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HOLY- "I Haven't got a CLUE"......................
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There they are again.. the "I can't believe this" emoticons. I have truly lost my mind this time. For starters, small thing--- and then it gets bigger and snowballs...... I have not been able to concentrate all weekend on a paper due tomorrow (and trust me, I LOVE school and what we study and...
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Help .. I need a word of encouragement
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ok, I am getting nervous. My sponsor is out of the country, I am getting strong urges to drink, maybe not today but I feel like it's in my plan but not consciously, but I remember in the past this is how the relapses would happen.. in the mind - over time. There will be a big celebration in my life next week,...
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Singleness of Purpose
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Why Does AA Insist upon "Singleness of Purpose"? Why do they insist only alcoholics can become members? (and yes they do, read the long form of Tradition Three, it is stated and restated in AA literature that only Alcoholics can become members over and over again) Visitors are welcomed a...
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Why do I do what I do?
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Reflection for the Day Why do I do what I do? Why did I say what I said? Why on earth did I put off an important responsibility? Questions like these, best asked of myself in a quiet time of meditation, demand honest answers. I may have to think deeply for those answers, go...
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The Root of our problems
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Selfishness, Self centeredness, that we think is the root of our problems I used to think that selfishness meant greedy, and I didn't relate, I am generous, not greedy, but it turned out that that's not what that meant at all Among other things, it means "I am not much, but I am all I think about&quo...
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Emotional Sobriety by Bill Wilson
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"The Next Frontier: Emotional Sobriety" by Bill Wilson I think that many oldsters who have put our AA "booze cure" to severe but successful tests still find they often lack emotional sobriety. Perhaps they will be the spearhead for the next major development in AA -- the devel...
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30 Days!
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I got my one month chip at one of my favorite meetings tonight.... it hasn't been easy, but worth every ounce of effort. Tonight I'm enjoying the warm glow of gratitude. My sponsor says: "Whatever you're doing right now, just keep doing it a day at a time." That would be the following:1. Gett...
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The Simple Approach to the 12 Steps
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The Simple Approach to the 12 Steps Step 1: There's a power that will kill me. Step 2:There's a power that wants me to live. Step 3:Which do I want? (If you want to die, stop here. If you want to live, go on.) Step 4: Using examples from your own life, understand that selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, a...
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Slipping? - Hazelden
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Slipping A common rationalization about not making the program goes like this: "Harry over there slipped ten times before he made it. So what if I slip a few times?" What is overlooked is that the last time Jack slipped, he slipped into a coffin; the last t...
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Should I speak up during a meeting if I think a tradition is being violated?
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There's a meeting that a lot of people tend to avoid because they feel unwelcome for some reason. I rarely went to it before because it was further from my house, but just moved and so today I went. Several people, while sharing, made dismissive comments about people (such as myself) who got to AA by wa...
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Disease or Cure?
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Let me preface this by saying that I know the answers I am going to get about whether this thought is a "disease" thought or I am "cured." What I'm interested in is the feeling I'm having. Is it common? Have any of you felt it? Anyway... I took a test for school last night that reli...
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we will not regret the past.........
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....often this little phrase causes me so much trouble. Sometimes I have a good sit on the pity pot and can't think of anything but the bad stuff I did which was a product of a sick mind in a sick body and I forget all about the good stuff I did. then I remember the good stuff and wonder if it was all manipulativ...
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I Don't Know What to Title This
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Our little newborn, little River Rose, may have a medical condition that could range from treatable with daily inconveniences to treatable with years and years of special care...or if it's something with an eventual expiration date. Carnitine Uptake Disorder. A genetic condition at the cellul...
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Things That Are Difficult To Say When You’re Drunk:
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Things That Are Difficult To Say When Youre Drunk: 1. Innovative 2. Preliminary 3. Proliferation 4. Cinnamon Things That Are Very Difficult To Say When Youre Drunk: 1. Specificity 2. Anti-constitutionalistically 3. Passive-aggressive disorder 4. Transubstantiate Things That Are Downright...
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When am I manipulative?
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Walk in Dry Places from Hazelden When am I manipulative? Personal relations. Without understanding our motives, we can easily lapse into behavior aimed at manipulating others. Sulking is a means of letting others know we are displeased and forcing them to attempt to win our approval. Flattery is a...
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What causes a binge?
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Walk in Dry Places - from Hazelden What causes a binge? Understanding honesty. In the foggy world of drinking, we were sometimes confused about cause and effect. A person might think of a binge as having been caused by a fight with his or her spouse. The real truth, however, is that he or she provoked the...
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Why is it so hard to accept praise?
