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serious question
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im a few weeks away from 3 yrs sobriety. did anyone's heads still feel cloudy after this amount of time? of course, when i quit the drink my head was totally fucked up big time, and the periods of time and severity of foggyness have both lessened, but still it seems to persist. i did have loads of black outs...
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Feelings
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It's okay to have and feel our feelings - all of them.
Years into recovery, we may still be battling with ourselves about this issue. Of all the prohibitions we've lived with, this one is potentially the most damaging and the most long-lived.
Many of us needed to shut down the emotional part of ours...
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Long Narcissistic Uninteresting Gods-Will Post
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Im having my mid-morning smoke break at work. I brought a cup of water with me which Ive never done. Im feeling antsy and self centered. I tell God that I surrender to his will. What do you want me to do? I reach in my pocket and fell my medicine I forgot to take. Then I see the water. I thought that was pretty ob...
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My Step One
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Well, no doubts that I am an alcoholic. Not a doubt in my mind. I admit that. It is the first part of Step One. I can't have one, I can't stop when I start, and I can't drink without trouble. Is my life unmanageable though? This is the part where I get lost down the road, I believe. What to do? I am making a comm...
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Moving this to the top of the page, for Sobrietyspell
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Sobrietyspell wrote: TipMc I'm getting a sense you may want this so do yourself another service, sit down, concentrate & answer the questions in the attached file. They will help you break through your ego to a little surrender & serenity inside. Report back with your results. Good luck &am...
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My 12 Steps
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We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable.
Fine, I admit it, I'm powerless over alcohol and my life is an unmanageable mess because of it...surprise surprise
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to s...
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Clear Thinking
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Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial.
We didn't resort to denial - either o...
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~As Bill Sees It~
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Seeking Fool's Gold Pride is the basic breeder of most human difficulties, the chief block to true progress. Pride lures us into making demands upon ourselves or upon others which cannot be met without perverting or misusing our God-given instincts. When the satifaction of our instincts for sex, s...
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My 12Step Retreat
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So, tis Friday & I'm just getting round to giving feedback on last weekend! lol There're so many posts to read & reply to here@MIP that it has been fitting to save the best til last. LOL KIDDING!!!!!!! It sounds like everyone has been having a better time of it this week though my prayers are with...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 14th Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The way of A.A. is the way of service. Without that, it would not work. We have been "on the wagon" and hated it. We have taken the pledge and waited for the time to be up with impatience. We have tried in all manner of ways to help ourselves. But not until we begin to help o...
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The "OTHER" AA Meetings
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Gosh, what a great meeting last night. The best part of all was that for this particular meeting, my sponsor who has 15 years sober, still picks us ladies up, so we can have a great 45 minute "Meeting before and after the meeting". These car rides are great stuff. All of us have cars and our lice...
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~As Bill Sees It~
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Quantity or Quality "About this slip business-- I would not be too discouraged. I think you are suffering a great deal from a needless guilt. For some reason or other, the Lord has laid out tougher paths for some of us, and I guess you are treading on of them. God is not asking us to be successful. He i...
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I am constitutionally incapable of being honest with myself...
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or anyone else for that matter.
I am really sick of the roller coaster I've been on for the past 10 years. You folks have witnessed it here on these boards countless times...some of you have even been compelled to inform me that you're sick of me too. It's not always nice to be agreed with.
I just can'...
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Giving
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Don't be afraid of giving.
For a while, we may need to back off from giving as we learn to discern the difference between healthy giving and caretaking, which leave us feeling victimized and others feeling resentful.
This is a temporary spot.
To be healthy, to do our part in this spiritual way of...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 13th Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We come now to A.A. fellowship. It is partly group therapy. It is partly spiritual fellowship. But it is even more. It is based on a common illness, a common failure, a common problem. It goes deep down into our personal lives and our persoanl needs. It requires a full opening up...
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Daily Reflections 12/13
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THINKING OF OTHERS Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 20 Thinking of others has never come easily to me. Even when I try to work the A.A. program, I'm prone to thinking, "How do I feel tod...
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~As Bill Sees It~
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A New Life Is sobriety all that we are to expect of a spiritual awakening? No, sobriety is only a bare beginning; it is the first gift of the first awakening. If more gifts are to be received, our awakening has to go on. As it does go on, we find that bit by bit we can discard the old life-- the one that did not wo...
