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Quck question
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Hey guys! Hope everyone is doing well, i just have a quick question.
Ive been making 6 mtgs/week and go to my local library to read up on spirituality 2x a week. My sponsor and i are connecting ok, but... Im bored. Im tired of hearing the same things over and over again. I feel my brain is atrophying. I als...
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Dating
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Does anyone have any ideas for where sober singles can go hang out like in a bar to mingle for potential dating scenarios? Or dating sites? Are there already topics on this? I'm sure there are but this site lacks a search feature :(
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just checking
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Grateful for another sober day! So I have a question for all you wise ones: I'm secretly (well not anymore) thinking of going to school for an Associates in AODA counseling. I have all the generals done, so each semester would only be about 12 credits. So here's the question. I was wondering if you t...
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SAD
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I live in Wisconsin, and we just turned the corner - gaining 30 seconds of daylight per day. It is still dark at breakfast and supper though. I haven't been diagnosed with it, but I feel like I have a lot of the symptoms of seasonal affective disorder. (SAD) Usually to combat this in the past, I would tr...
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Today's Gift 01-07
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We don't want to live in the past, but we do need to learn to live comfortably with it. "We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it." This is a promise of the Twelve Step program. One of the most useful tools we have for learning to live with our past is the Fourth Step inventory. Onc...
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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January 7, 2013 Quote of the Week "Trying to understand God just makesHis job harder." I can't tell you how much time I've spent trying to figure out who or what God is. I've spent years trying to understand the Catholic God I was raised with, and more years trying to define God from a philo...
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Oh happy day
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The sun was shining through the window just so, that the lace curtain in the hallway reflected roses and dancing swirls against the wall. I've never noticed that before. 6 eagles were watching over the Chippewa River behind our house. One was watching me. My daughter learned how to play a driving ar...
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justadrunk
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Slipped Yesterday
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I saw my wifes profile on that dating site again and lost it. I went out and bought a bottle of vodka and went at it. I wish someone would tell her that her having that profile up there is wrong as she is married and its killing me.
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11th Step meetings
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Most of the meetings I have been to have been 11th step or meditation meetings. A topic is chosen, there is time to meditate, read, pray, and then everyone shares their thoughts. I am having a VERY hard time with this. I feel like I am taking a test I have not studied for. I don't know if it is that I am out of pr...
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ChristineG
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I dont think I will ever get it..
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I had 3 months, then 6, my longest was 8 then I relapsed and had 4, well the past few months I have been smoking weed and justifying it to myself (its legal in some states) well I slipped up last week, had about 5 long islands and lost $1000 at the casino, worst part was I took my wife on this trip and she relapse...
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SoberSteve
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Today's Gift 01-06
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Oh, what a tangled web we weave When first we practice to deceive. --Sir Walter Scott To deceive means to fool people into believing things that are not true. As addicts, we did this in many ways. We lied. We hid facts. We were sneaky. While we were trying to fool other people, we also fooled ourselves. Ev...
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Pythonpappy
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Memories coming back
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I always thought the first time I drank was with a friend when we were 13, getting drunk on her dad's beer. Just sitting here, I had these two memories beat me over the head: The first time I drank I was actually in my parents kitchen, by myself, drinking a glass of mixed liquors I'd siphoned from various bo...
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Tenth Step Under Fire
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Continued to take personal Inventory and when we are wrong promptly admit it. Yesterday 1/3. I accessed the site to a posted message titled A Funny for the Old-Timers As someone with 39 years of continuous sobriety, thus qualifying as such , I read it; but, in all truth did not find it funny , I found it DE...
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Tomas
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Give your self an Instant Raise ! quit drinking!
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Its been about a week now since I quit drinking I can't belive how much money I have in my bank! I was usually going out 3 - 4 x per week spending from 30 - 60 bucks plus at least 6 tall boys to get me started. Give your self an instant raise and quit drinking! Plus i'm being more productive! woot woot i'm pump...
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mandm
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A slight miscommunication
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As I mentioned I've been a bit of a grumpy bastard the last few days and my wife has been extremely patient and understanding. I feel a great deal of gratitude and love for her and so about half an hour ago when I went to kiss her goodnight I whispered in her ear "I know that I've been impossible but I did...
