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Welcome to all of our Guests
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I can see that we've had 12 Guests this morning already. We want to welcome you and encourage you to join our board and introduce yourself. Dean -- Edited by StPeteDean at 13:00, 2009-03-04
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Hi everyone, I am a member of Alanon and have been helped greatly in my recovery so far on this site. I'm hoping someone may be able to give me their opinion or some direction on a question thats been bugging me for a while. |I am the oldest child in my family and in my opinion suffered a great deal because...
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Non-alcoholic
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I'm sure most of you are in relationships with, or have close family members/friends that are non-alcoholic. I have learned through meetings that someone without the disease will never be able to fully understand it. There is someone in my life that does not threaten my sobriety, nor EVER ask me to...
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Slips / Relapse
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Hi, I'm Lucas. I have been in recovery for...about 2 years, now. In that time I have picked up five 24-Hour chips, four 1-Month chips, three 2-Month chips, and one 10-Month chip...and now I have to pick up another 24-Hour chip if I want to keep doing the deal. Which I do. Part of me just wants to vent,...
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Search For Motives
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As Bill Sees It Pg. 64Search For MotivesSome of us clung to the claim that when drinking we never hurt anybody but ourselves. Our families didn't suffer, because we always paid the bills and seldom drank at home. Our business associates didn't suffer, because we were usually on the job. Our reputa...
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Daily Reflections ~ Weeding The Garden
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The essence of all growth is a willingness to make a change for the better and then an unremitting willingness to shoulder whatever responsibility this entails. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 115 By the time I had reached Step Three I had been freed of my dependence on alcohol, but bitter experience has shown me th...
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Welcome to our newest Moderator
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Please welcome Danielle "Sobrietyspell" as our newest Moderator. She is certainly deserving of the position and immediatly accepted when asked to serve the board, which she has been doing. Not singling her out, as we have several members that work to post daily readings and answer...
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Retreat in Merseyside, U.K.
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CONSCIOUS CONTACT RETREAT
Friday 6th ~ Sunday 8th March 2009
St Josephs Retreat Centre, Formby.
Price ~ £20 Deposit
£60 on Arrival
Covers cost of room & all meals pp
Arrival Time ~ 5pm Friday before Dinner
Departure ~ 1.30pm after Lunch
Contacts ~
Carl 07999 556 553...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 4th March 09
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A.A. Thought for the Day Having surrendered our lives to God and put our drink problem in His hands doesn't mean that we'll never be tempted to drink. So we must build up strength for the time when temptation will come. In this quiet time, we read and pray and get our minds in the right mood for the day. Star...
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scary bullies
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What makes it difficult to see personal needs , change. What is it that keeps a person from getting into the same victimization cycle time after time. It is so easy to see problems in another that is victimizing you. How to get beyond that? Case in point. You are in a work place and you draw the same kind of...
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Trust
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AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AAOnline.net) March 4, 2009 ~ Scroll down for share ~ Trust I trusted no one.I was very sure I could control my drinking by myself.I was convinced my intelligence would be enough.I looked in the mirror and discovered where my self-will had taken me.I surrende...
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Free Of Dependence
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As Bill Sees It pg. 63Free Of Dependence I asked myself, "Why can't the Twelve Steps work to release me from this unbearable depression?" By the hour, I stared at the St. Francis Prayer: "It is better to comfort than to be comforted." Suddenly I realized what the answer might be....
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Higher Power as a Source
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I've learned I can take care of myself, and what I can't do, God will do for me. -- Al-Anon member
God, a Higher Power as we understand Him, is our source of guidance and positive change. This doesn't mean we're not responsible for ourselves. We are. But we aren't in this alone.
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Daily Reflections ~ Overcoming Self-Will
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So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesnt think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p....
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 3rd March 09
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A.A. Thought for the Day After we've made a surrender, the drink problem is out of our hands and in the hands of God. The thing we have to do is to be sure that we never reach out and take the problem back into our own hands. Leave it in God's hands. Whenever I'm tempted to take a drink, I must say to my self: &quo...
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Accepting Ourselves
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While driving one day, a woman's attention focused on the license plate of the car ahead. The license read: B WHO UR. How can I? she thought. I don't know who I am!
Some of us may have felt confused when people encouraged us to be ourselves. How could we know ourselves, or be who we are, when, for years, ma...
