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Judging? I'm scared.. =/
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I stated a post about my husband's drinking. I said how long he drink and how long he was sober.. and it's a good bit of years.. people always give me hell because I am married to an older man.. I do not wish to disclose his age as I cannot stand to be upset.. especially not right now.. people don't understand...
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Crying (sorry if I'm posting too much)
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Sorry for asking another question.. I'll try to shut up. I've just been needing to talk about things for so long.. to another alcoholic.. not just my best friend or my husband. Even tho they are truly supportive and hubby was alcoholic for 10 years and recovered.. I don't think they truly understand. H...
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Day 4
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Hi guys.. first off.. let me say THANK YOU for the wonderful welcome.. Today is Day 4 of my sobriety. It got VERY hard last night. I felt like I was going to crash today, but haven't. Doing better today. Calmer.. I do have a question, tho. Is it normal to feel sad for giving up drinking?? I feel like I'm losin...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 28th May 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In A.A. we learn that since we are alcoholics we can be uniquely useful people. That is, we can help other alcoholics when perhaps somebody who has not had our experience with drinking could not help them. That makes us uniquely useful. The A.A.s are a unique group of people bec...
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4th step directions
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I am starting a fourth step, and im not sure if i should put myself on it. many people say " we spent our whole lives thinking of ourselves...Self is the problem." and they say dont.. others say i should. my sponsor asked me why i was angry with myself, and i realized it was guilt and not anger - so...
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Just checkin in
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Hi all Just thought I'd check, had a situation that has taken me my surprise yesterday but thought it could be a sign,, But I guess it could be a good thing, and take some time to rethink things through and start working on a better tomorrow. It's come to feeling fed up and well time to take a break and wor...
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Many Roads, One Journey
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This is the name of a book by a woman named Charlotte Davis Kasl. She has helped me in my sobriety, and I wonder if anyone is familiar with it. It is a feminist approach, and may seem somewhat rebellious. Yet she is very supportive of what Bill W. espoused. Thoughts? Beach Girl
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NO MAUDLIN GUILT
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May 27 Daily Reflections NO MAUDLIN GUILT Day by day, we try to move a little toward God's perfection. So we need not be consumed by maudlin guilt... AS BILL SEES IT, p. 15 When I first discovered that there is not a single "don't" in the Twelve Steps of A.A., I was disturbed because this discov...
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Change
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May 27, 2008 Change In the process of this change I can recognize two immensely significant steps for me. The first step I took when I admitted to myself for the first time that all my previous thinking might be wrong. The second step came when I first consciously wished to believe. As a result of this exp...
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Recognizing Choices
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We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.
We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life. We may feel locked into behaviors such as caretaking or controlling.
Feeling trapped is a symptom of codependency. When we hear ourselves say, I have to take care of this person ....
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Hello all, I appreciate anyone who can help me with helping my mother in-law!
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Where do I begin? My mother in law has been an alcoholic for about 6 years, I met my wife about 4 years ago. I dont really know the "real" Denise, I only know Denise with a desease. I see and feel alot of the pain that is caused by her desease. She has 3 children, the oldest is 26 and the other two are...
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Valor
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May 26, 2008 Valor When World War II broke out, this spiritual principle had its first major test. AA's entered the services and were scattered all over the world. Would they be able to take discipline, stand up under fire, and endure the monotony and misery of war? Would the kind of dependence they had...
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New Addiction --- thanks, Phil !
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The automobile driving manual says the average driver's reaction time is: .75 seconds....... or 1 car length for every 10 mph...... Test your average reaction time.. Be very careful this can be addictive. Click on the link below and good luck. Reaction Test I'm "bobbin bobcat' every time! --...
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character defects on parade
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I have a temper. I can be a petulant b*tch. Although I think I'm too new to focus on my many character defects, I do know that my tendency toward self righteous anger does not serve me well. I'm embarrassed that I reacted so strongly to the recent controversial thread about AA, etc. Without exceptio...
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Insanity = ME!
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I continue to live in a vicious cycle. When it come to my son, when it comes to my John. I keep thinking with enough time things will change, be different, afterall don't they understand my good alcoholic thinking! I'm sober now!!!!!!!!! I 'get it' this time, it's different! BUT, I'm not listening t...
