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great marriage except for passion and intimacy. How do you fix this?
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So I have been sober for a while now and have been married for 30 years. We have a great love for each other however on my part there are no feelings of passion. This has been for a long time but the respect and love we have seemed enough for me. In the last few months I have been experiancing feelings of passio...
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Hope
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It's hard to swallow for me, that the people who loved me 'the right way' were the people who let me know they cared - but completely left me alone to hit my bottom back in my earlier days of drinking. I think back now to my drinking, and I assumed that if it weren't for my parents and certain boyfriend/husb...
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Sunlight
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Hi All, Today I was driving around running errands when a song started playing in my car that I used to listen to when I was at the height of depressed addiction. The song is called "Sunlight" by a hip hop artist named MC Yogi and it's all about finding a brighter future by letting go. I'll post l...
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Not is more fun
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Yesterday, I got in my car to go to a potluck at my regular Monday night meeting. It never occurred to me to question the competency of the engineers who designed my car. Got in, started it up and drove away. Never doubted that the brakes would work, never doubted that the car would go forward when I pus...
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Thought for the day
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Tuesday, July 9, 2013You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Overspending and Underspending I used to beat my husband to death with my credit card. It made me feel like I had some control, some way to get even with him. Anonymous I spent ten years buying everything for myself at garage s...
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Old Quote --- Seemed appropriate for those having trouble with AA
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"Wisdom is knowledge you learn after you know it all." You couldn't tell me anything before I entered recovery because I knew it all. I had all the answers for my life, and I had all the answers for yours, too, and I was quick to tell you about it. In fact, my favorite saying back then was, &quo...
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Look to this day
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Look to this day. For yesterday is but a dream, And tomorrow is only a vision. But today, well lived, Makes every yesterday a Dream of happiness And every tomorrow a Vision of hope. Look well, Therefore to this day
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Grapevine
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July 10 "We made a lot of mistakes. On the basis of our mistakes, Bill W. put together the Twelve Traditions ... The early members brought us one Tradition at a time, in the long form -- for our group conscience and vote. We discussed each one, took out anything that we didn't want, made amendments...
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The joy of recovery!
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When you spend 25 years of your life and many hours in the life of our AA, Alanon and Alateen family, then a bond develops that no one can explain in human terms. It is by suffering that we have bonded. As a family we cannot even count the people that have graced our lives and made it richer for what it is today...
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Take my inventory, PLEASE!
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Okay, folks, here's a kooky problem. I ask myself "do I still have character defects BESIDES the anger?" If so, what are they? None of you can answer that because you've never met me. But there are PLENTY of folks in face2face who do. So would it be appropriate to offer them the opputunity to t...
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For you Coffee Nuts Out There --- Especially Women
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All I can say is..if you don't laugh out loud at this one you are having a bad day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A great coffee ad. Ok ladies, I promise you a laugh.
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Update
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Its been an eventful year thus far. Amidst the chaos Ive enjoyed my time and have trudged the road with a smile on my face for the most part. There was one event that shook me but my higher power was able to steady me quickly. Im sharing the following to catch up with old friends and give hope to those who...
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My dysFUNCTIONAL Family...
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Don't Quit
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DONT QUITWhen things go wrong, as they sometimes will,When the road youre trudging seems all uphill,When the funds are low, and debts are high,And you want to smile, but have to sigh,When care is pressing you down a bit,Rest if you must, but dont you quit.Life is queer with its twists and turns,As ever...
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Today's Gift 07-09
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He that plants trees loves others besides himself. --Thomas Fuller Trees take many years to become beautiful. They start out small and scrawny, and they need attention and care. Planting them is a lot of work for very little payback in the short-term. But over time, trees become big, beautiful, and u...
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Today's Gift
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Tuesday, July 9, 2013You are reading from the book Today's Gift A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary. Dorothy Canfield Fisher A strong, healthy tree is one which is free to grow straight and tall. A weak tree often must lean against another for support. It is not t...
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Eat More Fruit?
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Got home late last night and the wife left a message in the kitchen. I guess she wants me to eat more fruit.
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on the move
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After more than seven years in rented property ...... I'm buying my own house.
