Alcoholics Anonymous

Quetzal · Quetzal

"When I began recovery from chemical dependency, I had to face my money mess stone cold sober, and I really had a mess," said one woman. "I wasn't able to earn much at first, and it was important to me to make amends. I had past due bills from years before. I needed to try to stay current w...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act. We don't trust life or ourselves. We don't trust the Plan. We want to be in control. "I've m...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

Obviously, the dilemma of the wanderer from faith is that of profound confusion. He thinks himself lost to the comfort of any conviction at all. He cannot attain in even a small degree the assurance of the believer, the agnostic, or the atheist. He is the bewildered one. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADIT...

Quetzal · Quetzal

What's a codependent? The answer's easy. They're some of the most loving, caring people I know. -- Beyond Codependency We don't need to limit an inventory of ourselves to the negatives. Focusing only on what's wrong is a core issue in our codependency. Honestly, fearlessly, ask: "What's...

John: · TLH

By Jhuger. http://www.jhuger.com/kisshank.php This morning there was a knock at my door. When I answered the door I found a well groomed, nicely dressed couple. The man spoke first: John: "Hi! I'm John, and this is Mary." Mary: "Hi! We're here to invite you to come kiss Hank's ass...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates. When do we detach? When we're hooked into a reaction of anger, fear, guilt, or shame. When we get hooked into a power play - an attempt to contr...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

The principle that we shall find no enduring strength until we first admit complete defeat is the main taproot from which our whole Society has sprung and flowered. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, pp. 21-22 Defeated, and knowing it, I arrived at the doors of A.A., alone and afraid of the unknown....

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

A.A. Thought for the Day Do I realize that I do not know how much time I have left? It may be later than I think. Am I going to do the things that I know I should do before my time runs out? By the way, what is my purpose for the rest of my life? Do I realize all I have to make up for in my past wasted life? Do I know that I...

nique · nique

I watch a lot of tv. Mostly sit-coms. A few minutes ago I had a huge awakening,,,,,,it happens a lot but I usually push it away....but today I retained it. It is a HUGE trigger!! I noticed today that the shows I watch all day and night, 90% there is a lot of beer driniing. Beer was my faorite and watching...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Surrendering is a highly personal and spiritual experience. Surrender is not something we can do in our heads. It is not something we can force or control by willpower. It is something we experience. Acceptance, or surrender, is not a tidy package. Often, it is a package full of hard feelings - an...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

True humility and an open mind can lead us to faith . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 33 My alcoholic thinking led me to believe that I could control my drinking, but I couldnt. When I came to A.A., I realized that God was speaking to me through my group. My mind was open just enough to know that I ne...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

A.A. Thought for the Day Have I got over most of my sensitiveness, my feelings which are too easily hurt, and my just plain laziness and self-satisfaction? Am I willing to go all out for A.A. at no matter what cost to my precious self? Is my own comfort more important to me than doing the things that need to...

Greer Ruby · Greer Ruby

Hello all, I am new to this board. I am not able to get to live meetings at this time. Location issues and anonymity issues as well. I first became sober in 6/2003 and made it until 9/2007. I am currently a daily drinker as is my husband. I hate it, I have managed to hide it from friends and family until th...

matay · matay

Hi Folks, As you know my wife is recovering (very nicely) from an operation. And while she isn't an alcoholic she handed me the nicest of compliments they other day: I want to be like you, always positive and and thinking good things. Unknown to her in the beginning, she knows now, I was applying the prin...

Sick of being sick · Sick of being sick

A friend forwarded this to me via email. It was purportedly written by the Dalai Lama as his guidelines for 2008, but I am not so sure. Either way, the advice looks pretty good to me. Instructions for Life Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.When you lose, d...

Doll · Doll

My kid will be turning himself in tomorrow at noon..........

