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Times of Reprogramming
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Recovery is not all-tiresome, unrewarded work. There are times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice what we have learned. There are times of change, times when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a particular problem.
These are the times when what we've been practicing i...
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Why is it....
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That after an A does rotten things to their loved ones they think that saying "I'm sorry" makes up for everything? Saying "I'm sorry" may help the A, but what about everyone they've been rotten to and hurt along the way. Actions speak louder than words. Please explain to me when i...
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Guess what I did to today...
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I went to a meeting.
An AA meeting.
I was dreading running into my former temporary sponsor. The last contact I had with him was when I sent him drunken text message to telling him that I was "cured" and that I "didn't need help from him , AA or some stupid higher power" I...
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"39 steps"
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01. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night. 02. Don't worry about what people think, they don't do it very often. 03. Going to church doesn't make you a Christian anymore than standing in a garage makes you a car. 04. Artificial intelligence is no match fo...
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Daily Reflections ~ Repairing The Damage
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Good judgement, a careful sense of timing, courage and prudence - these are the qualities we shall need when we take Step Nine. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Page 83 To make amends can be viewed two ways: first, that of repairing damage, for if I have damaged my neighbors fence, I make a mend, and th...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 13th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day "No one is too discredited, nor has sunk too low, to be welcomed cordially into A.A., if he or she means business. Social distinctions, petty rivalries and jealousies are laughed out of countenance. Being wrecked in the same vessel, being restored and united under one G...
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The Method of Substitution
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Hi family! I am ashamed to post this message, afraid you all will think less of me, but I have to get honest. I've been in a lot of pain for about a month now. Doc had me on narcotic pain pills. Of course I did not take them as perscribed and they ran out. Well to deal with the pain I substituded the pills for...
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Confused...
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Hi everyone - I recently wrote my ex and am wondering if I did the right thing? My drinking career involved this very chaotic relationship that ended very badly during one of my last drunks. no contact whatsoever - he uses silence as a weapon - He was/is very active and in deniel. I haven't spoken to hi...
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Daily Reflections ~ I Am Responsible
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For the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well - being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Page 87 In recovery, and through the help of Alcoholics Anonymous, I learn that the very thing I...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 12th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day "What draws newcomers to A.A. and gives them hope? They hear the stories of men and women whose experiences tally with their own. The expressions on the faces of the women, that indefinable something in the eyes of the men, the stimulating atmosphere of the A.A. clubroom...
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Healing
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We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity... We should anticipate these stages in our emotional convalescence: unbearable...
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Daily Reflections ~ Making Amends
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Above all, we should try to be absolutely sure that we are not delaying because we are afraid. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Page 87 To have courage, to be unafraid, are gifts of my recovery. They empower me to ask for help and to go forth in making my amends with a sense of dignity and humility. Makin...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day Continuing the answers to the question of how a person can live without liquor and be happy, we say: "You will be bound to the other A.A.s with new and wonderful ties, for you and they will escape disaster together and all will commence shoulder to shoulder the common journ...
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Faith
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FAITH Faith. A very important word. We need Faith. Faith in ourselves. Faith in a Higher Power. But how does one get Faith? You almost have to have faith to get faith. Let go and let God. A very important datum in the 12-step pro...
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Self-approval
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Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others.
Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they disa...
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Step 7
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Step 7 Prayer When ready, we say something like this: "My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to...
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Daily Reflections ~ Opening New Doors
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They [the Promises] are being fulfilled among us - sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. Alcoholics Anonymous Page 84 The Promises talked about in this passage are slowly coming to life for me. What has given me hope is putting Step Nine into action. The Step has allowed me to see and set goals for myse...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 9th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day When alcoholics are offered a life of sobriety by following the A.A. program, they will look at the prospect of living without alcohol and they will ask: "Am I to be consigned to a life where I shall be stupid, boring and glum, like some of the righteous people I see? I know I m...
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I wouldn't have found the book, if the ex wouldn't have bought it. My ex wouldn't have bought it..... (very long post)
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As most of you know I resolved myself to getting on with Step 4. I attacked it with fervency and zeal. I got myself a book and started writing. Got my 12 and 12 out and just started answering all the questions in each of the steps, and from there it just flowed from 1-3. Step 4, on the other hand I wrote everyth...
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Perspective
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Too often, we try to gain a clear perspective before it is time.