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A Different Swinging Door
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As Bill Sees ItPg. 62 A Different Swinging Door When a drunk shows up among us and says that he doesn't like the A.A. principles, people, or service management, when he declares that he can do better elsewhere -- we are not worried. We simply say, "Maybe your case really is different. Why don't y...
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No Rules. . . Just Right
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AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AAOnline.net) March 3, 2009 No Rules. . . Just Right Aren't you glad that AA has no big rules or regulations to get and stay sober? Thank your HP for that. The earlier groups discovered that we in AA could best help if we shared our collective experience, strength and h...
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Daily Reflections ~ Hope
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Do not be discouraged. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 60 Few experiences are of less value to me than fast sobriety. Too many times discouragement has been the bonus for unrealistic expectations, not to mention self-pity or fatigue from my wanting to change the world by the weekend. Discouragement is a w...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 2nd March 09
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A.A. Thought for the Day Over a period of drinking years, we've proved to ourselves and to everybody else that we can't stop drinking by our own will power. We have been proved helpless before the power of alcohol. So the only way we could stop drinking was by turning to a Power greater than ourselves. We...
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Deaf Alcoholics
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Some of you have asked questions and offered suggestion, thank you. The situation of Deaf in AA highlights some very basic characteristics of AA that almost nobody realises. Perhaps if we have some discussion here the light will spread. In 2000 I became General Service Representative for the Bet...
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attainable love
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Speaking of "therapist, heal thyself"- I went on chemistry.com and met a really nice man- me, at 55 years old, had finally given up...but a few weeks ago I had a moment of inspiration, and did it. How lucky am I? But as you all know, relationships are scarey. And sadly, I am among the milli...
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Just sharing...
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Today I have 5 months. Just claiming my cyberseat here. Thanks all for the support.
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Growing Pains
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AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AAOnline.net) March 2, 2009 Growing PainsDon't blow this chance to grow. God will give you a clean slate from which to begin each day. You will have many opportunities and what you do with each one will determine your own growth. Anonymous Thought to Ponder . . .I am no...
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Total Freak Out
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Hi gang! I have been fighting cravings for both alcohol and cigarettes and it is tough but I am doing it. Been 36 days! But last night I was stressed to the max. Was having trouble with my digital tv and had the company on the phone. wont go into details but it was stressful and the stress kept building...
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Resolving Fear
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As Bill Sees ItPg. 61 Resolving Fear Fear somehow touched about every aspect of our lives. It was an evil and corroding thread; the fabric of our existence was shot through with it. It set in motion trains of circumstances which brought us misfortune we felt we didn't deserve. But did we not often set t...
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What I Have Learned About Myself and This Program
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I stopped drinking Jan 1st. I found that drinking wine was going to get me broke (I like expensive wine) or really depressed. You cannot find depression with a depressant; there is the old insanity that is talked about in the Big Book. I decided, like so many of us this past week, that I was through with t...
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Feelings on the Job
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I'm furious about my job. Another man got a promotion that I believe I deserve. I'm so mad I feel like quitting. Now my wife says I should deal with my feelings. What good will that do? He still got the promotion. -- Anonymous
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Humility
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AA Thought for the Day February 23, 2009 Humility
They told me, "You've got to get out and work a little; you've got to give." They told me that giving was living, and that living was loving, and loving was God. And you don't have to worry about God, because He's sitting right in front of your e...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Day One/7:00 PM: There is no right way to do the wrong thing. Whatever you were thinking of doing, you can not rationalize it into "right" action by saying, "yes but this" or "no but that." You know what's right and you know what's wrong-that gut feeling guides you....
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Toolkit
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AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AAOnline.net) February 29, 2009 Toolkit A.A. has many tools to initiate change, growth, survival as well as to just stay sober. There are the 12 Steps which will produce a spiritual awakening and, when practiced on a daily basis, a lifetime of sobriety. There are...
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Daily Reflections ~ It Works!
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It works it really does. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 88 When I got sober I initially had faith only in the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Desperation and fear kept me sober (and maybe a caring and/or tough sponsor helped!). Faith in a Higher Power came much later. This faith came slowly at first, after...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 1st March 09
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A.A. Thought for the Day When I find myself thinking about taking a drink, I say to myself: "Don't reach out and take that problem back. You've given it to God and there's nothing you can do about it." So I forget about the drink. One of the most important parts of the A.A. program is to give our d...
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Brain Power Alone?