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Sober McHappy
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Reinvented myself also
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I took a page from Tipsy's book and decided to reinvent myself here. My other account had almost 1000 posts and I felt I needed to start over since I am on day 1 again. Made it to a face to face meeting nooner, it was about service work, I helped set up some chairs and take them down. Felt so good to be a part of...
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SereneSteve
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We went together
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My husband and I went to an alanon meeting together today for the first time. I thought maybe he would feel awkward. I thought maybe I might too for a moment. But it was great, and we were both really comfortable with it after all. I liked having my best friend there with me. We found the same things funn...
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justadrunk
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Was Bill W constantly relapsing?
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Old timer in a meeting the other night was talking about how Bill could not stay sober, even to the end of his life. About all i've found is that he did use LSD often, i haven't found any documents saying he was drinking. I know he suffered severely from depression, which I have found to be common among us a...
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bigv
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unwanted sexual advances
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Need to know how to deal with this in A.A. meeting without creating more problems since I am a newcomer. This person has a lot to share and give since he has several years and I need to feel comfortable going. Any imput would be grateful. Thank You.
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tanna
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Today's Gift 01-05
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Life Is a Gift Thank you, God. May I remember during periods of depression. The many times in my life when things do seem right, when I have those moments of clarity. When I feel there is hope, when the sun shines down on me and warms my face, when Your love warms my heart. I am reminded that life is a gift . . . t...
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Im new to this site.
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Hi all im new and this is day one of a long road ahead. One day at a time.
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Marge
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Question regarding excerpt from 'The Doctor's Opinion"
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The classification of alcoholics seems most difficult, and in much detail is outside the scope of this book. There are, of course, the psychopaths who are emotionally unstable. We are all familiar with this type. They are always going on the wagon for keeps. They are over-remorseful and make many re...
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Sober McHappy
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Trying to provide an example
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I know I speak often of work here. One reason for that is that my social life is currently in a state of transition between my old one that revolved around drinking, and my new sober life. The other reason is that many things at work are very much related to sobriety. Now, the job I currently work was one I ha...
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Col
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The literature
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What are your favourite pieces from the literature? How do you prefer to read it? I have a Big Book and a copy of Staying Sober. I've just started reading the 12 and 12 online, and would like to get my hands on a hard copy of that. I also downloaded an audiobook of The Big Book. It's really nice to listen to.
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RubyTues
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weekly qoute from my church - fittng for AA? i think so......
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If we plant a flower or shrub and water it daily it will grow so tall that in time we shall need and a hoe to uproot it. It is just so, I think, when we commit a fault, however small, each day, and do not cure ourselves of it.
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A strange turn of events...
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I reconnected with a good friend who I had lost contact with a few years ago. It turned out he had developed a variety of substance abuse problems and had just been released from prison. He is in a halfway house in a city not far from where I live. We've been talking on the phone and trough text message quite...
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Sober McHappy
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Still squeeking out those fibbers
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We pick up tokens on the first Friday of every month. I had nine months last month toward the end, so tonight I picked up my 9 mo token. I hadn't picked up my 3 or 6 - so my sponsor gave them all to me. I had mentioned to her that I wasn't going to mess around with the tokens until the 1 yr mark, but she insisted t...
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justadrunk
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Humbling Meeting
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Went to a Wed nite meeting that I don't go to very often. The normal people were there, with good topics. About 15 mins into the meeting a guy, and a woman comr in. The guy was obviously in bad shape. The lady introduced herself as the sister of an alcoholic and the guy finally introduced himself as the bro...
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joby
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Congrats on 9 months and...
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Congratulations on nine months! Keep fighting the good fight! My sponsor pushed me out there at around 100 days because we had finished my steps and I had sponsored in my previous sobriety. One thing that I have learned about sponsorship is that we can remain available but we can't do it for them. I...
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7 day cruise to eastern Carribean
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I'm going on a 7 day cruise starting tomorrow and will be gone for 1 week. Going to San Juan, St. Martin, and St. Thomas. Princess cruise....cuz well....I'm a fairy princess. HA! Will be thinking of you all and will hopefully find friends of Bill on the boat! -- Edited by pinkchip on Saturday 5th of Jan...