At 57 years old and not quite 7 years sober I'm taking on a mortgage and putting down roots.
Affordability is well within budget. Funds arranged. Mortgage will be less than rent. A modest house. Two small doubles and a si...
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Thought for the day
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Monday, July 8, 2013You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Going with the Flow Go with the flow. Let go of fear and your need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as you dive into the river of the present moment, the river of your life, your place in the universe. Stop trying t...
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Sober Mercies
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"Sober Mercies"; I chose to read this book because of this one simple line..."Where do you turn for hope when you already have the answer--but the answer isn't working? I am still in the grips of our disease and the insanity it holds hands with. Fully confess to being utterly defeate...
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That was me
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Late last night I helped a drunk neighbor attend to her drunk company whom were so messed up from drinking they could not walk and messed themselves. A hour or so passed by the time I had 2 sets of keys and two drunks cleaned up and sleeping ( passed out ). As I walked home I started to cry as I was overwhelmed w...
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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July 8, 2013 Quote of the Week "Negativity is my disease asking me tocome out to play." Before recovery, I had just one voice in my head. Sometimes it was encouraging, even optimistic, but most of the time it was negative and defeatist. It told me things weren't going to get...
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Today's Gift 07-08
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Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. --Ralph Waldo Emerson Many of us can probably recount the details of the "last straw," the turning point, the moment we began the journey on the road to recovery. Up until then all roads, however different, led downhill. For some of us t...
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Today's Gift 05-02
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Ousting the Green Demon Victory over Jealousy. We hear of successful people who drop their old friends after moving up the ladder. Maybe, however, it wasn't their choice. Maybe they were driven to do so because their friends' jealousy made the friendship unworkable. We have little trouble accepti...
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Mothers visit
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Well my mom is here to pick up the kids for 30 days. Very stressed in the house for my wife. We opted to put our differences aside for two days so we could both be supportive of each other and kind of tag team her controlling active alcoholic behavior together. Gods arm is on my shoulder and his hand over my mo...
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Vent attempt # 2
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Going to give this a whirl on this board... attempted it on another and am still sad over it. Triggered a deep pain within I'm finding out. I realized through writing here that I have a deep resentment that didn't get worked out in my 4th step. It's at alanon. In my mind - my pain has been a result of alano...
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Grapevine
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July 8 "Once the miracle of sobriety has been received ... Providence expects all of us to work and to grow -- to do our part in maintaining our blessings in full force. A perpetual miracle -- with no effort or responsibility on our part -- simply isn't in the cards. We all understand that the price...
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Had a bad experience with this - Thought for the day
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I would pick doing this in a meeting - in my experience... a message board isn't the place to practice venting. I will keep trying this - but only in live meetings where there would likely be no feed back, and just open space to vent. Still hurting from my last experience trying to vent - but now after rea...
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Today's Gift 07-07
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Meditation The first time I heard about meditation, it sounded like a foreign concept to me. I could understand prayer - that was talking to God. It made sense. But people said meditation was important too. Someone told me, "That's when you're being quiet, so God can talk to you."Over the...
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Devotional
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Weekly Verse"Be transformed by the renewing of your mind." -Romans 12:2Weekly Quote"Seek to cultivate a buoyant, joyous sense of the crowded kindnesses of God in your daily life." -Alexander MaclarenWeekly ThoughtBetween personnel problems and cranky patients, Amy...
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Notable Quotes
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"Change your thoughts and change your world." -Norman Vincent Peale "Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." -Mother Teresa "Sometimes in the winds of change we find our true direction." -Unknown "The best and most b...
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Meeting
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Are we having a meeting tonight?
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Career change
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I posted about this before. I was going to do part time work in substance abuse....working in IOP. Nothing panned out. Well, now it panned out. Submitted 2 week notice at my current job to start a job working in a rehab. I know a large part of this is motivated by the 12th step but I also am wary of havin...
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Life on life's terms
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I thought all the slogans and rituals and people reading and holding hands was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooo cheesy when I first started. I mean really - did they have to make it so uncomfortable for MEEEE??? LOL - oooo I can change the font and stuff... and actually see what I'm typing lol yeah - small joys : ) An...
