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Releasing
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I must slowly learn to lose control, to let go the petals when it is time...learn step by softly-treading step, that what I am, what we are, is the Power to move and be moved, to change and be changed. ~ Linda Roach Letting go doesn't mean releasing our grip on life and falling into the abyss below. Letting...
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just another day in paradise
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hi there.. im not new to AA or to this forum just havent been back to the board yet.. Im pretty angry and annoied.. its been a week since i had a drink im pretty disgusted.. seems like my body knows the hour when i typicaly have a drink and i become and automatic asshole to everyone around me. I dunno how man...
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I'm stilll here
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I read a lot but dont post much. Tomorrow will be two weeks since my last drunk and it has been difficult (understatement of the century). I'm pushing through though! I havent been to a meeting every night but I have visited quite a few. I've made some friends, picked up my white chip, met a few potential s...
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Today's Gift 12 - 01
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Carrying the Message What we are always carries a stronger message than what we say. This is why we're sometimes turned off by people who seek to overwhelm us with charm. It's also why we can sometimes be drawn to people who are quiet and unassuming. However it works, there is a powerful message in one...
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When do you think is a good time to sponsor someone?
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My sponsor suggested when I was on step 7 or around 6 months, I personally think thats too soon as I would like at least a year and to have gone through the steps... thoughts? thanks
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When given the choice....
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One topic that came up in today's meeting for me was about what different folks did when given ultimatums about their alcoholism. It was pretty comical to all of us since everyone in the room was/is in recovery but in reality, it's sad and kind of scary. This came about from a story in the Come to Believe...
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Liquor whore
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I went to get coffee today and inside this coffee shop is also fancy liquor and other novelty items - kind of a hippie store/liquor mart/hang out type thing. Anyway - I've gone there many times for coffee - and many more times for liquor. They get all this really trendy stuff that no one's heard of - so no...
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Chaya Congrats 30 days!
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Congrats Chaya,
Some say getting 30 days can be more difficult than getting 30 years.
The difficult grind of the first weeks picking up tools along the way to help us become content in sobriety can be trying.
Watching new people recover makes this so rewarding for us all.
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Why I don't attend many meetings these days...
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Why I don't attend many meetings anymore - I'm disgusted with hearing people repeat the same bullshit over and over again, whether it be some cliche that they think makes them sound important, such as: "Meeting makers make it." (Make what?) Or the standard rehab-ese psychobabble, such...
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Caron?
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Hi, I had posted last week about my problem and wife's insistence that I go inpatient. My decision is made to go inpatient. It will be for at least a week, but we literally have no money to plan on anything longer. I have had alcohol twice in the past week but remain determined to stop once and for all. Does a...
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Celebrating Sobriety Dates early? Need input gang, please-
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I am working with a sponsee. He has decided [without consulting his sponsor, which would be me] to 'celebrate' his 3 year sobriety date one day early. He is planning to do this at our local homegroup with a celebratory AA meeting; cake, guests, the whole 9 yards. Now guys, I am NOT the 'AA' gestapo, a...
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Worst. Meeting. Ever. California Group, Chicago, Tues 7PM AAAARRGGH
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I love AA and owe my life to it. But this BS makes me sick. That people would co-opt and distort our loving and tolerant and inclusive program into what i describe below makes me really angry. So I knew this was a "pacific group style' meeting (or a "real" meeting as they describe it). ...
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Husband back home from rehab
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Hello, I am a mother of 3 and married for 10 years. I can say the last 2 years of our lives have been devasting to say the least. My husband's drinking became unbearable. We seperated for 8 months then he decided to go to rehab. After much consideration we decided to have him back home once his 30 days was don...
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come and gone......
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I was just reading a bunch of older post from my start 7 months ago. I was suprised to see alot of people no longer post or visit the site. I hope they are all happy sober and safe during this holay season, and if not I hope the do find their way to soberity - aa or not- all I know is I can not beleive we all lived tha...
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Just reading
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Hello! I'm excited to be home and see everyone. Can't imagine I would have said that I would be excited to see my fellow Wisconsin AAer's 6 months ago! But I really am... no one in particular... just all the farmiliar people that are my close family here. I went to a meeting while in Virginia. It was d...
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Today's Gift 11-30
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Looking for beauty It is important that we look for beauty. There are beautiful things in the world each and every day, if we only know how to see. In recovery, in serenity, beauty is everywhere even in pain and suffering if we only know how to see. Higher Power, help me to use my recovery, my new vision, to...