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of Gods will into all of our activities. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 How do I maintain my spiritual condition? For me its quite simple: on a daily basis I ask my Higher Power to grant me the gift of sobriety for that day! I have talked to many alcoholics who hav...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

A.A. Thought for the Day What am I going to do today for A.A.? Is there someone I should call up on the telephone or someone I should go to see? Is there a letter I should write? Is there an opportunity somewhere to advance the work of A.A., which I have been putting off, or neglecting? If so, will I do it today...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

This is not an overnight matter. It should continue for our lifetime. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 84 During my early years in A.A. I saw Step Ten as a suggestion that I periodically look at my behavior and reactions. If there was something wrong, I should admit it; if an apology was necessary, I should giv...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

A.A. Thought for the Day How seriously do I take my obligations to A.A.? Have I taken all the good I can get out of it and then let my obligations slide? Or do I constantly feel a deep debt of gratitude and a deep sense of loyalty to the whole A.A. movement? Am I not only grateful but also proud to be a part of suc...

cramcj01 · cramcj01

Hey. I just thought I would check in with everyone. I am still sober and very happy about that. I actually like it. I'm starting to have a little more confidence so that's always a plus. I am still feel very overwhelmed with medical bills and those things, but I know that money is an issue for most eve...

lani · lani

Step 10 - I continue to take personal inventory and when I am wrong I promptly admit it · What is your plan to allow time for reflection each day? · What new behaviors would you like to try to make your program more effective? How would you go about implementing these? · Wha...

Doll · Doll

The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

Gossip barbed with our anger, a polite form of murder by character assassination, has its satisfactions for us, too. Here we are not trying to help those we criticize; we are trying to proclaim our own righteousness. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 67 Sometimes I dont realize that I gossiped a...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships. When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others. When we can accept what we want an...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

A.A. Thought for the Day Am I deeply grateful to A.A. for what it has done for me in regaining my sobriety and opening up an entirely new life for me? A.A. has made it possible for me to carry on other interests in business and in various other associations with people. It has made a full life possible for me...

mstrmsn66 · mstrmsn66

I'm sitting here in my new place. Gone is the haunting familiarity of an empty house not filled with laughter. I don't have to face it anymore, I don't have to face any of it. I tried my best to keep everything afloat in the process. I bankrupted myself emotionally and less significantly, financially. I...

jonijoni1 · jonijoni1

Or is it just me? MIP acting funny tonight, anyone?

Quetzal · Quetzal

No good work comes from unrest. Unrest, fear, anger, or sadness may motivate us. These feelings are sometimes intended to compel action. But our best work emerges after these feelings have been replaced by peace. We will not accomplish our task any sooner, or any better, by performing it out of a...

Sick of being sick · Sick of being sick

To all my Canadian friends... Hope you all have a turkey on the table this holiday! Happy Thanksgiving!

Quetzal · Quetzal

There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living that I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get so...

nique · nique

I have been having problems for months with my toungue, glands, throat and ears. Lots of pain and infections. Went to several different doctors all stumped. The last doctor said it may be from 2 bad teeth I have (had). Anyway, I was so upset cause we have not a single dollar to spare and to my knowledge no d...

Quetzal · Quetzal

I'm learning that for a variety of reasons, I've spent much of my life focusing on form rather than substance. My focus has been on having my hair done perfectly, wearing the right clothes, having my makeup applied perfectly, living in the right place, furnishing it with the right furniture, working...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

A.A. Thought for the Day Am I still on a "free ride" in A.A.? Am I all get and no give? Do I go to meetings and always sit in the back row and let the others do all the work? Do I think it's enough just because I'm sober and can rest on my laurels? If so, I haven't gone very far in the program, nor am I ge...

celtcgrrl · celtcgrrl

I wanted to thank everyone for their great advice on how to choose a sponsor. I finally got up the courage to ask someone at the women's meeting I attend last night, even though she is younger than me and I felt a little weird. I have noticed over these several weeks that she always has strong, calm respo...

