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24 Hrs a Day ~ 14th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In A.A. we have to learn that drink is our greatest enemy. Although we used to think that liquor was our friend, the time came when it turned against us and became our enemy. We don't know just when this happened, but we know that it did because we began to get into trouble - jails an...
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Friday the 13th!!!!
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So, happy day!!!! Any superstitious folks on here? Made a decision that today will not be "unlucky" but the greatest day ever!!!! All has been well around here..Life is busy and Im enjoying the sunshine(although were due for storms today!!!) Started an exercise program and feel great ab...
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Letting Go of Timing
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"When the time is right, child." When the time is right. How often have we heard those words - from a friend, a sponsor, our Higher Power?
We want things so badly - that job, that check, a relationship, a possession. We want our life to change.
So we wait, sometimes patiently, sometimes a...
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Daily Reflections ~ When the Going Gets Tough
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It is a design for living that works in rough going. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 15 When I came to A.A., I realized that A.A. worked wonderfully to help keep me sober. But could it work on real life problems, not concerned with drinking? I had my doubts. After being sober for more than two years I got my answe...
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Men Are Happier!!
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MEN ARE JUST HAPPIER PEOPLE NICKNAMES If Laura, Kate and Sarah go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura, Kate and Sarah. If Mike, Dave and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla and Four-eyes. EATING OUT When the bill arrives, Mike, Dave and John...
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MY FOURTH STEP BLOWN!
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My sponsor took me to a motel room to do my fourth step. I thought this was unusual but being a newcomer I assumed this was standard protocol in A.A. Shortly after sharing some of my most personal experiences with this creep you would not believe some of the things that happened to me of which I am not going...
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hi all... check in
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Hey!! Well, Founder's Day has come and gone this year, and I had to give my ticket away to someone who could use it. My dad was admitted into the Cardiac Unit Friday afternoon, so I have been a very busy daughter. The good thing is that with my recent studies with the cardiology group, I was able to know wha...
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relationships
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Hi, I need help, Been dating a guy for 9 months he is a prescription drug user, like a doctor prescribes xanx regularly, he takes them every day not over the dose prescribed. But has been on them for z couple years. He says that if he stops them he will not be able to cope with things like work. This is tou...
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Far away from home,College,Lonliness
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I left for Kansas a week ago.Back home im a confirmed member of my Lutheran church.When i was leaving my pastor said a prayer for me and i promised him i will join a church out there.He doesent know my past history of heavy drinking and has no clue that im an alcoholic.Back home i used to go clean for days som...
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Hanging on to Old Relationships
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We want to travel baggage-free on this journey. It makes the trip easier.
Some of the baggage we can let go of is lingering feelings and unfinished business with past relationships: anger, resentments, feelings of victimization, hurt, or longing.
If we have not put closure on a relationship, i...
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Daily Reflections ~ Forming True Partnerships
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But it is from our twisted relations with family, friends, and society at large that many of us have suffered the most. We have been especially stupid and stubborn about them. The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being. TWELVE S...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 12th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we came into A.A., we made a tremendous discovery. We found that we were sick persons rather than moral lepers. We were not such queer birds as we thought we were. We found other people who had the same illness that we had, who had been through the same experiences that we had...
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Daily Reflections ~ Impatient? Try Levitating
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We reacted more strongly to frustrations than normal people. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 111 Impatience with other people is one of my principal failings. Following a slow car in a no-passing lane, or waiting in a restaurant for the check, drives me to distraction. Before I give God a chance to slow me down, I ex...
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Spontaneity and Fun
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Practice being spontaneous. Practice having fun.
The joy of recovery is that we finally get to experiment. We get to learn new behaviors, and we don't have to do them perfectly. We only need to find a way that works for us. We even have fun experimenting, learning what we like, and how to do what we like...
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Daily Reflections ~ Family Obligations
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. . . a spiritual life which does not include . . . family obligations may not be so perfect after all. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 129 I can be doing great in the programapplying it at meetings, at work, and in service activitiesand find that things have gone to pieces at home. I expect my loved ones to under...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We alcoholics have to believe in some Power greater than ourselves. Yes, we have to believe in God. Not to believe in a Higher Power drives us to atheism. Atheism, it has been said before, is blind faith in the strange proposition that this universe originated in a cipher and ai...