That will make us crazy.
We do not always know why things are happening the way they are. We do not always know how a particular relationship will work out. We do not always understand the source of our feelings, why we've been led down a p...
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Change
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Today, help me, God, to let go of my resistance to change. Help me to be open to the process. Help me believe that the place I'll be dropped off will be better than the place where I was picked up. Help me surrender, trust, and accept, even if I don't understand. --Melody Beattie Amen
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In a weird place..
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It is hard to explain where I'm at...Classes just started for me last week and I've already skipped 4 classes and dropped my French class because I just feel too overwhelmed by it. If I'm skipping classes and dropping classes already and I'm not even drinking, maybe drinking is not really the problem....
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The Good in Step Ten
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Step Ten says: "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." It does not suggest that we ignore what is right in our life. It says we continue to take a personal inventory and keep a focus on ourselves.
When we take an inventory, we will want to look for...
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Progress
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Found a sponsor! Funny thing too... It was the 2nd - 30 days after I went to my first meeting and raised my hand. As some of you may remember - I had two martinis on the 19th....so not really 30 days. But was tired of raising my hand - so I didn't. I heard about it after the meeting - she wants me to raise my hand...
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Daily Reflections ~ We Asked His Protection
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We asked his protection and care with complete abandon. Alcoholics Anonymous Page 59 I could not manage my life alone. I had tried that road and failed. My ultimate sin dragged me down to the lowest level I have ever reached and, unable even to function, I accepted the fact that I desperately needed hel...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 8th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day Another of the mottoes of A.A. is "But for the Grace of God." Once we have fully accepted the program we become humble about our achievement. We do not take too much credit for our sobriety. When we see another suffering alcoholic in the throes of alcoholism, we say to...
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Personal Insights on Recovery
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Hi! I just wanted to let people know that I have been maintaining a blog site for several months with some of my stories and insights on sobriety. I have been sober for over 12 years now - all one day at a time! I figured that if I wrote up some of the lessons I have learned, maybe it would help someone els...
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Been 14 days and 14 meetings
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I'm just letting you all know I'm working the program and feel rather good even though I don't deserve it. I see now I was setting myself up to go back out by skipping meetings stopped doing service work,and I held back on my forth step. I thought if I got rid of most my dirt I could carry the rest,,boy was I ev...
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Edwin Throckmorton Thacher
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A few things I never knew about AA's beginning. Thought I'd share.............. Edwin Throckmorton Thacher (29 April 189621 March 1966) (commonly known as Ebby Thacher or Ebby T.), was an old drinking friend of Alcoholics Anonymous co-founder Bill Wilson. He is credited with introducing Wils...
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Anger and Resentment....Whats the difference?
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Anger and Resentment are Different Anger is defined as 'a strong feeling of displeasure and, usually, of antagonism.' Resentment, on the other hand, is 'persistent ill will...' Do you see the difference? Anger is that sudden emotion that overcomes us when something goes wrong, or we think somethi...
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Sunday Check-In
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Hi all..... busy doing a lot of life-stuff here, and thought I would take the time to check in. Been awhile. Have gotten to several meetings in the past 2 weeks, and that feels great. I am set to pick up a friend who is back in treatment, and take her to a meeting soon, whenever she calls. Looking forward to t...
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Introduction
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Hi there I am not sure whether this site is only for people attending AA meetings, but I am giving it a shot anyway I have not attended any AA meetings as yet, but will be attending my first one on Sunday. I have finally recognised that I have an alcohol addiction and what it is doing to my life. Never thoug...
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Stopping Our Pain
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Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn. -- Beyond Codependency
There are many sources of pain in our life. Those of us recovering from adult children and codependency issues frequently have a cesspool of unresolved pain from the past. We have feelings, sometimes from e...
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Quick question- Eating
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So I'm @ day 35 (1 hr 36) Let's say for arguments sake 1 month. I briefly touched on this some posts ago-Where is my appetite? I figured-body adjusting to no alcohol, just a side-effect. I also touched on taking xanax, which I have gradually cut down on-not cold turkey because that's dangerous, but muc...
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Redoing bedroom
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Hi All, I am remodeling my bedroom and gutted it out and took out the closet to expand the room and I will get an amouir for my clothes that I will be able to move if I want to change the room around. It is so much bigger and I got white paint that is very white instead of the egg shell white. My son helped me to tear...
