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Letting Go of Guilt
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"There's a good trick that people in dysfunctional relationships use," said one recovering woman. "The other person does something inappropriate or wrong, then stands there until you feel guilty and end up apologizing." It's imperative that we stop feeling so guilty. Muc...
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First time AA meeting experiences
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Hi, I am planning to go to my first AA meeting this weekend, I just wanted to get an idea of peoples reactions to their first time at an AA meeting and also what occurred at their first meeting. Just kind of nervous about going. Also wanted to know if it is good to take someone with me the first time or not.(i'...
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hello!
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happy new year to you's may it be filled with good health, happiness and prosperity! I just wanted to say that i have not deserted you's, i spend majority of my time on the NA side of MIP. I do however, come here often to read your posts. Nice to see lots of new faces :) I recently celebrated my 1st birthday an...
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Boundaries
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Thought I would start a new thread on boundaries.... Im not quite sure what they are or what mine are. "The purpose of setting boundaries is to take care of our self. Being forced to learn how to set boundaries is a vital part of learning to own our self, of learning to respect ourselves, of learnin...
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Just me
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Just wanted to check in, and say all is going ok. Just been busy checking into some things is all hopefully all will go well this week. Hit a few bumps along the way, but managing to deal with them one thing at a time. At one point, I thought i was gonna explode which wasn't good. Managed to kick myself in th...
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Daily Reflections 1/12
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ACCEPTING OUR PRESENT CIRCUMSTANCES Our very first problem is to accept our present circumstances as they are, ourselves as we are, and the people about us as they are. This is to adopt a realistic humility without which no genuine advance can even begin. Again and again, we shall need to return to tha...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we were drinking most of us never thought of helping others. We liked to buy drinks for people, because that made us feel like big shots. But we only used others for our own pleasure. To really go out and try to help somebody who needed help never occurred to us. To us, helpi...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 9th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we were drinking, most of us had no real faith in anything. We may have said that we believed in God, but we didn't act as though we did. We never honestly asked God to help us and we never really accepted His help. To us, faith looked like helplessness. But when we came into A.A...
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Daily Reflections 1/11
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THE 100% STEP Only Step One, where we made the 100 percent admission we were powerless over alcohol, can be practiced with absolute perfection. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 68 Long before I was able to obtain sobriety in A.A., I knew without a doubt that alcohol was killing me, yet even with t...
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Good Afternoon! Share...
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I am just finally getting around to posting here again after my trip to Fla with dad. It was so wonderful, and the weather was great, at high 70's to 80's every day I was there except for the last day. I fished a lot and swam in the ocean, and got tan and collected shells like a little girl. It was so peaceful,...
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Fear
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Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. What if they are a little coarse, and. you may get your coat soiled or torn? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice? Up again; you shall never be so afraid of...
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Hey
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Hey y'all... I haven't been on here in awhile... I've more or less been not functioning lately... getting to meetings at least, but other than that... my sleep is all screwed up, not sleeping then sleeping way too much... I slept from about 4 or 5 last night till almost 8 this morning, after being u...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 10th Jauary 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we were drinking, most of us were full of pride and selfishness. We believed we could handle our own affairs, even though we were making a mess of our lives. We were very stubborn and didn't like to take advice. We resented being told what to do. To us, humility looked like we...
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Please help!
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I am a new member and new to seeking help, not for myself, but for my long-time boyfriend. He has been drinking since he was 14 and it has taken him down some bad roads in the past. He has admitted to me that he is an alcoholic and has tried AA in the past, but eventually he decided that it was only a problem if...
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Daily Reflections 1/10
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UNITED WE STAND We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed. Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30 I came to Alcoholics Anonymous because I was no lo...
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Easier softer ways? Tried em all..:)
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How it works Excerpt from the fifth chapter of Alcoholics Anonymous Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally inca...
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Responsibility for ourselves
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We have been doing the wrong things for the right reasons. --Codependent No More Caretaking: the act of taking responsibility for other people while neglecting responsibility for ourselves. When we instinctively feel responsible for the feelings, thoughts, choices, problems, comfort, and de...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 2nd January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ What makes A.A. work? The first thing is to have a revulsion against myself and my way of living. Then I must admit I was helpless, that alcohol had me licked and I couldn't do anything about it. The next thing is to honestly want to quit the old life. Then I must surrender my life to...