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Happy Birthday AA
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Moving Forward
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Much as we would like, we cannot bring everyone with us on this journey called recovery. We are not being disloyal by allowing ourselves to move forward. We don't have to wait for those we love to decide to change as well.
Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to grow, even though the people w...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 10th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ If we have had some moral, religious, or spiritual training, we're better prospects for A.A. When we reach the bottom, at this crucial moment when we're thoroughly licked, we turn instinctively to whatever decency is left in us. We call upon whatever reserves of morality a...
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Responsibility
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Self care means taking responsibility for ourselves. Taking responsibility for ourselves includes assuming our true responsibilities to others.
Sometimes, when we begin recovery, we're worn down from feeling responsible for so many other people. Learning that we need only take responsibi...
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Daily Reflections ~ Living in the Now
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First, we try living in the now just in order to stay sober and it works. Once the idea has become a part of our thinking, we find that living life in 24 hour segments is an effective and satisfying way to handle many other matters as well. LIVING SOBER, p. 7 One Day At A. Time. To a newcomer this and other one-...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 9th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We finally came to the bottom. We did not have to be financially broke, although many of us were. But we were spiritually bankrupt. We had a soul sickness, a revulsion against ourselves and against our way of living. Life had become impossible for us. We had to end it all or do som...
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Into Orbit
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It doesn't matter if they're hurting themselves. It doesn't matter that we could help them if they'd only listen to, and cooperate with, us. IT DOESN'T MATTER, DOESN'T MATTER, DOESN'T MATTER, DOESN'T MATTER. -- Codependent No More
I think I can change him. Nobody's ever really loved him and appre...
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welcome to NJ- it's not the heat- it's the humidity!
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It's pushing 99 here in NJ today, but that's not the topic- just the eye catcher. I had an interesting week, for me...speaking of boredom. This may be roundabout, but it will make sense and hopefully be relevant to several recent posts. I painted my kitchen (old news) with the help of a friend. O...
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meeting today
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Im in the chat room waiting for it to start!!!!! Hurry up!!!!
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Panic
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Few situations - no matter how greatly they appear to demand it - can be bettered by us going berserk. -- Codependent No More
Don't panic!
If a swimmer was crossing a great lake, then suddenly focused too heavily on the distance remaining, he might start to flounder and go under - not because he coul...
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Fun
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Have some fun - with life, with the day.
Life is not drudgery; that is an old belief. Let go of it. We are on an adventure, a journey. Events will come to pass that we cannot now fathom.
Replace heaviness and weariness of spirit with joy. Surround yourself with people and things that bring lightness o...
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sunday meeting
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I'm really sorry- I expected to click on chat room and just be there; I got so's I could see what Dean and Lani were writing, but nothing I did could get me into the chat room. So I thought may be I needed to download that MERC thingy, which only got me frozen, and when I cancelled it and went back to the chat...
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Group Conscience Meeting
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It's been suggested that we should schedule a group conscience meeting to discuss getting some regular AA meetings going in the chat room, and some guidelines for discussion on the message board. Can we start with picking a time for the GC meeting? Everyone is welcome. Thanks, Dean
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It's a newbalanche!!!
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Wow, there's a lot of newbs around here these days! That's great! I'm not grounded or sane enough to offer you new people any advice other than to say stick around, visit the board often, there's a lot of wisdom and genuine care and concern here...be a sponge and soak up as much as you can handle. And if you...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 7th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Alcoholism is a progressive illness. We go through the three stages of social drinking, trouble drinking, and merry-go-round drinking. We land in hospitals and jails. We eventually lose our homes, our families, and our self-respect. Yes, alcoholism is a progressive ill...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 6th June 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Drinking is the way we alcoholics express our maladjustments to life. I believe that I was a potential alcoholic from the start. I had an inferiority complex. I didn't make friends easily. There was a wall between me and other people. And I was lonely. I was not well adjusted to...
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The Gift of Readiness
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Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. -- Step Six of Al-Anon
We progress to the Sixth Step by working diligently, to the best of our ability, on the first Five Steps. This work readies us for a change of heart, openness to becoming changed by a Power greater than oursel...