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Yesterday Today and Tomorrow
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THERE are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is YESTERDAY with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the...
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Hello
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There's an original subject line for you :). Anyway, my name isn't Yak, obviously, but I guess it will do. Came here for the same reason that I guess most of the rest of you did - ie because I really, really am finding it difficult to control my drinking. I've reached a stage where I feel mentally and physic...
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Fear Of The Unknown
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In most people there is a deeply seated fear that prevents us from taking control of our lives and shaping them to suit us. It is a fear that keeps us average, keeps us doing all the same things everybody else is doing, simply because it is the familiar thing to do. The fear of the unknown. You probably know...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 26th May 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In twelfth step work, the fourth thing is conversion. Conversion means change. Prospects must learn to change their way of thinking. Until now, everything they've done has been connected with drinking. Now they must face a new kind of life, without liquor. They must see and...
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http://www.treatmentcenters.org
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href="http://www.treatmentcenters.org">http://www.treatmentcenters.org</a>
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Bryan started it
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Reading Bryan's story made me realize I need to share a bit of my own, for me, and if it helps someone else in the process, then that's a double blessing. My son is going thru such a hard time right now and I need the reminder that he is his mother's child........ The first time I ever got drunk I was 6 yrs old. M...
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Happy memorial day
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May your day be filled with remembrance and love of those who served us so well -- Edited by lani at 02:18, 2008-05-24
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24Hrs A Day 25 May 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In twelth-step work, the third thing is conviction. Prospects must be convinced that they honestly want to stop drinking. They must see and admit that their life is unmanageable. They must face the fact that they must do something about their drinking. They must be absolute...
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24 Hrs A Day~24th May 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In twelth-step work, the second thing is confession. By frankly sharing with prospects, we get them talking about their own experiences. They will open up and confess things to us that they haven't been able to tell other people. And they feel better when this confession ha...
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My Story
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I thought with all the new people here lately I would tell my story, I've heard it said if you hang around AA you'll hear your own story in someone else . A bit of back ground I grew up with a controling parent who is the daughter of an alcoholic. I was akward and uncoordinated, I was the kid picked last for eve...
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Hi folks
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Thanks for all the warm messages of concern. I'm back home now, and so grateful to be here. I made it through the conference unscathed. In fact, a few remarkable things happened. I read the 3rd step prayer in the big book (finally -- a crusty old timer told me to read it weeks ago) when I couldn't sleep...
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Suggestions on Spontaneity??
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Surprise, surprise world....... since I am the new girl on the block at work, and semi-full-time (PRN), I get the next 6 days off, as one of our prescribers has her wedding/honeymoon starting this weekend. Sooooo.... Dean, are you listening? I want to make a list of maybe just a couple of things I will d...
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check the big deck
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here tis -- Edited by lani at 17:13, 2008-05-23 -- Edited by lani at 17:14, 2008-05-23
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Can Your Sponsor Be Your Boyfriend?
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He said that it's usually best to have a girl sponsor a girl and a guy sponsor a guy because they'll be more on the person's mind than just getting them better (sober) but it is allowed. He also said that it has to be an unbiased person but I don't know who else I'd want to be my sponsor than him as he's a lot to me...
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Movie: Drunk in Public (by David J Sperling)
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Very heart wrenching story. I have two uncles on two sides of the family that for parts of their lives could have been the subject of a documentary like this. I could have watched this every time I thought I didn't give a damn and circumvented a lot of self destructive crap. The Trailer: http://www.yout...
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God, please bless that Son of a Bitch!!!!!!!!!!!
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It saddens me that my son's father has never wanted to help with the financial responsibility of raising a child. And has never been a role model either. He's a drunk and a drug addict and has been for 30 yrs. In 1994 he was court ordered to pay $61.00. Period! He quit his job so that was all they could take a...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 21st May 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ One of the finest things about A.A. is the sharing. Sharing is a wonderful thing because the more you share the more you have. In our old drinking days, we didn't do much sharing. We used to keep things to ourselves, partly because we were ashamed, but mostly because we were sel...
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Congrats on 7mths, Lani!!!
