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Owning Our Energy
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Learn to keep your energy inside. -- From Women, Sex, and Addiction, Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D.
For many reasons, we may have mastered the art of giving away our energy. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel, and we did not know how to proce...
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Day 15/ relapse
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Hi All, I got to day 15 and had been feeling like a new person until I got up yesterday morning and just felt like crap. I was feeling just totally out of place. I had been doing all the right things thinking and feeling wise. But I had not gone to AA meetings or reached out to anyone in person to stop the feelin...
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behavior......
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I am totally burnt out on my kids and hubby. I don't want to drink...I want to go to meetings. I can't make it because of family. Thankfully, I am fine at the moment. However, I just totally wigged out today. I am back at work...I feel like the world is always on MY shoulders-mortgage, work-kids. I want ot g...
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DAY 5
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One day at a time! For any of you still struggling thru a detox phase, do keep it up, however you do it! The wonderful real sleep is so worth it! I try not to look in the rear view mirror (thinking of and hating much of my past), but remembering those anxiety filled nights, sweating, shaking....) This is...
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Our Bank Account
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A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is > fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. > His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessa...
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Daily Reflections ~ Lightening The Burden
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Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now. . . . the dark past is . . . the key to life and happiness for others. Alcoholics Anonymous, p.124 Since I have been sober, I have been healed of many pains: deceiving my partner, deserting my bes...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 28th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "We must continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. We should grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matter; it should continue for our lifetime. Continue to watch for selfishness, dishone...
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Reading & getting to know all of you.
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Heading to a meeting. I'm going to try 30 in 30 but I don't put much in that because it isn't in the big book. So if I do miss one I won't beat myself up, and after I get to know you all better, I will start replying to your replies. I've read some very eye opening and kind hearted advice. I Very much appreciate t...
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Picked a home group
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Last time working the program it took me 6 months or better to find a home group. I went to a closed meeting and felt very welcome. My Grand-sponsor started the group. I found so many people in that group working the program. Question I read were it takes three days for the alcohol to leave your system, Wh...
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Acceptance
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Hi All, I posted this to Doll on her thread but I wanted to post this to you all also. Acceptance (AKA Page 449, Page 417 or acceptence) Acceptance was an idea in a personal story introduced in the 3rd edition and stories are not included here. It was not part of the original book. See page 449 in the 3r...
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Well Darn
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So, at 19 days I drank. Went out of town on business - the meeting was at a Casino - and though it was uncomfortable - I wanted to play and drink - I didn't drink. Headed home, in a restaurant in the airport - and ordered 2 martinis. Didn't feel guilty, didn't get drunk - didn't worry about it after. I was jus...
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Procrastination
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Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness of the task that life is telling us it's time to do.
We are not always procrastinating when we put off doing something. Sometimes, doing a thing b...
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I'm not gonna post every day-'Day 32,596 and 14 hours'. It's just I'm feeling good and although I never tried to quit and then relapsed, I really think this is it for me. I played a little pool with a friend I haven't seen in a while, and after a few games we did our usual 'loser buys beer.' I won and got a coke...
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Daily Reflections ~ Centering Our Thoughts
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When World War II broke out, our A.A. dependence on a Higher Power had its first major test. A.A.s entered the services and were scattered all over the world. Would they be able to take the discipline, stand up under fire, and endure . . . ? As Bill Sees It, p.200 I will center my thoughts on a Higher Power. I...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 27th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "We must be willing to make amends to all the people we have harmed. We must do the best we can to repair the damage done in the past. When we make amends, when we say: 'I'm sorry,' the person is sure at least to be impressed by our sincere desire to set right the wrong. Sometime...
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Mentor called!!
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Hi all My mentor called who I have known for 12 yrs. She is a recovering alcoholic and an addiction counselor that took me on during the 4 yrs I got sober. She understands the feelings I have toward AA due to the rape and not trusting the women here to sponsor me due to the woman who sponsored me and told all my...
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pains
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i think ill have to quit all alcohol i get pain maybe in prostrate guess i should see a doctor anyone ever get this? it seems after i have abeer the pain gets worse
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Surrender, Powerless, Acceptance
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Having a tough weekend so far, I am trying to surrender, accept about how powerless i am to people places and things, Right now, I am focusing on a past relationship that I need to let go of. Part of me keeps hanging on when I know that i have no power. I don't know how to. I am praying to God for help and I still...
