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Looking for help to recover from alcholism
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A year and one half ago I was informed by husband that he had had in excess of 20 affairs-I was devastated...and still find it hard to forget. He diagnosed himself as a sex addict and had a few counciling sessions as well as reading a pile of books. We are successful business partners with 2 20ish college...
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Im here, im alive AND im sober for today.
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Hi everybody. Thank you for all your posts the other night. I have only just read them. I blacked out and found myself in bed from then until just now, going thru the cold turkey, sickness, sweats etc, we have all been there. Anyways, feeling a little better today, at least im up out of bed and I am goin...
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dljsfhs jkgszjldgk serr...Almost drank today...[more ambling]
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ALmost did, but didn't. Didn't have time to goto a meeting either cause this book im sposed to be writin is due in seven days otherwise the publisher, who im damn lucky to have, is gonna cut me loose for being a flake (had like 90124193841 extensions already)...so too busy b/w work and this to go... Anywa...
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Refuse to be a Victim
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"We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the problem. We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalize our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimized." -- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross Nothing and no one can make us a victim...
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Met a man in the meeting tonight.
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At the meeting tonight, there was a man there from when I was last sober 4 years ago. We looked at each other long and hard and at the ciggi break outside we realised where we knew each other from. I had only seen the guy twice at a big book meeting and we were curled up laughing because the chair had us all in...
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Daily Reflections 12/4
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INTO ACTION A.A. is more than a set of principles; it is a society of alcoholics in action. We must carry the message, else we ourselves can wither and those who haven't been given the truth may die. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 13 I desperately wanted to live, but if I was to succeed, I had to become active in our God-...
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Second attempt to post, first failed or I can't find it
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I tried to post a few hours ago, but I guess I am computer ignornant because I can't find my post. Any suggestions?
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 4th Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ If we allow an alcoholic thought to lodge in our minds for any length of time, we are in danger of having a slip. Therefore we must dispel such thoughts at once, by refusing their admittance and by immediately putting constructive thoughts in their place. Remember that alcoho...
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Thought For The Day
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Everywhere I go..... There I am.
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 3rd Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ There is some alcoholic thought, conscious or unconscious, that comes before every slip. As long as we live, we must be on the lookout for such thoughts and guard against them. In fact, our A.A. training is mostly to prepare us, to make us ready to recognize such thoughts at on...
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Hope
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"Hope is a belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one's life. Hope implies a certain amount of perseverance i.e., believing that a positive outcome is possible even when there is some evidence to the contrary." This weekend seems to have been a rough one for al...
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Grieving A relationship
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When you lose a close friend or love relationship, you are likely to feel great sorrow and heartache. Even when a bad relationship ends, there can be deep pain and grief. Coping with a divorce or relationship breakup of any kind can be very painful, and most people go through this experience at some poi...
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Developing Healthy Tolerance
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Many of us are skilled at denying and discounting what hurts us. We may endure a particular situation, telling ourselves repeatedly it's not that bad; we shouldn't be so demanding; it'll change any day; we should be able to live with it; it doesn't annoy us; the other person didn't really mean it; it do...
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couldn't sleep... interesting night...
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hey y'all, well, got past those couple of days of depression, at least the constant depression anyway... still having bad ups and downs though, but not as severe downs at least... I went to a meeting Saturday night, one I hadn't tried yet that my sponsor suggested, was just me and a couple of older men, r...
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Daily Reflections 12/3
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IN ALL OUR AFFAIRS . . . . we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 106 I find that carrying the message of recovery to other alcoholics is easy because it helps me to stay sober and it provides me with a sense o...
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Prayers, prayers, and more prayers
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I've just got off the phone with my son. My AH's nephew committed suicide this afternoon. Think the mind is in shock. If you all remember this was the one whom I had posted about sometime in May. He was in a serious motorcycle accident. He survived was back at work and just had a new little on...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 2nd Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The thoughts that come before having a slip seem to be partly subconscious. And yet it is likely that at least part of these thoughts get into our consciousness. An idle thought connected with drinking casually pops into our mind. That is the crucial moment. Will I harbor that...