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thankful
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Hi all: As some of you know I had some serious issues I needed to tell my husband. I was sooo scared and kept putting it off because of fear.Fear of being judged, getting "yelled" at, and him just plain kickin me to the curb. Last night I finally spilled the beans. We went to have coffee together...
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St. Peter Joke
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A man died and went to heaven. St Peter asked, "What denomination are you?" The man replied, "I don't belong here, I don't go to church." St. Peter said "Well, we don't make mistakes, you belong here, let's just walk around and you can see where you'd like to stay. So they wa...
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Stages of Grief
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My sponsor (best friend) died Oct. 10th. Since then I have been going through all the stages of grief. I have now hit a tough one,, Anger. I have been lashing out at everyone. Nothing seems to suit me anymore. Everyone seems to be pissing in my Wheeties latley. Last night in a fit of rage I quit my hom...
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Daily Reflections 1/9
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AN ACT OF PROVIDENCE It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have warped our minds into such an obsession for destructive drinking that only an act of Providence can remove it from us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 My act of Providence, (a manifestation of divine care and directio...
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Dealing with Painful Feelings
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Feelings of hurt or anger can be some of the most difficult to face. We can feel so vulnerable, frightened, and powerless when these feelings appear. And these feelings may trigger memories of other, similar times when we felt powerless. Sometimes, to gain a sense of control, we may punish the people...
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Vulnerability
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Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt. Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and recovery. It...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 8th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Everyone who comes into A.A. knows from bitter experience that he or she can't drink. I know that drinking has been the cause of all my major troubles or has made them worse. Now that I have found a way out, I will hang onto A.A. with both hands. Saint Paul once said that nothing in t...
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Daily Reflections 1/8
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DO I HAVE A CHOICE? The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so-called willpower becomes practically nonexistent. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.24 My powerlessness over alcohol does not cease when I quit drinking. In sobriety I still have no c...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 7th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When temptation comes, as it does sometimes to all of us. I will say to myself: "No, my whole life depends on not taking that drink and nothing in the world can make me do it." Besides, I have promised that Higher Power that I wouldn't do it. I know that God doesn't want m...
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I'm Baaaack!!
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good movie
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Hi all: Wow! Just watched an incredible movie..."peaceful warrior" A bit slow at first but what a message! You'd think this guy's in AA (isnt) but what wisdom to behold. Based on the author Dan Millman...You'll have to check him out online and the movie! (feel like Im doing a book report!) S...
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New Sobriety
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Hello, Just thought I would introduce myself. My name is Kelly and have been sober since Friday. It isn't my first time but hope it is my last. Things feel different this time and I don't know why. I guess sometimes when you are done you just know it. But I am definitly trying to just worry about today. Any h...
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Daily Reflections 1/7
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AT THE TURNING POINT Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked His protection and care with complete abandon. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 59 Every day I stand at turning points. My thoughts and actions can propel me toward growth or turn me down the road to old habits a...
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Face Sobriety With Realistic Expectations - What should a person expect from recovery? One person said, 'When I came into recovery , I expected God to open the gates of heaven and let me in. Instead, he opened the gates of hell and let me out.' Another person said, 'I can now see that my real problem was no...
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Accepting Help
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Some of us have felt so alienated that we've forgotten we're not alone. We've come to believe that we have to do it ourselves. Some of us have been abandoned. Some have gone without love. Some of us have gotten used to people never being there for us. Some of us have struggled, had hard lessons to learn. Go...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 6th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Keeping sober is the most important thing in my life. The most important decision I ever made was my decision to give up drinking. I am convinced that my whole life depends on not taking that first drink. Nothing in the world is as important to me as my own sobriety. Everything I h...
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A double life
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I am hoping that through your es and h that I may clear some of the confusion in my head that seems to be holding me back in my recovery. I am not an alcoholic, my husband is. I acknowleged that alcohol was a problem for him for a number of years (mostly socially), though I never identified it as such. The di...