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Today's Gift 11-29
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One way to become enthusiastic is to look for the plus sign. To make progress in any difficult situation, you have to start with what's right about it and build on that. -- Norman Vincent Peale Beginning our days with a positive mental outlook is a great depression chaser. Simply lifting our heads and l...
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Ego and fear
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Hey all:) I have posted here a few times about my inability to open up to people, and although I'm working the rest of the program as suggested, this has been a huge roadblock for me in terms of getting connected to the program. Last week at a meeting a gentleman was speaking of ego and humility. Something...
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When will the hurt go away?
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Why does recovery have to be so hard? Being currently sober, a recovering addict that is just starting to feel again... Hard to explain, but the hurt won't stop. Lots of bad, disgusting memories that won't go away, along with the hurt. Especially if you aren't trying to numb it. People look down on my di...
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Had to quit playing God...
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Why? Because it didn't work. Got a call from a sponcee today, he came in the rooms about 2 years ago extremely distressed, facing his 3d DUI in 5 years. He is slightly mental handicap, but I have never seen anyone put as much effort into the program as he has. He calls 70-100 people a week and a lot of...
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Today's Gift 11-28
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"I was lucky," a man explained to me. "One of my first mentors in life made me practice serenity. Whenever I'd call him in full-blown panic mode or with that frantic tone in my voice, he'd refuse to talk to me until I calmed myself down."'Go get centered,' he'd tell me. 'Then we'll...
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mixed feelings......s
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Let me start by saying I am truely thank full for my soberity, and I wish all f you best and hope you all have a great holiday. That said Ive been having alot of mixed feelings lately, all are based on life being somewhat boring now. So I took 7 months to get myself on stable ground, family is happy, kids are he...
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I want to be sick?!
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Went to a good women's meeting tonight, but because I was new there and it was all women I think it really triggered my insecurity. After the meeting I started getting anxious for work tomorrow as well as obsessing over my ex (it's been a year already). I thought about what I will do with the next 15 minute...
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Daily Reflections ~ The Perils of the Limelight & 24hrs a Day
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In the beginning, the press could not understand our refusal of all personal publicity. They were genuinely baffled by our insistence upon anonymity. Then they got the point. Here was something rare in the world a society which said it wished to publicize its principles and its work, but not its indi...
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Today's Gift 11-27
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... satisfaction is a lowly thing, how pure a thing is joy. --Marianne Moore Our perfectionism generally dashes all hopes of self-satisfaction. But the program is here to show us that we can make progress. We can learn to believe that we are doing any task as well as we need to do it, at this time. Our job i...
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Grapevine Quote of the Day Nov 27
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November 27 "There is always grace for the days I'm helpless." Allyn, Wash., February 1997 From: "Another Hand to Help Me Along" Best of the Grapevine, Vol. 3
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I'm the partner of an alcoholic.. and I don't understand.
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First time poster here. Bare with me. My partner, my best friend and the love of my life is an alcoholic. I'll preffice this by saying - I have had no personal experience with alcoholism before. And I'm finding it difficult to understand this disease. A bit of back ground. High achiever. Smart and sel...
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Need help getting wife's support!
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I am a 40 something male married 12 years, 3 young children. I/my wife has been dealing with my alcohol problem since before our marriage. I have been good at times, but have been terribly impaired to the point of near disaster many, many times. I have managed to become and remain very successful in term...
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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November 26, 2012 Quote of the Week "When you get to your wit's end, you'll findthat God lives there" Before recovery, when I got to the bottom I just moved over and started digging another hole. I would leave jobs, relationships, and even states looking for a different solut...
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Today's Gift 11-26
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OptimismWhat I think about surrounds me. What I allow to be entertained in my mind becomes a reality. If I think negatively, I will attract negativity in my life. On the other hand, if I concentrate on developing positive thoughts, I will attract positive people and events to my life. My potential wil...
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Trying weekend!!
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With out going into to much detail, I'm having a very trying weekend. My son (19, in college) made a very "unwise" decision Friday that could have caused legal issues. He was with his cousin, my wife's sister's son, and they did something very stupid. I am having great resentment toward...
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On thin ice
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I'm struggling. Really struggling. Tearfully opened up about it at a meeting tonight. I want so badly to make it to 30 days but it feels like its been forever. I need to change what I'm doing because it's not working. I'm not fully giving myself to the program. I don't have a strong enough sponsor to guide...
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discontent
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I'm an alcoholic named Ame. I've been a recovered alcoholic in AA for over twelve years. Today has been plodding and rough. I have a surgery coming up and find myself thinking of the free high coming. I feel bored and panicky by turn. Panicky when I think about lack of money/lack of a job right no...