Doll · Doll

"Things" have settled down over the last few weeks. My son was found "not guilty". He (we both) was blessed that an AA who's an attorney offered up his services no charge. And we found out for a mere $200.00usd his record can be wiped clean. He just finished his 3rd week of Adult E...

nique · nique

Hello family! Yesterday taught me many many things. The grief and pain so great. But it served to allow me to reach out a little and to turn to God a little harder. Fighting through the feelings, and only being sober 10 days I made it through somehow. And this morning I have a new resolve about stayin...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Letting go can be like a tug-of-war with God. Have you ever played tug-of-war with a puppy and an old sock or a toy? He pulls. You pull it out of his mouth. He grabs hold again and shakes and shakes and says grrrrrr. The harder you tug, the harder the puppy tugs. Finally, you just let go. Then he comes right...

Dodsworth · Dodsworth

I haven't been going to meetings the last six weeks. A friend of mine implored me tonight to just go to a meeting per day, whether I was drunk or not. He said that since I was organizing my work and social life around drinking, I could do the same for meetings. I guess he thinks that by going to meetings, I wil...

jonijoni1 · jonijoni1

Hate the word organization... reminds me too much of WORK. They say AA ought never be organized.... does this mean AA's themselves ought not be organized? Probably not.... Learning lately that being ultra-organized is not in my nature. I am a very creative artsy kind of person, who goes from one thin...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Sometimes it helps to understand that we may be receiving a payoff from relationships that cause us distress. The relationship may be feeding into our helplessness or our martyr role. Maybe the relationships feeds our need to be needed, enhancing our self-esteem by allowing us to feel in contr...

eastcoastscott · eastcoastscott

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 90 What a freedom I felt when this passage was pointed out to me! Suddenly I saw that I could do something about my anger, I could fix me, instead of trying to fix them. I believe that there are no exceptions...

cramcj01 · cramcj01

Today I have been sober for 28 whole days! Seems like such a short time to some, but for me it's an eternity! But, it really is getting better. I was able to get ahold of a counselor from my college that is a recovering addict/alcoholic. She has been starting some new programs that she thought I would b...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

A.A. Thought for the Day When new members come into my A.A. group, do I make a special effort to make them feel at home? Do I put myself out to listen to them, even if their ideas of A.A. are vague? Do I make it a habit to talk to all new members myself, or do I often leave that to someone else? I may not be able to he...

nique · nique

Hello family! If I ever needed your love and support more it is today. Oct. 10 of last year I lost my near dear sponsor/best friend. Her name is Dorothy Perry. One week before she died she celebrated 33 years of sobriety. She was 77 years old. She was a tough old bird, and shot straight from the hip. ...

Tipsy McStagger · Tipsy McStagger

How many of us would have a considerably less difficult time with the spirituality aspect of the fellowship/program if it wasn't for the crazy, hypocritical, right wing, religious zealots who wield their religion and spirituality like a club? Using it to justify revolting, inhumane acts and bigo...

lani · lani

Why do some drug addicts and alcoholics keep relapsing, while other people seem to embrace recovery and start living a successful, drug-free life again? The question confounds us all, and has been discussed at great lengths. Here are some of the reasons that we have found that people continue to fai...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us. 12 & 12, p. 90 I never truly understood the Tenth Steps spiritual axiom until I had the following experience. I was sitting in my bedroom, reading into the wee hours, when suddenly I h...

Sobrietyspell · Sobrietyspell

A.A. Thought for the Day Am I willing to be bored sometimes at meetings? Am I willing to listen to much repetition of A.A. principles? Am I willing to hear the same thing over and over again? Am I willing to listen to long-winded members go into every detail of their past? Am I willing to take it, because it...