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Daily Reflections 1/6
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THE VICTORY OF SURRENDER We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps toward liberation and strength. Our admissions of personal powerlessness finally turn out to be firm bedrock upon which happy and purposeful lives may be built. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITION...
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The Phil osiphy of an alcoholic
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'Don't worry about the world coming to an end today. It's already tomorrow in Australia'
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Thank you!!!
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Hi there, Not sure how or who e-mailed me my password , but thank you from the bottom of my heart. I did have some time to just sit back and listen........Take the cotton out of my ears and into my mouth!!!!! It was funny, I started panicking and going into withdrawls missing my MIP friends. So, whoever you...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 5th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Have I turned to a Higher Power for help? Do I believe that each man or woman I see in A.A. is a demonstration of the power of God to change a human being from a drunkard into a sober, useful citizen? Do I believe that this Higher Power can keep me from drinking? Am I living one day at a t...
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Separating from Family Issues
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We can draw a healthy line, a healthy boundary, between our nuclear family and ourselves. We can separate ourselves from their issues. Some of us may have family members who are addicted to alcohol and other drugs and who are not in recovery from their addiction. Some of us may have family members who h...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 4th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Have I admitted I am an alcoholic? Have I swallowed my pride and admitted I was different from ordinary drinkers? Have I accepted the fact that I must spend the rest of my life without liquor? Have I any more reservations, any idea in the back of my mind that some day I'll be able to...
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See You All Soon!!!
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Hi everyone,
Just thought I'd let you know that I won't be around for a week or so as I am going away. I'm going to spend some time with my parents, which I haven't done since I got sober.
It should be great and it will also give me a chance to be honest with my parents about my alcoholism. I'm dreading it, b...
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Advice if you will please.. x
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Dear MIP, I have enjoyed the recovery I acheived in 2007 with help in fellowship of course. I've found my Higher Power & I allow it to help me daily. I trust in your respective recoveries; ES&H. I need some added guidance &/or perspective if you will. I'm recovering from the accumulation o...
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Irrational Ways of Thinking Which Keeps You Angry
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Projection, Blaming, Grudge Holding, Doomsday Thinking, Revenge Thoughts, Black and White Thinking: Irrational Ways of Thinking Which Keeps You Angry Lynne Namka, Ed. D © 2002 We all have irrational thoughts, which keep us caught in anger and neurotic behavior. Erroneous beliefs are beliefs a...
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Daily Reflections 1/4
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BEGIN WHERE YOU ARE We feel that elimination of our drinking is but a beginning. A much more important demonstration of our principles lies before us in our respective homes, occupations and affairs. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.19 It's usually pretty easy for me to be pleasant to the people in an A.A. se...
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After being sober for a year and 3 months..and things getting toooo good.. This kid picked up a drink....and it was another 4 years...before loosing everything, and everyone, that there was to loose..that I was lead back to you.. About this time of day...all alone in a small farmhouse..I admitted co...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 3rd January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When I came into A.A., I learned what an alcoholic was and then I applied this knowledge to myself to see if I was an alcoholic. When I was convinced that I was an alcoholic, I admitted it openly. Since then, have I been learning to live accordingly? Have I read the book Alcoholics...
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Daily Reflections 1/3
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POWERLESS We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that our lives had become unmanageable. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 It is no coincidence that the very first Step mentions powerlessness: An admission of personal powerlessness over alcohol is a cornerstone of the foundation o...
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all is well
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Hey folks Just thought I would drop in, things are well and no complaints. Enjoyed the holidays with the kids and we're all healthy and well I'm still sober. Thank you all for being here and hope the New Years bring happiness and health to all, I'll check back in soon. Hugs Tina
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Never forget - I am an alcoholic - some of my favs ""
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Thoughts at 4am If I am an alocholic I shouldn't drink - If I am not an alcoholic I don't need to. People who aren't alcoholics dont lie in bed at 4am wondering if they are alcoholics Remember its Alcohol-is-m , not Alcohol-was-m What's an Alcoholic? A man goes into a bar - big notice on the wall "All y...
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