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PJ - Day 4 (should be Day 13!)
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Hey you all! Day 4 and feeling on top of the world - I woke up and what a great feeling to feel good! And energetic and excited about the day (not doing anything all that exciting or important) - I'm back working some and this helps tremendously - reuniting with friends and not feeling that there's talk beh...
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Impatience
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One step at a time may seem too slow some days. -- Kay Marie Porterfield
Impatience is certainly not a virtue. However, we frequently display it as though it were; if we don't get some task done right now, we will have failed for all time. How many backfired circumstances must we have before we get the m...
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Found a great Sober Hotel
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There is great place That I have Discovered in the caribbean that offer a safe enviorment for people not wanting to get caught up in the drinking part of it all, the prices are good and its right on the beach www.sobersands.com The (owner) lady helps with directions to a.a. meetings and sober ways to...
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Mini-relapse
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I am not going to beat myself up. Saturday night, my husband went out and got himself a bottle of wine. I did not want any. I drank diet cola while he drank wine and got stupid and slurry. He's very stoic when he is normal, and a little alcohol makes him romantic, talkative, and loving. ha. Anyway, he w...
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Day 14 Rosie
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Hi all, I have made it to the two week mark! It has been a very healthy and freeing two weeks. I am blessed. I have the wedding on Sunday and I talked to my sister who made a designated drinking area way away from the area where my family members who do not drink will be. Mostly it is the brides family and the you...
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Day 3
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...which should be day 12! But it is day 3. Feeling wonderful; I just read all the new posts which empower me! Thank you all. I had been so scared that I would be hung over or shakey (or sneaking alchohol with me in my suitcase to prevent the shakes) when I go down to see my family this Labor Day weekend an...
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Day three and want to thank you all
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Thanks for your comments. I went to two meetings so far couldn't go the first day was a mess. What I finally did is pray. I was pissed I went back out and the few I sponsored went back out after I did. I do realize now after talking to a few old timers that is isn't my fault. I'm still shakey and just one day at a ti...
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Day 24
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Feeling pretty good! No urge to imbibe, the market got smashed, but I got a new client. Pretty famous among certain circles. My mind is clearer, sleep is better, and overall my life outlook is not as negative as a few months ago. I'm not Tony Robbins gung ho!, but I'm starting to feel more positive. E...
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A Good Scare
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A good scare is worth more to a man than good advice. -- E. W. Howe
Do you let yourself be afraid of your illness? You'd better. Many of us were scared into sobriety. Often, a spiritual awakening directly follows a good scare. Fear seems to improve our vision.
Are you smart enough to run from your addi...
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Daily Reflections ~ The Gift Of Bonding
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Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS , p. 63 Many times in my alcoholic state, I drank to establish a bond between myself and others, but I succeeded only in establishing the bondage of alcoholic loneliness. Through the A.A. way of life, I have received t...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 25th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "Unless we discuss our defects with another person, we do not acquire enough humility, fearlessness, and honesty to really get the program. We must be entirely honest with somebody, if we expect to live happily in this world. We must be hard on ourselves, but always con...
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Help
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I am really having a rough day, my hands are shaking and I am sweating, It is day 7, I cannot find any numbers of my past aa friends as I have been out for 6 years now, I dont want to pick up and drink, I was going to try and find a meeting in my area but woke up to late, I work a 3rd shift job and slept all day, I know if I...
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Assumptions
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To assume what other people are thinking or feeling without asking them is to invite misunderstanding. Just as disastrous is to assume other people know what we want or need without our telling them. Many potentially good friendships and marriages perish because of our false assumptions and our la...
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Wonderful Day
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Hi All, I feel so grateful and free of so much now that I put down the booze. Life feel so much better and putting the abusive relationship and my ex where it belongs. The alcohol created fears and doubts about all I went through and what I knew for a fact to be true. And those fears and doubts did not allow me t...
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Friendships...
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Hi all. Earlier this year, I began a process of detoxing relationships that are toxic and exhausting. I even did this with family...but not in a harsh way. I have began to meet new people and surround myself with them. Today, old friends were having a party---a large party with bands etc. I was thinking...