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Daily Reflections ~ Our Side of the Street
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We are there to sweep off our side of the street, realizing that nothing worth while can be accomplished until we do so, never trying to tell him what he should do. His faults are not discussed. We stick to our own. Alcoholics Anonymous Pages 77 - 78 I made amends to my dad soon after I quit drinking. My word...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 7th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day Another of the mottoes of A.A. is "Easy Does It." This means that we just go along in A.A. doing the best we can and not getting steamed up over problems that arise in A.A. or outside of it. We alcoholics are emotional people and we have gone to excess in almost everythin...
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Powerless over Others
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Stop making excuses for other people.
Stop making excuses for ourselves.
While it is our goal to develop compassion and achieve forgiveness, acceptance, and love, it is also our goal to accept reality and hold people accountable for their behavior. We can also hold ourselves accountable for o...
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So...apparently I suck at sobriety.
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What's wrong with me? Why I can't I seem to do what I see countless others doing at every meeting? And these aren't exactly rocket scientists I'm talking about either...I'm talking about people who would have trouble cracking triple digit IQ scores. So why them and not me...how come they're able to wr...
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Newbie introduction - First post
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Hi everybody, my name is Bob and I am an alcoholic. I am a retired teacher, most recently (19 yrs) at the university level, hence my name. My students addressed me as Dr. Bob when I studied for my doctorate and I did not discourage the use of that name, so it stuck even though I never finished my doctoral t...
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Not a good day, but hanging in there!
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I don't know why I don't feel the usual (for the past 5 weeks of being very sober except for a sip one Saturday nite, and one lite beer the following Saturday..... I'd come to enjoy this huge energy surge and optimistic, almost manic in my happiness with sobriety. Today started off fairly normal; I know...
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Day 5 and flying high!
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Hi all, I'm on day 5 after one beer on Saturday; and that was one week after one swig of wine the previous Saturday. I'm NOT getting cocky that I can have that "one beer". I've thought that before. Nor am I beating myself up because I have to start my counting all over! But - am feeling super and...
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Greiving and Guilt
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Hi everyone! Sorry I have not been here much. Today I finally got honest and I need to share it with you loving kind supporters of mine. Last October 10 my sponsor/best friend and practically mom died. I have not been right since and didnt really associate it with it. I have a lot of guilt behind her d...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 6th Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day Another of the mottoes of A.A. is "Live and Let Live." This, of course, means tolerance of people who think differently than we do, whether they are in A.A. or outside of A.A. We cannot afford the luxury of being intolerant or critical of other people. We do not try to i...
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Daily Reflections ~ Removing Threats To Sobriety
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. . . . except when to do so would injure them or others. . . . ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS , p. 59 Step Nine restores in me a feeling of belonging, not only to the human race but also to the everyday world. First, the Step makes me leave the safety of A.A., so that I may deal with non-A.A. people out there, on their ter...
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I am your disease
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I Hate meetings...I Hate higher powers...I Hate anyone who has a program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wish you suffering. Allow me to introduce myself, I am the disease of addiction. I Am cunning, baffling, and powerful. That's Me. I have killed millions and I am pleased. I l...
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Hey
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So I got into a heated argument with a member here and didn't plan on coming back, but I like this forum and find many positives and great people-Rosie and Quetzal especially! The market was down 300 pts plus today (344, Nasdaq down 74, S+P down 38). I had some profits that I took yesterday-I'm half psych...
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September 5, Daily Reflections
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September 5, 2008 Daily Reflections EMOTIONAL BALANCE Made direct amends to such people wherever possible,. . . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS , p. 83 When I survey my drinking days, I recall many people whom my lifetouched casually, but whose days I troubled through my anger and sarcasm. The...
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I'm Back....
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Well just thought I'd drop in, To let you I'm back, and that last week was one of the longest weeks I've had in a while. I've left a post in regards to taking my daughter to meet her real father for the first time in 16 years. She turned 16years old today. Well lets just say some people never change and he didn...
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Word Power
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I know I'm controlling, but so is my husband. Possibly more controlling than I am. Each time I set out to leave him, each time I started to walk away, he knew exactly what to say to pull me back in. And he knew I'd respond. He knew how to say exactly what I needed to hear to keep me where he wanted me. He knew what...
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