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I recall early on when someone would give me praise I would often say no , it's nothing, so then they would reinforce the praise. It was pointed out to me that I must really like praise, becuase I keep on asking for it. I was told to accept the praise with a straightforward thank you. This is what I try to do. O...
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The future you shall know when it has come
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: The future you shall know when it has come; before then, forget it. -- Aeschylus The Fellowship keeps us grounded in the current moment. We learn to live today. Our planning and scheming and dreaming about tomorrow becomes less time consuming. The idea of living one...
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Avoiding emotional whirlpools
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Walk in Dry Places - from Hazelden Avoiding emotional whirlpools Serenity If we were rattling down a rough river, we would try to steer away from whirlpools and rocky rapids. Living each day requires the same alertness. We're asking for trouble if we drift into malicious discussions about other peo...
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Can't get comfortable at meetings
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I'm eight months sober, which is a miracle considering my disease, and although I started using alcohol years ago to cover my shyness and general discomfort with people, I do OK without it in the real world. However, meetings still scare me to death even after I've been going to them for six months. I...
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Frustrated, Angry Rant
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This is not a "share" in the strict sense of Experience, Strength & Hope. For all I know, this rant is from delusion, weakness and rage. These feelings and words do NOT come from a good place, but they do come from an honest place. My wife is the child of an alcoholic. After years and years o...
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Freaking out...
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Had an alcohol evaluation done today. Was not at all what I was expecting; more like a kick in the stomach. The counselor I met with was fantastic; a very kind and knowledgeable man with 17 years sobriety. After completing the paperwork, we talked for over an hour and, much to my surprise, he recommende...
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Just dropping in
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Hi Just thought I'd drop in and say hello, hope all is well with everyone. Its been a while and to let you know I'm doing well, went out Tuesday and got my G1 drivers license. Went out for the first time in 10 years to drive last nite, and no I didnt' hit anyone, lol. Kids are doing fine, we have our days. Got...
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Am I going crazy?
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I have been sober since January 31, 2010. I have been feeling better, making better decisions, and getting back into the process of life that the higher power intended. Sounds good? It is! I just dont feel well today. I had a bad day at work and am reverting back to negative thoughts that always lea...
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Daily Reflections ~ Entering a New Dimension & 24hrs a Day
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In the late stages of our drinking, the will to resist has fled. Yet when we admit complete defeat and when we become entirely ready to try A.A. principles, our obsession leaves us and we enter a new dimension - freedom under God as we understand Him. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 283 I am fortunate to be among the one...
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Day 7.
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I'm on day 7. Losing my mind. Tried calling some friends from the program but they are either out of town, in rehab, unavailable or male. I'm not opposed to calling guys (and I know a few pretty good), but have been told it's not a good practice to get into. Took an ADD inventory today at my therapist's off...
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Happy St. Georges Day
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It's Shakespeare's birthday too. Contrary to popular myth, St. George did not slay any dragons and he wasn't an English Knight. He wasn't even English. 1707 years ago today a Roman soldier was executed by his tormentors before the walls of Nicomedia, after suffering terrible tortures. Tribunus Ge...
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Sorrow And Gratitude
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We have no right to ask, when sorrow comes, Why did this happen to me? unless we ask the same question for every joy that comes our way. --Philip S. Bernstein All of us have reasons to be grateful. Usually, the word implies we have received something. We often think of gratitude as that warm feeling we get...
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How Do Others at AA Help?
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I'm just having a hard time understanding how these complete strangers will make me feel welcomed to meetings? I don't know them... they don't know me... I've spent too much time being judged by other people for my drinking I'm scared this will happen at a meeting too. Help?
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the core values of the program
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the core values of the program in my opinion are clean house trust in a god of own understanding and help others and practice the principle in all of your affairs and the work the steps with rigrous honesty and work or must have sponser to help u
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day 12
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I think I'm being a bit of a dry drunk. I feel irritable and have lots of mood swings. While I am not actually being snippy with people, I am in my head, you know? One of my employees said that a client had a question. He asked what he should tell them. "Tell them I hate them." I responded. Ye...
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Busy night's sleep
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Good morning everyone. Last night I had some of those crazy dreams I have had before when I tried to get sober. The first was a horrible drinking dream. I woke up and felt that awful intense shame and fear and then sweet relief when I realized it wasn't real and there I was in my bed completely sober! It was s...
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Make it true
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Make it true What you tell yourself most frequently, you will believe. What you truly believe, you will incorporate into every aspect of your life. It doesn't matter if it is objectively true or not. What you continue to tell yourself, day after day, becomes true for you and has a profound effect on you...
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Other people have problems too.