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10 Months for Lani!
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Hi Lani,
Congrats on 10 months sobriety for yesterday!!!!
That is a terrific achievement and it's been great to share your journey with you through this forum. Thank you.
Have a super day.
Carol
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Hi all this is day two
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Shaking some but finally am trying to get back in the rooms. I at one time done all 12 steps and even sponsored. Sliped and I tell you I was sicker than ever before. One day at a time I know. Take care.
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Learning to trust
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Hi, im absolutely shattered tonight, ive been at my sponsors for 10 hours today working on my steps 4 and 5 and since I have been home I have sat here and thought of all the miracles that have happened in my life since coming back into the fellowship and working hard at my programme. I remember sitting at a m...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Riddle That Works
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It may be possible to find explanations of spiritual experiences such as ours, but I have often tried to explain my own and have succeeded only in giving the story of it. I know the feeling it gave me and the results it has brought, but I realize I may never fully understand its deeper why and how. AS BILL SE...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 24th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "When we saw our faults, we listed them. We placed them before us in black and white. We admitted our wrongs honestly and we were willing to set these matters straight. We reviewed our fears thoroughly. We asked God to remove our fears and we commenced to outgrow fear. Man...
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Keeping a Journal
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Today I will begin keeping a journal of all my thoughts and feelings.
I may resist doing this at first, but I will make a commitment to writing at least one thought at the end of each day. By putting my thoughts down on paper, I see things more clearly. I can also go back and read them at a later date to see ho...
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Thanks God.......Uh I mean Higher Power
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Thanks Higher Power. Thanks for helping me see my own arrogance and pride. Thanks for constantly bringing me back to Earth and giving me all I need to be truely happy.
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Day 13 Rosie
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Hi all, I am on my 13th day today and I am so grateful. The sober days can add up and be so wonderful but the drunk days can add up and be so horrible. I opt for these sober days Today the weather here in Vermont is beautiful and I have gotten up and put photos in frames for my Mom of my parents wedding day and one of...
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Day 12 Rosie
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Hi all, I am on day 12 and feel so good. Today is a beautiful day and I am going walking and treating myself to ice cream. I am tired today due to a listless night. Not due to wanting a drink but due to a pain in my back that I could not lay right to get comfortable. I am going to go treat myself next week to going to t...
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Managing guilt
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Hi all, I was talking to one of my sisters today and she was talking about how she was asked by her oldest daughter of 23 yr old for help in a place to live and she has no job and would be on probation for heroine possession. My sister just got herself settled after a very rough year herself. And is trying to sta...
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HELP please answer Huffing and AA
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I have a question? I have a problem with huffing is that because im an alcoholic or is it because of something comepletly seperate. Should I tell my aa sponcer about it?is that something she can even help me with?can aa meetings help with that? And the question im most afraid of since I huff does that mean...
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Daily Reflections ~ Bringing The Message Home
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Can we bring the same spirit of love and tolerance into our sometimes deranged family lives that we bring to our A.A. group? TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS , pp. 111 -112 My family members suffer from the effects of my disease. Loving and accepting them as they are - just as I love and accept A.A. memb...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 23rd Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "We who have accepted the A.A. principles have been faced with the necessity for a thorough personal housecleaning. We must face and be rid of the things in ourselves, which have been blocking us. We therefore take a personal inventory. We take stock honestly. We searc...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 22nd Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "Those who do not recover are people who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault. They seem to be born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which...
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Daily Reflections ~ Seeking Emotional Stability
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When we developed still more, we discovered the best possible source of emotional stability to be God Himself. We found that dependence upon His perfect justice, forgiveness, and love was healthy, and that it would work where nothing else would. If we really depended upon God, we couldnt very well p...
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Self Care
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When will we become lovable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve? We will get it when we begin giving it to ourselves. -- Beyond Codependency
The idea of giving ourselves what we want and need can be confusing, especially if we have spen...
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Day 11 Rosie
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Hi All, I am on day 11 and I am feeling so good. It is so freeing and my body is still adjusting but I know how good I will feel as time goes by. I took my son to his kidney doctor and his blood pressure is so much better but his counts are not so good for his kidney. But as his blood pressure gets better and he keeps t...
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