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Putting Our Life on Hold
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We cannot afford to put our needs on hold, waiting for another person to fulfill us, make our life better, or come around and be who and what we want that person to be. That will create resentment, hostility, an unhealthy dependency, and a mess to deal with later on.
If we have decided we want a particul...
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I hope i didnt upset anybody, it was just my experience.
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I hope hope my last message didnt upset anybody with what I said about there being a lot of sick people in the rooms but I am afraid there is. I really did witness it first hand and took it to heart. Im sorry. Or is this just my insecurities again.
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Random ramblings about the weekend + this crap really works
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Well, hells bells.... First off lemme say that you alkies have helped me a lot. This forum is sorta like a meeting in that you sift thru and thru and yeah, stuffs cool and whatnot, but every once in a while, you pickup a real gem of wisdom...And when i was bitching about this and that, someone said "Yo...
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Ive been to a meeting
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Ive just got back from a really good meeting that the lady from the helpline took me to. It was in a church and there were lots of really nice people there. I even met up with an old friend who was a bridesmaid with me at my sons godmothers wedding. Feeling great.
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Reply To Joni: 12 Days Sober Again
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Hi Joni! I have some ESH for you. I was sober for 3 years. I was very active in service work and meetings and sponsored half the women in San Diego. Then I got a job, ut oh! Gone went the meetings, service work, and sponsees. I stopped praying and being nice to people. I had the affair not my husband....
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Following Direction
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Today my sweet husband bought me a present, a DVD player! Wow! Well neither my husband nor I are very swift when it comes to anything technical. So when we discovered that our tv's are too old and dont have the right holes I could feel the panic set in. Then lookin at the stuff made me more panicy cause i...
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When I was drinking
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I had a lot of willpower.....for years I managed to stop trying to quit drinking. I always hated the sight of liquor....that's why I drank it so fast. There were times that if I got any higher....I would have needed a safety harness. Occasionally, I was held up by friends on my way home....it was the...
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Whining, moaning, sharing....and finally...ES&H
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What a mess my world has been lately..... The good news, I think I'm over the coffee mug crisis. I shared it with John yesterday and it was the one thing that he could relate to! He has his own 'mug story". His is about a car. Then, of course, he proceeded to tell me it's just a cup, yada, yada, yada........
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excited
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Excited about a meeting tonight. I have not been to one in without being dragged in months, and it feels so good to know that after my relapse, I am going "Home" tonight. Topic: How can i keep my appreciation of meetings, and keep GOING even after things get "normal" again? Thanks...
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Big book
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As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, ange...
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try "reply" at top in blue border
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I see that St Pete Dean and KLT were able to post replies by clicking the "reply" at the top of a post in the blue border. Please try that until our site administrator can fix the problem. Hope it works for everyone.
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Daily Reflections 12/2
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SERENITY Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 106 As I continued to go to meetings and work the Steps, something began to happen to me. I felt confused because I wasn't sure what it was that I was feeling, and then I realized I was experi...
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Letting Go of the Little Stuff-OM
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We experience numerous disappointments each and every day. Our expectations go unmet, our plans are blocked by circumstance, our wishes go unfulfilled, and we discover that our lives are subject to a myriad of forces beyond our conscious control. In some cases, our response is powerful because we...
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Re: Plucked up the courage to make that call.
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Hi Kaz,
That is great news and I am so pleased that you 'phoned the help-line. I know that everybody you meet at meetings will be terrific and so helpful.
It was great, too, to read that you are feeling better than you have for a while.
Please keep posting and letting us know how things go for you, won...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 1st Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The thoughts that come before having a slip are often largely unconscious. It is a question whether or not our subconscious minds ever become entirely free from alcoholic thoughts as long as we live. For instance, some of us dream about being drunk when we are asleep, even aft...
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12 Days Sober (again)
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Hi there. Well, I did it. I picked up right before my 3 years anniversary, which would have been Feb 1 '08. I became complacent. Quit going to meetings. Quit taking antidepressants which history has shown for me is a vital part of my well being. Got wrapped up in school and isolating and me me me stuff. Fou...
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Plucked up the courage to make that call.
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I finally, just 10 minutes ago plucked up the courage to phone the national helpline and spoke to a lovely lady who just lives in the next village. She has her own meeting there on a sunday evening and is picking me up to go to that and then taking me to others during the week. What a sign that was, to ring a N...