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	Financial Responsibility (Preview) "When I began recovery from chemical dependency, I had to face my money mess stone cold sober, and I really had a mess," said one woman. "I wasn't able to earn much at first, and it was important to me to make amends. I had past due bills from years before. I needed to try to stay current w...	Quetzal	1	299	Oct 21, 2008 by lani
	Throwing Out the Rule Book (Preview) Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act. We don't trust life or ourselves. We don't trust the Plan. We want to be in control. "I've m...	Quetzal	2	384	Oct 20, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	Daily Reflections ~ Solace For Confusion (Preview) Obviously, the dilemma of the wanderer from faith is that of profound confusion. He thinks himself lost to the comfort of any conviction at all. He cannot attain in even a small degree the assurance of the believer, the agnostic, or the atheist. He is the bewildered one. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADIT...	Sobrietyspell	0	354	Oct 20, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	Our Good Points (Preview) What's a codependent? The answer's easy. They're some of the most loving, caring people I know. -- Beyond Codependency We don't need to limit an inventory of ourselves to the negatives. Focusing only on what's wrong is a core issue in our codependency. Honestly, fearlessly, ask: "What's...	Quetzal	1	303	Oct 20, 2008 by Rosie
	A little humor this morning. (Preview) By Jhuger. http://www.jhuger.com/kisshank.php This morning there was a knock at my door. When I answered the door I found a well groomed, nicely dressed couple. The man spoke first: John: "Hi! I'm John, and this is Mary." Mary: "Hi! We're here to invite you to come kiss Hank's ass...	TLH	10	1214	Oct 20, 2008 by TLH
	Detaching with Love (Preview) Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates. When do we detach? When we're hooked into a reaction of anger, fear, guilt, or shame. When we get hooked into a power play - an attempt to contr...	Quetzal	0	255	Oct 20, 2008 by Quetzal
	Daily Reflections ~ A.A.'s "Main Taproot" (Preview) The principle that we shall find no enduring strength until we first admit complete defeat is the main taproot from which our whole Society has sprung and flowered. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, pp. 21-22 Defeated, and knowing it, I arrived at the doors of A.A., alone and afraid of the unknown....	Sobrietyspell	0	336	Oct 19, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	24 Hrs a Day ~ 19th Oct 08 (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day Do I realize that I do not know how much time I have left? It may be later than I think. Am I going to do the things that I know I should do before my time runs out? By the way, what is my purpose for the rest of my life? Do I realize all I have to make up for in my past wasted life? Do I know that I...	Sobrietyspell	0	274	Oct 19, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	Awakening (Preview) I watch a lot of tv. Mostly sit-coms. A few minutes ago I had a huge awakening,,,,,,it happens a lot but I usually push it away....but today I retained it. It is a HUGE trigger!! I noticed today that the shows I watch all day and night, 90% there is a lot of beer driniing. Beer was my faorite and watching...	nique	2	266	Oct 19, 2008 by Doll
	Feelings and Surrender (Preview) Surrendering is a highly personal and spiritual experience. Surrender is not something we can do in our heads. It is not something we can force or control by willpower. It is something we experience. Acceptance, or surrender, is not a tidy package. Often, it is a package full of hard feelings - an...	Quetzal	2	322	Oct 19, 2008 by Quetzal
	Daily Reflections ~ An Open Mind (Preview) True humility and an open mind can lead us to faith . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 33 My alcoholic thinking led me to believe that I could control my drinking, but I couldnt. When I came to A.A., I realized that God was speaking to me through my group. My mind was open just enough to know that I ne...	Sobrietyspell	0	339	Oct 18, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	24 Hrs a Day ~ 18th Oct 08 (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day Have I got over most of my sensitiveness, my feelings which are too easily hurt, and my just plain laziness and self-satisfaction? Am I willing to go all out for A.A. at no matter what cost to my precious self? Is my own comfort more important to me than doing the things that need to...	Sobrietyspell	0	359	Oct 18, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	Relaps (closed) (Preview) Hello all, I am new to this board. I am not able to get to live meetings at this time. Location issues and anonymity issues as well. I first became sober in 6/2003 and made it until 9/2007. I am currently a daily drinker as is my husband. I hate it, I have managed to hide it from friends and family until th...	Greer Ruby	18	540	Oct 18, 2008 by StPeteDean