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Sponsors
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Thought Id start a new thread and ask those of you that have a sponsor what exactly they have you "do" to keep sober...... I know go to meetings, read the literature.. How for example do you work the steps, how often do you meet, does your sponsor have you call them everyday, do they offer sugge...
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Back Again....and Thanks
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I think it has been close to 9 days now that I have last posted anything and about 11 days since having anything to drink. I know it doesn't sound like much but we all have to start somewhere right? I wanted to thank all of you who responded to my first post. Thanks for all your kind words of encouragement a...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 5th June 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~
We alcoholics are fortunate to be living in a day and age when there is such a thing as Alcoholics Anonymous. Before A.A. came into being, there was very little hope for the alcoholic. A.A. is a great rebuilder of human wreckage. It takes men and women whose personality probl...
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Looney Binz
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Wow. What a week. I have not been on the computer much at all lately, as I come home wiped out every night. Thought I would check in. There is a busy dry-club on my way home from work, and my recovery beckoned me to go in and get a meeting a couple of times this past week, which was very much needed. I have had a fe...
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Daily Reflections 6/5
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Daily Reflections ENTIRELY READY? "This is the Step that separates the men from the boys.". . . the difference between "the boys and the men" is the difference between striving for a self determined objective and for the perfect objective which is of God. . . . It is suggested th...
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Combating Shame
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Shame can hold us back, hold us down, and keep us staring at our feet. -- Beyond Codependency
Watch out for shame.
Many systems and people reek of shame. They are controlled by shame and may want us to play their game with them. They may be hoping to hook us and control us through shame.
We don't have...
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Staying in the present
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Keep It Simple Life is only this place, this time, and these people right here and now.---Vincent Collins(cousin of Dean!!!) Staying in the present can be hard. This busy world pulls our focus from the present. We often wonder if the future will bring good times or bad times. Life is right before us. Lo...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 4th June 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Some things I like since becoming dry: feeling good in the morning; full use of my intelligence; joy in my work; the love and trust of my children; lack of remorse; the confidence of my friends; the prospect of a happy future; the appreciation of the beauties of nature; knowing...
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Hey just thought I'd check in
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Morning to all Just thought i'd check, been out of work for the last week in a half and taking a break for to work on me and to get out of worryin about everyone for a chance. guess I got caught with dealing with others and the expectations of others, found my self to be very unhappy. I will evenually look for...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 2nd June 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Some more things I do not miss since becoming dry: wondering if the car is in the garage and how I got home; struggling to remember where I was and what I did since my last conscious moment; trying to delay getting off to work, and wondering how I will look when I get there; dreading...
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it's been awhile...
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Hey y'all, it's been awhile since I've stopped in here... life has been a bit crazy (as usual lol). I'm still in Mississippi, I'd thought about moving but it looks like that's not happening now... I've still got my house full of animals - 2 dogs, 1 cat, 2 birds, 4 roosters, 2 guineas, and a turkey I wa...
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Hello, Am new here!
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Hello, Just wanted to say hi, and introduce myself. I'm 34 Male, self employed, living a life of hiding my pain with drinking. I realize it is no excuse, but I really need people to talk to that can relate. Want to get sober again.
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Indians in Sobriety
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Indians in Sobriety annual camp-out July 24-27, 2008 at Lukachukai, Arizona
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Taking a Second Look
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Importance of Second Chances When we meet someone for the first time, we often create a defining image in our minds of who that person is. We may also determine whether or not that someone is worth getting to know. Sometimes when an initial interaction is particularly uncomfortable or challenging, w...
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If one more person says ...
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I just need to exercise a little more and eat better to get healthy, I just might slap them. Some people just don't get it. F'em.
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keep it simple
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Easy Does It We must learn to walk before we can run. That's why we have these slogans. I use that "Easy Does It" every day, to slow me down a little. I have to watch myself all the time. So I don't just take the inventory at night -- I take it continually throughout the day. Before I step out and do a...
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Prayers
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"Prayers are always answered"........so the saying goes. A special little plea goes out for a gentleman I heard today was in rehab. WHAT?! I didn't even know he drank let alone know that he's been down this road three times previous. Sort of one of those deals where I always sort...
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