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Never hire an alcoholic as your attorney [more alkie bs]
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Man i feel like such an alkie right now (sober or not). Good news is my night sweats seem to finally be abating, and i can actually sleep for a few hours at a time without burning up...Night sweats are a sign of withdrawals i assume right? My luck i probly have lymphoma... Anyways, So ive been working on thi...
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wtf is wrong with me?
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I am really not in a good place at all, and haven't been for the last 2 days. I haven't had these kinds of thoughts in such a long time and it just hit me these past 2 nights. Just really depressed, and off and on thoughts of hurting myself, actually had a brief thought of suicide before I got the sense to cal...
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anyone having trouble with "Reply"?
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Is anyone still having with the "Reply" feature? I came on this morning and saw that a couple could not get it to post. I did post a reply to Carolinagirl's post and it worked for me, so I am hoping that whatever glich caused the problem is gone.
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I cant reply either but I want to thank you all.
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Thank you all so much for your support. I have just spent an awful few days trying to find my way back to this site in a panic. My nephew found it for me and added it to my favourites today so hopefully no more panicking. For some reason it wont let me reply on the original message to you all but again I want...
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Reply
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Hi all I cant reply either!! Lots of good topics going on.. Lisa I hope things are better!! Call someone or get someone to come over. You mean way to much to all of us!! Gotta run tho, Womans AA luncheon today! Should be a huge crowd! Just need to find some pants to fit my big butt so I can eat lots!!! HAHA Told y...
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Daily Reflections 12/1
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"SUGGESTED" STEPS Our Twelfth Step also says that as a result of practicing all the Steps, we have each found something called a spiritual awakening. . . . A.A.'s manner of making ready to receive this gift lies in the practice of the Twelve Steps in our program." TWELVE STEPS AND TWEL...
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Anyone figure out how to reply to a topic yet?
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I had the same problem last night, and this morning but I noticed SOBS was abel to reply, how did you do it?
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Website Meltdown????
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I can post a new topic, but can't reply to any.......thought it was my computer till I read Lisa's post......hmmm.......
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RE: CarolinaGirl
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What's goin on with the problems with replying?? tried in firefox and IE, wouldn't let it go through... anyway... guess I'll copy Wren and do a new post then... Wren said... "How easy it is to forget the soul and spirit sickness that goes hand in hand with alcoholism, let alone the insanity. We...
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Letting People Be There for Us
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Sometimes, we need nurturing. Sometimes, we need people to support us.
Many of us have been deprived of support and nurturing for so long we may not realize it's something we want and need. Many of us have learned to block our stop ourselves from getting what we want and need.
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Hi to all
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It sure has been awhile, hope that everyone is healthy and doing well, it looks like this site has had some changes, just wanted to say hi. Toni
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The Power of Disengagement
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Playing Mind Games For better or worse, many people have been raised to believe that communicating in an honest and open way will not get them what they want. They have learned, instead, to play mind games or go on power trips in the service of their egos agenda. People stuck in this outmoded and ineffic...
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I need a little HELP
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Hi, well I first just checked in after a long while, then I decided to ask for some help from you. I have a very dear friend, very close to her, and she and her husband are going through what I think so many people are going through, Home Foreclosure. My problem, is I Pray so hard for them, try so hard to let go a...
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Hi All...Everything's o.k.
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Hello everyone! Sorry I didn't post letting you know my whereabouts. I've had a couple of p.m.'s asking (thank you for the caring) and Thought it would be quicker to post here. Michelle and I are moving and have been working on it for the last month, so checking in has been difficu...
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Could be a Positive
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Some thing happened today, It's weird something happened for what reasons I have no idea, maybe it was just meant to be. I've recieved a phone call this mornig, in regards my childrens real father, kinda of wierd but maybe this is what needed to take place. Him and I haven't spoken in 16 years, when my son...
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Speaking out
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Ok, this isn't really about recovery, but this is something I have seen quite a bit of and heard about in the little over a year I've been in AA, mostly and *especially* with online groups. I have never had a problem here, you all are family, and I trust y'all. But there is a chatroom I go to where I see a who...
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