	My wife's favourite .... (Preview) Hi Folks, As you know my wife is recovering (very nicely) from an operation. And while she isn't an alcoholic she handed me the nicest of compliments they other day: I want to be like you, always positive and and thinking good things. Unknown to her in the beginning, she knows now, I was applying the prin...	matay	2	302	Oct 18, 2008 by matay
	some sage advice (Preview) A friend forwarded this to me via email. It was purportedly written by the Dalai Lama as his guidelines for 2008, but I am not so sure. Either way, the advice looks pretty good to me. Instructions for Life Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.When you lose, d...	Sick of being sick	3	422	Oct 18, 2008 by Doll
	The other shoe has dropped........ (Preview) My kid will be turning himself in tomorrow at noon..........	Doll	5	421	Oct 18, 2008 by Doll
	Daily Reflections ~ A Daily Tune-Up (Preview) Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of Gods will into all of our activities. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 How do I maintain my spiritual condition? For me its quite simple: on a daily basis I ask my Higher Power to grant me the gift of sobriety for that day! I have talked to many alcoholics who hav...	Sobrietyspell	0	306	Oct 17, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	24 Hrs a Day ~ 17th Oct 08 (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day What am I going to do today for A.A.? Is there someone I should call up on the telephone or someone I should go to see? Is there a letter I should write? Is there an opportunity somewhere to advance the work of A.A., which I have been putting off, or neglecting? If so, will I do it today...	Sobrietyspell	0	234	Oct 17, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	Daily Reflections ~ Throughout Each Day (Preview) This is not an overnight matter. It should continue for our lifetime. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 84 During my early years in A.A. I saw Step Ten as a suggestion that I periodically look at my behavior and reactions. If there was something wrong, I should admit it; if an apology was necessary, I should giv...	Sobrietyspell	0	289	Oct 16, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	24 Hrs a Day ~ 16th Oct 08 (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day How seriously do I take my obligations to A.A.? Have I taken all the good I can get out of it and then let my obligations slide? Or do I constantly feel a deep debt of gratitude and a deep sense of loyalty to the whole A.A. movement? Am I not only grateful but also proud to be a part of suc...	Sobrietyspell	0	310	Oct 16, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	Hello (Preview) Hey. I just thought I would check in with everyone. I am still sober and very happy about that. I actually like it. I'm starting to have a little more confidence so that's always a plus. I am still feel very overwhelmed with medical bills and those things, but I know that money is an issue for most eve...	cramcj01	7	378	Oct 16, 2008 by matay
	Step 10 (Preview) *Step 10 - I continue to take personal inventory and when I am wrong I promptly admit it* · What is your plan to allow time for reflection each day? · What new behaviors would you like to try to make your program more effective? How would you go about implementing these? · Wha...	lani	0	243	Oct 16, 2008 by lani
	GRRRRRRRRR!!!!!! My job!!!! (Preview) The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not...	Doll	8	424	Oct 16, 2008 by lani
	Daily Reflections ~ My Checklist, Not Yours (Preview) Gossip barbed with our anger, a polite form of murder by character assassination, has its satisfactions for us, too. Here we are not trying to help those we criticize; we are trying to proclaim our own righteousness. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 67 Sometimes I dont realize that I gossiped a...	Sobrietyspell	2	683	Oct 16, 2008 by lani