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Today's Gift 11-25
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God gave burdens, also shoulders. --Yiddish proverbSome days we wake up, and we know we can't get out of bed. We lie there, trying to force ourselves, but none of the usual motivations work. We may be depressed, we may be grieving, or we may simply be tired. It's hard to resist the temptation to believe t...
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Grapevine Quote of the Day
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November 25 "I know that I will never be sober long enough to be alcohol-proof."
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Stupid drunk girls
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I went to see Twilight this past weekend (like any good gay guy would). There was a whole row of women sitting behind me. I would guess they were in their mid 20s. They were all loud and they each had coffees from starbucks. 1 of them is really drunk and saying stuff like "You guys aren't my friend...
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Holiday Greatings
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Happy Thanksgiving to all of my beloved MIP brothers and sisters! To all of our new comers, you are family here. Stick close during the holidays, which is the thoughest time of the year to stay sober.
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I'll be praying frequently
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As my first holiday season sober is upon us, I'm trying to not fall into the usual default pity party. That's my typical 'go to'.. I avoid my family and have the perfect excuse to sit in a bar all day. I'm grateful that will not be the case this year:) I'm not spending today with family- I just know I'm not rea...
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The first Thanksgiving
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That is a cliche name for a topic but there are some cool firsts this year. I'm not going to say my life is perfect. God would probably smite me lol. But...This is literally the first time in my adult life that I have had people come over to my house for Thanksgiving. 4 years ago, I lived in filth and didn'...
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Today's Gift 11-22
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The expression of praise as thanksgiving, gratitude, and joy is among the most powerful forms of affirmation. --Catherine PonderPraise inevitably has a multiple effect. It positively acknowledges another human being, enhancing his or her well being, while making us feel good. This offering of...
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Have a wonderful Thanksgiving : )
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Tomorrow we will be getting up at 3:30am to carry our (hopefully) sleeping children to the car for our 1.5 hr drive to the Minneapolis airport. From there we will head to Roanoke Virginia, and should have a delicious Thanksgiving dinner with my brother. We're all really excited. I'm a little nervo...
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Oh, so you thought everything was so honky dory ALL the time... um nope...
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Well I just pulled this stunt (as Neophyte mentioned in another post entitled: It's never them, it's always me) with my hubby last night. Big time resentments going on - or as we would call it in the olden days "not talking to that ass". We are both capable of carrying on the silent treatmen...
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Grapevine
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November 21 "The emotional balance that eluded me is returning with prayer." Seattle, Wash., April 1974 From: "Prayer" Spiritual Awakenings
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Today's Gift 11-21
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Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. --Matthew 6:34 To worry about something ahead of time is a waste of time and energy that could be better spent on living a full life today. For instance, if we spend hours today worrying about an important test at schoo...
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New guy here!
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Hello everyone, excited to be here. I got out of a self-admitted rehab 2 months ago, after about 30 yrs of drinking. Have been going to at least 1 meeting a day since then. Have been feeling pretty good, trying to take it easy and learn all that I can. The one main problem that I am dealing with right no...
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Finally admitting it
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Sunday, November 19, 2012. Hi I'm Bethany, and I'm an alcoholic. I've been debating with that statement in my head for a long time now, and tonight I finally went to my first meeting...and I can't wait to go back!! I listened and spoke to some pretty amazing people tonight. I received some free liter...
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Daily Reflections ~ Thy Will, Not Mine & 24hrs a Day
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. . . when making specific requests, it will be well to add to each one of them this qualification. ". . . if it be Thy will." TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 102 I ask simply that throughout the day God place in me the best understanding of His will that I can have for that day, and that I b...
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Today's Gift 11-20
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We can stop making mountains out of molehills.Learning to let go of the choices other people make takes away much of the angst we have grown accustomed to. Letting go of the outcome of all experiences, even those that involve us, frees our minds from the needless worry that keeps us stuck. The more we fo...
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It's been a good week.
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Hi all. I'm a bit busy at the moment but I thought I'd give you a progress report. Got my divorce finalised on Wednesday. No bitterness, anger or regrets. Just a gentle turning of the page, and excitement about what the next chapter of my life will be like. Finished my civil construction course. That me...
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Long term sobriety
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I had 10 years sobriety. I then started feeling confident and stopped going to AA meetings. I now have around 2 weeks sobriety. Has this happened to anyone like me with several years sobriety?
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