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For My "Mama Coletta"
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I just want to publically give my Love and Honor to my sponsor of 24 years, friend of 30 years. I thank her for the unwavering tough love she gave me for three decades. For hours spent sitting in a hospital room waiting to see if I would make it this time or not; never ever turning her back or giving up on me; st...
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alcohol withdrawal
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Hey everyone. I'm new to the group. I have had a drinking problem for about 12 yrs. It became a little worse after my Dad died 2 yrs. ago. I went for blood work awhile ago and my liver enzymes were high. It scared me so much I just quite drinking. I feel awful. I feel so weak esoecially in the legs. My stomach hu...
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Serenity....................
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page 420, BB.......My serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. The higher my expectations of other people are, the lower is my serenity. But when my "Rights" try to move in, and they too, can force my serenity level down. I have to discard my "Rights," as well...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 12th Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Clergymen speak of the spiritual fellowship of the church. This is much closer to the A.A. way than mere group therapy. Such a fellowship is based on a common belief in God and a common effort to live a spiritual life. We try to do this in A.A. We also try to get down to the real probl...
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I am going to be honest
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I cant lie, I have been to my first meeting tonight in 4 years but I am sat here pisssed as a fart. Got home intime to go bank and shop and alla the way my attitude was that if the shop open then its telling me something and it was open. Please I need help.
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Fear Is Only An Illusion
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Fear is only an illusion. It is the illusion that creates the feeling of separateness - the false sense of isolation that exists only in your imagination. -- Jeraldine Sounders
We are only alone in our minds. In reality, we are each contributing and necessary parts offering completion to the whole...
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Daily Reflections 12/12
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A COMMON SOLUTION The tremendous fact for every one of us is that we have discovered a common solution. We have a way out on which we can absolutely agree, and upon which we can join in brotherly and harmonious action. This is the great news this book carries to those who suffer from alcoholism. ALCOHOLI...
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big book share
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pg 475 "...the major transformation has been spiritual. The hopelessness has been replaced by abundant hope and sincere faith. The people of AA have provided a haven where, if I remain aware and keep my mind quite enough, my HP leads me to amazing realizations. I find joy in my daily life, in bein...
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Valuing Our Needs
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When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves. We deserve better.
Maybe others taught us it wasn't polite or appropriate to speak up for ourselves. The truth is, if we don't, our unmet wants and needs may ultimately come back to haunt our relationships. We may end up feeling angry...
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Empowerment
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You can think. You can make good decisions. You can make choices that are right for you.
Yes, we all make mistakes from time to time. But we are not mistakes.
We can make a new decision that takes new information into account.
We can change our mind from time to time. That's our right too.
We don't...
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Whre I'm At
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Selfishness-self centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find th...
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Never Forget Where I Came From
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I was at a speaker meeting recently, and the speaker had less than a year sobriety after having previously had decades. Once again, I am grateful to hear that story so I don't have to go find out for myself that, even after a period of sobriety, I'm still an alcoholic through and through. His story was a...
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Affirmations
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One of our choices in recovery is choosing what we want to think - using our mental energy positively.
Positive mental energy, positive thinking, does not mean we think unrealistically or revert to denial. If we don't like something, we respect our own opinion. If we spot a problem, we're honest ab...
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~As Bill Sees It~
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All or Nothing? Acceptance and faith are capable of producing 100% sobriety. In fact, they usually do; and they must, else we could have no life at all. But the moment we carry these attitudes into our emotional problems, we find that only relative results are possible. Nobody can, for example, becom...
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bump on a log
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Well, I am not getting to as many meetings as I had hoped, when I came crawling back about 21 days ago. The first 10 days or so I had bronchitis which turned into pneumonia. But the last week or so I only got to one meeting, and therapy. I am a hermit and I only leave the house right now about every other day....
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Doctors think of the A.A. fellowship as group therapy. This is a very narrow conception of the depth of the A.A. fellowship. Looking at it purely as a means of acquiring and holding sobriety, it is right as far as it goes. But it doesn't go far enough. Group therapy is directed to...
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Daily Reflections 12/11
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A GENUINE HUMILITY . . . . we are actually to practice a genuine humility. This is to the end that our great blessings may never spoil us; that we shall forever live in thankful contemplation of Him who presides over us all. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 192 Experience has taught me that my alcoh...