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Hey Cool, Lady ~ Well Done! Would you like to go over & calculate how many days/heartbeats that is on the Silkworth calculator :D Thanks for all the love, commitment, ES&H you share with us on MIP. GO GURL! Danielle x
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 23rd May 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The Twelfth Step of A.A., working with others, can be subdivided into five parts, five words beginning with the letter C confidence, confession, conviction, con version, and continuance. The first thing in trying to help other alcoholics is to get their confidence. We do t...
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Brand Spankin' New
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Hello everyone! I hope it's okay to post an introduction here...I wasn't sure if there were other forums for that purpose. First I would like (well actually need) to say that I am an alcoholic. It is very difficult for me to accept this b/c I can go without a drink for a few days but then as soon as I do have...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 22nd May 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ What impresses us most at an A.A. meeting is the willingness to share, without holding anything back. And pretty soon we find ourselves sharing also. We start telling our own experiences and by so doing we help the other person. And when we've got these things off our chest, we...
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Nephews Wedding Invitation
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To everyone, Just thinking and praying for God's Wisdom and devine intervention and the answers will come that I am seeking. Here is what my head is saying to myself The Lord, and you right now. Should we attend this wedding at there home in Arizona or not? My 27 year old Nephew that lives in Ariz...
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Enjoyment
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Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced.
The belief that we must square our shoulders and get through a meager, deprived existence for far off rewards in Heaven is a codependent belief.
Yes, most of us still have times when life will be stressful and challenge our endurance ski...
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stuck!
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The best laid plans...I tried to set up in advance a meeting each night -- I emailed the local AA chapter rep, who at first was responsive and sounded like he would help me get to meetings. Now, he won't return my emails, and no one is answering the "24 hour line." I don't have a car here, and th...
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decided to join AA
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Like I say in my bio, I am an alcoholic and need help but it was gettting help that was always the hardest part for me. My boyfriend who also used to go to AA says that I am spiritually sick, which I definitely have to agree with. I've lost my faith in God and I know that in order to get better I have to regain my...
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How do you answer the question, "Why don't you drink?"
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I like to talk about the things I have some experience with, and after struggling with this disease for 28 years this is one of them.... Invariably someone, somewhere, sometime will offer us a drink. A polite "no thanks" is usually followed by "You don't drink? Why not?" Early i...
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Getting Needs Met
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I want to change careers . . . I need a friend . . .I'm ready to be in a relationship . . .
Regularly, we become aware of new needs. We may need to change our behavior with our children. We may need a new couch, love and nurturing, a dollar, or help.
Do not be afraid to recognize a want or need. The birth of a wa...
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((jc2008))
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How you holding up, gal? Thinking of you.......
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Everyone know about Silkworth.net?
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Sorry if this has been mentioned before, Dr. Silkworth was the doctor who wrote "the doctor's opinion" in the Big Book. The website bearing his name has some interesting material on it. If you are into the mp3 player thing, you can download several audio recordings here. Some great stuff,...
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Losing Stuff
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One of my biggest pet peeves and fears is about/surrounds losing stuff. I'm not a "a place for everything and everything in it's place" kinda person. Don't get me wrong, I'm not completely disorganized, I just tend to keep the stuff that I'm using regularly or stuff that involes things...
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594,049,808 Sober Heatbeats!
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Sobriety Calculator http://www.silkworth.net/aa/bb.html -
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 20th May 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ If we get up in a meeting and tell something about ourselves in order to help the other person, we feel a whole lot better. It's the old law of the more you give the more you get. Witnessing and confession are part of keeping sober. You never know when you may help somebody. Helping...
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waltzing
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i'm back to waltzing. you know, steps 1, 2, 3, ...1, 2, 3. at 34 years old i started back to college and actually made the dean's list! i was certain that i had killed more brain cells than that! lol i started to become self sufficient, which was my big mistake. i forgot that i am powerless--not only with alc...
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I'm going on a business trip to SC this afternoon and will stay through Friday. The schedule indicates that there are receptions in the evenings with hors d'ouevres and wine. I don't trust myself to go. I've been looking up meetings online and plan to go to one each night. I'm still nervous, though...
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My Alcoholic Beginnings ~ Teenaged to 05
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My Recovery has been slowly taking over in capability. Such knowledge seeping & simpering through waiting to take flight. Building up like an inferno of fire & brimstone in the depths of my belly & sanity. I've been becoming well. I was frustrated for a little while. The knowledge but no...
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