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As Bill Sees ItPg. 60 Brain Power Alone? To the intellectually self-sufficient man or woman, many A.A.'s can say, "Yes, we were like you -- far too smart for our own good. We loved to have people call us precocious. We used our education to blow ourselves up into prideful balloons, though we wer...
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Letting Go of Anger
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In recovery, we often discuss anger objectively. Yes, we reason, it's an emotion we're all prone to experience. Yes, the goal in recovery is to be free of resentment and anger. Yes, it's okay to feel angry, we agree. Well, maybe. . . .
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My Name is Junior I'm an alcoholic I'm not 'new' per se' I was sober and happy in AA for 15 years then for some insane reason I thought I could drink again I'm older now, I can handle it, right? I know what I need to do I've gotten to that point where I'm never drunk but I'm never sober either Going to the doctors...
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Resentments
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AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AAOnline.net) February 28, 2009ResentmentsWe need to take resentments very seriously. More than anything else, they can lead to relapse and all forms of spiritual illness. To live a happy, productive and sober life, we must free ourselves of our resentments. (Bi...
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Conviction and Compromise
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As Bill Sees ItPg. 59 Conviction and Compromise One qualification for a useful life is give-and-take, the ability to compromise cheerfully. Compromise comes hard to us "all or nothing" drunks. Nevertheless, we must never lose sight of the fact that progress is nearly always charact...
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Daily Reflections ~ What No President?
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When told that our Society has no president having authority to govern it, no treasurer who can compel the payment of any dues. . . . our friends gasp and exclaim, This simply cant be . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 132 When I finally made my way to A.A., I could not believe that there was no trea...
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Letting Go of Denial
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We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings. -- Ovid
Most of us in recovery have engaged in denial from time to time. Some of us relied on this tool.
We may have denied events or feelings from our past. We may have denied other people's problems; we may have denied our own pr...
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Relapse
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Is it rare to see someone my age (25) to come into AA and stay sober for the rest of their lives? I'm just asking because almost everyone in my home meeting has talked about their relapses in the past. Last night a man showed up with 21 years of sobriety...then a recent relapse. So scary.
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People-Pleasers
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Have you ever been around people-pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety- producing.
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Therapist heal thyself
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I have been doing a lot of pondering on how I became a substance abuse therapist who is also an alcoholic and has major problems with self esteem and self-care. I came into AA with a very deep understanding and knowledge that the life I was leading was complete hypocrisy and there was a drastic need to ch...
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As Bill Sees It
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As Bill Sees ItPg. 58Righteous Indignation"The positive value of righteous indignation is theoretical -- especially for alcoholics. It leaves every one of us open to the rationalization that we may be as angry as we like provided we can claim to be righteous about it."<< <<...
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Daily Reflections ~ No Ordinary Success Story
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A.A. is no success story in the ordinary sense of the word. It is a story of suffering transmuted, under grace, into spiritual progress. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 35 Upon entering A.A. I listened to others talk about the reality of their drinking: loneliness, terror and pain. As I listened further, I soon hea...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 26th Feb 09
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A.A. Thought for the Day When we came into A.A., we came to believe in a Power greater than ourselves. We came to believe in that Divine Principle in the universe, which we call God, and to whom we can turn for help. Each morning we have a quiet time. We ask God for the power to stay sober for the next twenty-f...
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The Necesity of Going to F2F Meetings
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Hi all! It has been a while since I have posted. Anyway I have been trying for several years now to stay clean and sober without F2F meetings. What a failure I have been with it. Anyway there is a part in the Big Book that says "No one has ever won in single handed combat without the unaided will&qu...
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Prayers, Thoughts, for my son.
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The kid has been doing so well over the last 5 months! Got his GED, is working FULL time, likes his job, paying his bills, etc. THEN his Girlfriend came home from rehab on Friday! It's been downhill since. He didn't go to work Sunday! They had unprotected sex at his ex stepfather's house (where he's livin...
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Daily Reflections ~ The Challenge of Failure
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In Gods economy, nothing is wasted. Through failure, we learn a lesson in humility which is probably needed, painful though it is. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 31 How thankful I am today, to know that all my past failures were necessary for me to be where I am now. Through much pain came experience and, in sufferin...
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Twelve Step Programs
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I was furious when I found myself at my first Al-Anon meeting. It seemed so unfair that he had the problem and I had to go to a meeting. But by that time, I had nowhere left in the world to go with my pain. Now, I'm grateful for Al-Anon and my codependency recovery. Al-Anon keeps me on track; recovery has give...
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