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Larry's post on how does a binge start got me thinking about some of my civilian friends and the problems they have dealt with..... Like the guy who's daughter left home on her 16th birthday and moved in with a 33 year old, married him 6 months later, divorced him 11 months after that. Like the guy who'...
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Sponsorship helps me Focus
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I've blundered along sponsoring people for a wee while now, but just recently I've had sponsees who WANT TO GET ON WITH IT! I don't chase after sponsees, it's a two way street, I'll help when asked, but I don't make house calls. The sponsees I've currently got, two of them, want to get to grips with the pro...
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Bare minimum
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"Some of us don't like Step Two because we think it asks us to believe in somebody else's idea of God. It doesn't. It doesn't even ask us to believe in our own idea of God. The most important thing is to find a Higher Power not necessarily the Highest Power to help us stay sober, one that can teach us to s...
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womens meeting...
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Just thought I would post about a new meeting I have gone to lately. Its a womens meeting. I have been going to the same meeting week in, and week out. Dont' get me wrong I love those meetings! But a woman told me about an all womens meeting on Wednesday evenings. At first I thought how boring, but I nee...
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No Conditional Sobriety
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Walk in Dry Places - From Hazelden No Conditional Sobriety Admission of Powerlessness Sobriety in AA is unconditional. This means that theres never been a reason for drinking, no matter how bad our circumstances may become. As the AA pioneers were fond of saying, THERES NOTHING THAT DRINKING WON'...
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Protecting Sobriety
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Walk in Dry Places - From Hazelden Protecting Sobriety Though AA members never criticize drinking customs, we do tell newcomers that it's wise to avoid situations involving alcohol. Even this is not an absolute, because we also concede that it's sometimes necessary to attend a cocktail receptio...
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Daily Reflections ~ A.A. Is Not a Cure-All & 24hrs a Day
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It would be a product of false pride to claim that A.A. is a cure-all, even for alcoholism. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 285 In my early years of sobriety I was full of pride, thinking that A.A. was the only source of treatment for a good and happy life. It certainly was the basic ingredient for my sobriety and even to...
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Quiet My Mind
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Today's thoughts from Hazelden are: Quiet My Mind Dear Lord, Teach me to quiet my mind. Stop my thoughts from racing from one thing to another. Stop me from the obsessive thinking about the lives of others. Help me rest and quiet my mind. Help me let go of trying to control the lives of others. Free my mind...
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Devastated
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Hi family, Got a call from my sponosor today. My ex-girlfriend whom I broke up with a couple months ago overdosed on some kind of medication. Heart stopped beating for over ten minutes. She is in a coma and won't be alive for much longer. I was with this girl for three years of my life and this hurts like hel...
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YEAH!!!! ONE WEEK!!!!!
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Today is one week! I am so happy! I have been doing great all day. The only urge I had for a beer was when I was done with my workout this evening. I made a glass of juice and am all good now. I was taken aback by the people who have said that I am helping them and others stay sober by my daily posts. I never ex...
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relationships in recovery
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I am newly sober, after being in AA for about 5 months, i went back out. I stayed out for about two months, then came back in only to drink again about two months later. The relationship I was in has ended, and there doesnt seem to be any chance of it being repaired due to some things I did in my past.I am having...
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A little twist on the Serenity Prayer
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When I say it for the first time in the morning, I like to add a few words. Here's my own personal version: God, please grant me the serenity and humility to accept the things I cannot change; Courage and willingness to change the things I can; And wisdom and understanding to know the difference.
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HURRY UP AND RELAX!!!!!
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anyone understand??? care to comment????
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Broken today
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Hello everyone. I am reaching out to all of you. I have not been on here for quite some time, playing toe touch with my home meetings as well, not b/c I don't want to go but...well there really is not excuse other than the fact that I can't share at a meeting w/o crying my eyes out. I'm 27 months sober, and I am...
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I'm new and I have questions...
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Hey, New to this. I'm only 12 days sober - I know I have to start somewhere. I am early 30s, and I have a job which places me in the public eye on a very regular basis, so my need to stay anonymous...it's very important to me. Especially so early on. I am managing, but I have not been to an AA meeting yet. I know it...
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The 12Steps to Insanity
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The 12 Steps to Total and Complete Insanity We admitted we were powerless over nothing. We could manage our lives perfectly and we could manage those of anyone else that would allow it. Came to believe that there was no power greater than ourselves, and the rest of the world was insane. Made a decision...
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Been feeling out of sorts for a few days, but feel better now.
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Sometimes I need to hear something at a meeting, which fires off my synapses and helps me to see what wrong with me. I've been feeling emotionally disturbed at times over the past few days. As you may know, I haven't had much (well barely any) contact with my adult children for 4 years. I've made amends as...
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