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WELCOME BACK DANIELLE
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Just a BIG GIANT welcome back to Danielle!!!!!!! Hope you had a great trip and had lots of time to spend working on you!!!! I'll bet you feel totally fulfilled and may the experiences and discoveries last for a long time!!! Sure did miss you!!!!! (wanted to surpize you with a post!!!!!) Lani -- Edited by...
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I know I’m not unique, BUT
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Lately my isyms have been poking at me a bit harder which probably means I need more meetings. BUT I think my ego is telling me that with all the sober years behind me that its just an aging factor phase. For my first twenty or so years I averaged around 5-6 meetings a week and was quite active. In the last...
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on the cross
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Hi. Actually my username is a joke. I'm no girlscout. I've tried to quit, but I often need a few to get the edge off. I've given myself all the reasons to drink: I'm second wife, and his grown kids were hostile to his divorce. I live far, far away from all my family and friends. The only friend I really have o...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 10th Dec 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Our drinking fellowship was a substitute one, for lack of something better. At the time, we did not realize what real fellowship could be. Drinking fellowship has a fatal fault. It is not based on a firm foundation. Most of it is on the surface. It is based mostly on the desire to...
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Scrollin, scrollin, scrollin!!!
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Some really good threads go un-noticed because they dont always go back to the top of the list like they should. I scroll the whole board and look at the dates and times of the last post so I dont miss any. A suggestion in case you dont already do this. I didnt when I first came here but then I started search...
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Day One!
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Feeling great today as it is day 1 truly clean and sober. It started earlier than I had planned. I had a little pot to smoke last night before I went to bed, well my brother knocked on my door. He got out of prison last night and is on his way to a 2 year program on Tuesday. Well he needed a safe clean sober en...
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New to this board
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Hi, everyone. My name is Diana, and I am an alcoholic. I am trying this board, looking for some ES&H for times between meetings. My sobriety date (after a relapse) is 11/24/07. Glad I made it back to the rooms, not everyone does. That's all I got for now. Any tips for navigating this place would be ap...
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~As Bill Sees It~
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Can We Choose? We must never be blinded by the futile philosophy that we are just the hapless victims of our inheritance, of our life experiences, and of our surroundings - that these are the sole forces that make our decisions for us. This is not the road to freedom. We have to believe that we can really c...
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Daily Reflections 12/10
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CARRYING THE MESSAGE Now, what about the rest of the Twelfth Step? The wonderful energy it releases and the eager action by which it carries our message to the next suffering alcoholic and which finally translates the Twelve Steps into action upon all our affairs is the payoff, the magnificent reali...
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Asking for Help
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It's okay to ask for help.
One of the most absurd things we do to ourselves is not asking for the help we need from a friend, a family member, our Higher Power, or the appropriate resource.
We don't have to struggle through feelings and problems alone. We can ask for help from our Higher Power and for s...
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Don't Forget! Be GENTLE.......
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Be gentle with folks around the holidays. Most people are unduly stressed out with a whole lot more added to their plates than usual around this time. I can only speak for myself as a woman, but I am sure that men feel more pressure in December as well. But, that said, many women take on extra things like ba...
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May be offline
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May be offline for a few days. Seems the area is being blessed with a repeat of last year's ice storm. Power went off 3 times last night. Not much ice then. This am. the car is now covered. Forecast says it will be next few days of the same. So may be heading across the road. My parents have a g...
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Facing fears
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Sorry y'all, I've gotten way behind on reading posts here, between driving myself crazy last week lookin for a place to live, and this weekend tryin to keep myself busy and not worry about where I'm gonna live lol But I went to a good meeting last night, topic was fear... an oldtimer I know there pulled...
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I had to laugh
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I took Carole's advice and went to change my settings and noticed that the "see signatures" was turned off. So I turned it on. Then I went back to the board and saw that I had a Larry the Cable Guy picture as my signature. Well I didn't know it because I couldn't see anyones signatures not eve...
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Daily Reflections 12/9
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LOVE WITH NO PRICE TAG When the Twelfth Step is seen in its full implication, it is really talking about the kind of love that has no price tag on it. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 106 In order for me to start working the Twelfth Step, I had to work on sincerity, honesty, and to learn to act with humi...
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12Step Retreat
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Hello my lovely fellow sober~vibers! I hope you all have a nourishing weekend no matter where you are in your trials. I'm going away for a couple of nights to do some AA work on myself & I'm looking forward to answers that may be found that we're always looking for! Hopefully I'll have lots to give whe...
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