	Being Honest with Ourselves (Preview) Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships. When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others. When we can accept what we want an...	Quetzal	0	266	Oct 16, 2008 by Quetzal
	24 Hrs a Day ~ 15th Oct 08 (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day Am I deeply grateful to A.A. for what it has done for me in regaining my sobriety and opening up an entirely new life for me? A.A. has made it possible for me to carry on other interests in business and in various other associations with people. It has made a full life possible for me...	Sobrietyspell	0	318	Oct 15, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	I'm back..... (Preview) I'm sitting here in my new place. Gone is the haunting familiarity of an empty house not filled with laughter. I don't have to face it anymore, I don't have to face any of it. I tried my best to keep everything afloat in the process. I bankrupted myself emotionally and less significantly, financially. I...	mstrmsn66	4	286	Oct 15, 2008 by mstrmsn66
	Is something wrong with the server? (Preview) Or is it just me? MIP acting funny tonight, anyone?	jonijoni1	4	539	Oct 15, 2008 by matay
	Letting Go of Chaos (Preview) No good work comes from unrest. Unrest, fear, anger, or sadness may motivate us. These feelings are sometimes intended to compel action. But our best work emerges after these feelings have been replaced by peace. We will not accomplish our task any sooner, or any better, by performing it out of a...	Quetzal	0	281	Oct 15, 2008 by Quetzal
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) To all my Canadian friends... Hope you all have a turkey on the table this holiday! Happy Thanksgiving!	Sick of being sick	2	292	Oct 14, 2008 by eastcoastscott
	Controlling Versus Trust (Preview) There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living that I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get so...	Quetzal	0	356	Oct 14, 2008 by Quetzal
	God is Always On Time (Preview) I have been having problems for months with my toungue, glands, throat and ears. Lots of pain and infections. Went to several different doctors all stumped. The last doctor said it may be from 2 bad teeth I have (had). Anyway, I was so upset cause we have not a single dollar to spare and to my knowledge no d...	nique	1	305	Oct 13, 2008 by NELL
	Substance over Form (Preview) I'm learning that for a variety of reasons, I've spent much of my life focusing on form rather than substance. My focus has been on having my hair done perfectly, wearing the right clothes, having my makeup applied perfectly, living in the right place, furnishing it with the right furniture, working...	Quetzal	0	283	Oct 13, 2008 by Quetzal
	24 Hrs a Day ~ 12th Oct 08 (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day Am I still on a "free ride" in A.A.? Am I all get and no give? Do I go to meetings and always sit in the back row and let the others do all the work? Do I think it's enough just because I'm sober and can rest on my laurels? If so, I haven't gone very far in the program, nor am I ge...	Sobrietyspell	0	284	Oct 12, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	Got a sponsor! (Preview) I wanted to thank everyone for their great advice on how to choose a sponsor. I finally got up the courage to ask someone at the women's meeting I attend last night, even though she is younger than me and I felt a little weird. I have noticed over these several weeks that she always has strong, calm respo...	celtcgrrl	6	381	Oct 12, 2008 by tlcate
	Life is good.... I SHOULD be happy (Preview) "Things" have settled down over the last few weeks. My son was found "not guilty". He (we both) was blessed that an AA who's an attorney offered up his services no charge. And we found out for a mere $200.00usd his record can be wiped clean. He just finished his 3rd week of Adult E...	Doll	8	363	Oct 12, 2008 by lani
	A New Attitude (Preview) Hello family! Yesterday taught me many many things. The grief and pain so great. But it served to allow me to reach out a little and to turn to God a little harder. Fighting through the feelings, and only being sober 10 days I made it through somehow. And this morning I have a new resolve about stayin...	nique	3	284	Oct 12, 2008 by Doll
	Stop playing tug-of-war (Preview) Letting go can be like a tug-of-war with God. Have you ever played tug-of-war with a puppy and an old sock or a toy? He pulls. You pull it out of his mouth. He grabs hold again and shakes and shakes and says grrrrrr. The harder you tug, the harder the puppy tugs. Finally, you just let go. Then he comes right...	Quetzal	1	330	Oct 12, 2008 by Doll
