
Detachment is not something we do once. It's a daily behavior in rec...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 5th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ People often ask what makes the A.A. program work. One of the answers is that A.A. works because it gets people away from themselves as the center of the universe. And it teaches them to rely more in the fellowship of others and on strength from God. Forgetting ourselves in fell...
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Strange things are occurring
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I am the site admin, web master of my little forum. All passwords on my little forum somehow got changed to random garbage. I maybe paranoid, but we may have been hacked. I sent out emails to eveybody telling to change their password on my little forum. I am changing my password here just in case.
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Negotiating Conflicts
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Recovery is about more than walking away. Sometimes it means learning to stay and deal. It's about building and maintaining relationships that work. -- Beyond Codependency
Problems and conflicts are part of life and relationships - with friends, family, loved ones, and at work -- problem-solv...
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Hello, My name is Glenn S. and I am an alcoholic and addict
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I have a hell of a story to tell. When I was 18 years old I smoked a joint and got so stoned and about a week later I drank about 12 beers and smoked about 2 joints and did I ever get messed up. The next two years I smoked more and more and drank more and more, switched from beer to bourbon and switched smoking po...
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Drifting away
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Hello Everyone ! After a long time I am here. I am getting feeling of drifting away from the program with each passing day.Before I am swept away by the current once and for all(perhaps) I wanted to say my words.Its been wonderful and will continue being so for as long AA will last for me, time spent wit...
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slips, trips, uncertainities, and spirituality
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I don't stop by here as much as I probably should, but a lot of what I read tonight is about the uncertainity of tomorrow. Believe in your Higher Power and everything will work itself out. Below is a graphic I recently made of a picture I drew when I was sober about a month. I really wanted and needed a Higher...
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My new blog
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I just want to let all of you know about my new blog. http://www.alcoholicstory.com/ A diary of my journey throught recovery. -- Edited by anonymous at 23:32, 2008-04-02 -- Edited by anonymous at 23:33, 2008-04-02
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Acceptance
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Surrender to the moment. Ride it out and through, for all it's worth. Throw yourself into it.
Stop resisting.
So much of our anguish is created when we are in resistance. So much relief, release, and change are possible when we accept, simply accept.
We waste our time, expend our energy, and mak...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 3rd April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When I was drinking, I was absolutely selfish, I thought of myself first, last, and always. The universe revolved around me at the center. When I woke up in the morning with a hangover, my only thought was how terrible I felt and about what I could do to make myself feel better. An...
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And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 2nd April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Since I've been in A.A., have I made a start towards becoming more loving to my family and friends? Do I visit my parents? Am I more appreciative of my spouse than I was before? Am I grateful to my family for having put up with me? Have I found real understanding with my children? Do...
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Facing Our Darker Side
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Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. -- Step Four of Al-Anon
By the time we get to the Fourth of the Twelve Steps, we are ready to face our darker side, the side that prevents us from loving others, from letting others love us, and from enjoying life and ourselves. The purpose of...
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Daily Reflections 4/1
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LOOKING WITHIN April 1, 2008 | Leave a Comment ÃÂ Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 42 Step Four is the vigorous and painstaking effort to discover what the liabilities in each of us have been, and are. I want to find exactly how, wh...
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Whaddup?
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Thank you all for your recent help with my "Kick Myself in the Butt/Get over It" post. I found a great deal of help in writing out a Step 10, and I have made a good start in doing this regularly. I am also taking some time at night BEFORE I am dog-tired and passing out, to review the day and give stu...
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