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Tragedy strikes
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I'm spinning out - as I just got the very worst news I've ever gotten in my life. So here it is: What recovery looks like when the real trauma hits... and actually... I prepared myself for falling apart (as I would have done in the past). I started isolating. I started expecting to shut down... but none of t...
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Are you lucky today?
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Let's share what you are feeling for today - Lucky or Unlucky Please don't break the format. You have to tell two things - Mood (lucky or unlucky) and Reason (Description). Mood: Lucky Reason: I got my cash for my 1 month of Internet marketing work from my 7 clients. Now it's your turn guys _____________...
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Dysfunctional Family Dynamics
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Does it ever really stop? Fractured families, inappropriate boundaries, loving people who we really don't like or wouldn't choose to be around on a regular basis? I find myself in a difficult situation. Between loving my family members, who are still practicing our disease, and maintaining m...
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Weary.
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For all of us who are weary and heavy laden, I just want to say that God is with us. I was like that a few days ago. I found that gentle prayer and subtle meditation gives me rest. I am fortunate to have many of you brothers and sisters on this board who give so freely of themselves.
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Today's Gift 07-06
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There is nothing permanent except change. --Heraclitus Most of us don't like change very much. Getting sober is like stepping into a rushing river of change that will take us to new places in our lives. We sense that. We are learning to trust it more each day. But even though life keeps getting better fo...
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Thought for the day
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You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Near the Top I know you're tired. I know you feel overwhelmed. You may feel as though this crisis, this problem, this hard time will last forever. It won't. You are almost through. You don't just think it has been hard; it has been hard. You have been...
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Bad Tuesday got fired ...no meeting.... woke up feeling ......
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GREAT! So I've been working as the head chef at a resturant by my house. Yesterday I walked in and I was informed that the resturant was going to close for renos for 6 months and that I would be hired back on when the Reno are done. I was a bit upset because I was enjoying the position but apperently even tho...
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My son's birthday.
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He was 2 years old when I sobered up in AA. 27 now and involved in church ministry work and AACA. I could have written a different story without AA's 12 steps of recovery. Last year my first sponsor's 30 year old son committed suicide after being on drugs for a long time. My sponsor relapsed after 8 years of...
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Thought for the day
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Friday, July 5, 2013You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Survivor Guilt We begin recovering. We begin taking care of ourselves. Our recovery program starts to work in our life, and we begin to feel good about ourselves. Then it hits. Guilt. Whenever we begin to experience the fulln...
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Craziness
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So last night I go to check on my 11 y/o son after he had still been alone for the last 7 hrs all day and now the wife was at a Alanon meeting. He had already bugged his Mom at a meeting telling him he was scared when are you coming home. So she asks me to check on him until she gets home. So I say ok. She tells me she's...
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PAW
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I just wanted to Thank Dean for posting PAW It was a big help for a friend of mine . Russell
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What is up with the mobile site?
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Not sure where to post this. Do not like.the new format..Light blue font on white background is very.difficult to see. Is it just me?
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12 Steps to Insanity
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Twelve Steps to Insanity We admitted we were powerless over nothing - that we could manage our lives perfectly. We could also perfectly manage the lives of those around us. Came to believe that there was no power greater than ourselves and that the rest of the world was insane. Made a decision to have ou...
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Today's Gift 07-05
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A.A. Thought for the Day People often ask what makes the AA program work. One of the answers is that AA works because it gets us away from ourselves as the center of the universe. And it teaches us to rely more on the fellowship of others and on strength from God. Are these things keeping me sober? Medita...
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Never Goin' Back Again
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I had Pandora running in the background a little while ago and I don't know why, but the song that came on stuck me right about where I am in recovery at this point ... it's by Fleetwood Mac and a happy sort of tune ... When the phrase 'You don't know what it's like to win' came across, I was thinking about 'win...
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Independence Day
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Happy 4th of July! First and foremost as we all celebrate today in our respective ways, let us remember those brave men and women, both past and present, who have valiantly fought so that the people of the USA could enjoy so many wonderful freedoms! Thank a soldier they deserve the honor! My very ow...
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