	Meetings while drinking? (Preview) I haven't been going to meetings the last six weeks. A friend of mine implored me tonight to just go to a meeting per day, whether I was drunk or not. He said that since I was organizing my work and social life around drinking, I could do the same for meetings. I guess he thinks that by going to meetings, I wil...	Dodsworth	9	2069	Oct 11, 2008 by TLH
	ORGANIZED??? (Preview) Hate the word organization... reminds me too much of WORK. They say AA ought never be organized.... does this mean AA's themselves ought not be organized? Probably not.... Learning lately that being ultra-organized is not in my nature. I am a very creative artsy kind of person, who goes from one thin...	jonijoni1	7	344	Oct 11, 2008 by Doll
	Payoffs from Destructive Relationships (Preview) Sometimes it helps to understand that we may be receiving a payoff from relationships that cause us distress. The relationship may be feeding into our helplessness or our martyr role. Maybe the relationships feeds our need to be needed, enhancing our self-esteem by allowing us to feel in contr...	Quetzal	2	614	Oct 11, 2008 by Doll
	When pumpkins drink...... (Preview)	eastcoastscott	2	486	Oct 11, 2008 by Doll
	Daily Reflections ~ Fixing Me, Not You (Preview) If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 90 What a freedom I felt when this passage was pointed out to me! Suddenly I saw that I could do something about my anger, I could fix me, instead of trying to fix them. I believe that there are no exceptions...	Sobrietyspell	0	697	Oct 10, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	Aaahhhhh.......... (Preview) Today I have been sober for 28 whole days! Seems like such a short time to some, but for me it's an eternity! But, it really is getting better. I was able to get ahold of a counselor from my college that is a recovering addict/alcoholic. She has been starting some new programs that she thought I would b...	cramcj01	6	331	Oct 10, 2008 by Phil
	24 Hrs a Day ~ 10th Oct 08 (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day When new members come into my A.A. group, do I make a special effort to make them feel at home? Do I put myself out to listen to them, even if their ideas of A.A. are vague? Do I make it a habit to talk to all new members myself, or do I often leave that to someone else? I may not be able to he...	Sobrietyspell	0	294	Oct 10, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	With Fond Memories (Preview) Hello family! If I ever needed your love and support more it is today. Oct. 10 of last year I lost my near dear sponsor/best friend. Her name is Dorothy Perry. One week before she died she celebrated 33 years of sobriety. She was 77 years old. She was a tough old bird, and shot straight from the hip. ...	nique	3	301	Oct 10, 2008 by nique
	Spirituality hijacked by religious nut cases... (Preview) How many of us would have a considerably less difficult time with the spirituality aspect of the fellowship/program if it wasn't for the crazy, hypocritical, right wing, religious zealots who wield their religion and spirituality like a club? Using it to justify revolting, inhumane acts and bigo...	Tipsy McStagger	27	1116	Oct 10, 2008 by TLH
	why do some relapse.... (Preview) Why do some drug addicts and alcoholics keep relapsing, while other people seem to embrace recovery and start living a successful, drug-free life again? The question confounds us all, and has been discussed at great lengths. Here are some of the reasons that we have found that people continue to fai...	lani	5	1643	Oct 9, 2008 by serenity041807
	Daily Reflections ~ A Spiritual Axiom (Preview) It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us. 12 & 12, p. 90 I never truly understood the Tenth Steps spiritual axiom until I had the following experience. I was sitting in my bedroom, reading into the wee hours, when suddenly I h...	Sobrietyspell	0	1474	Oct 9, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
	24 Hrs a Day ~ 9th Oct 08 (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day Am I willing to be bored sometimes at meetings? Am I willing to listen to much repetition of A.A. principles? Am I willing to hear the same thing over and over again? Am I willing to listen to long-winded members go into every detail of their past? Am I willing to take it, because it...	Sobrietyspell	0	257	Oct 9, 2008 by Sobrietyspell
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