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pinkchip
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No strings
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I used to have lots of things goin. All sorts of things to remember. People who owed me this or that (and didn't even know it); jobs left undone; words left unsaid; cards people were suppose to return to me; gifts I had coming that people didn't know they were suppose to give... all kinds of things goin....
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justadrunk
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The walls
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Seems like the walls have stopped closing in. I wouldn't say they are receding but at least they aren't getting closer. Funny how just doing one or two things out of the pile that needs doing can make you feel a little better. Went to a meeting at a new place this morning. They gave me a 24 hour chip. Was ni...
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ChristineG
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This is the part I hate...
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I've gone through this enough times to recognize my stages and this is not a good one for anyone involved. This is the part where I am still extremely sincere and motivated and feeling physically great but where I turn into the most difficult person on the planet to be around. The word irritable does not...
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Sober McHappy
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Returning to work..
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I'm going back to work the end of next week and I have more than a little apprehension to put it mildly. Scared s##less would be more appropriate. It's not only that I havent worked for two and a half years, its also that I never was truely sober the previous 25 years at work...I always had a chemical in my po...
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mrpeel
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starting my new year teetotal
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I've been on this website countless times trying to sober myself up. I read through some of my past post, I keep having the same old story. I've lost realitionships because of my drinking, the love of my life. Which caused my life to take a more dramatic spiral (I thought the TV show californation was a d...
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The detritus of drinking
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Warning: this is a bit gross, but I feel compelled to share! Last week I went to grab a coat from the closet and realized it was filthy. Well! It turns out it was the coat I wore on my last drinking night out. I guess the next day I hadn't looked at it properly and had just hung it up. It was covered in red wine vo...
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RubyTues
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Today's Gift 01-04
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It is not fair to ask of others what you, are not willing to do yourself. -- Eleanor Roosevelt Equality is a state of mind. When we value our own self-worth, we are comfortable with the achievements and the well-being of our friends and associates. The symptoms of a punctured ego occur when we criticize...
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Pythonpappy
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Quote for the day
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January 4 "The road to spiritual and emotional recovery ... has taken diverse routes - lots of meetings, readings, talks with AA members, discussion groups, psychotherapy, and the beginning of sharing. The keys see...
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Mike B.
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Secrets to staying Positive in 2013?
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Volume up ... enjoy!http://play.simpletruths.com/movie/inspiration-365-days-a-year-v/?cm_mmc=ExactTarget-_-FR-_-01.04.13-_-INSPmovie&j=39523&e=rgpapaw@gmail.com&l=3516_HTML&u=2132582&mid=7001668&jb=17
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Pythonpappy
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41 year old friend drank hersefl to death recently
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Spent the entire day with this individual's Mother who continues to abuse alcohol, pain pills and tranquilizers. Along with us were a 10 year sober individual and me a 7 year sober individual. Her son, 45 years old was there also. A con artist, who was the boyfriend of the 41 year old, has moved in an...
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Pablomoses
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You Think You Have it Rough? -- it works now --
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This a short video of an extraodinary Australian man ... talk about faith in a higher power ... here's your example ... enjoy! thanks for being patient Aaaah, got it, I think ... enjoy -- Edited by Pythonpappy on Friday 4th of January 2013 09:...
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Pythonpappy
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Oh, New Years...
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New years eve... My first one sober. It was never an excuse for me to drink, per se, but more an opportunity for the rest of the world to drink like I drank lol. I'll be working tonight in a booze soaked atmosphere. I kinda didnt want to, but I've been blessed enough to pick up a couple of shifts at my old job. B...
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Congrats Britney, sorry I missed it!
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Congrats on 90 days Britney (Gleek22) ... that one slipped right by be ... that's a 'BIGGY' Pappy
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Pythonpappy
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Hello world
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Although I've been sober for 7 months, I haven't really been doing much aside from working and meetings. Well, now that my full-time job is gone I have a lot of free time. I'm not all that great with unstructured time- I find that I get a lot more done with a rigid schedule. Now what do I do? It's sounds prett...
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Col
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Business Meetings....sigh
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OMG! Business meetings are horrid sometimes. Especially when the prior treasurer "lost" a ton of money months before, nobody can agree on squat, and resentments are flying everywhere. It would seem the bigger the group, the worse and more contentious the business meeting. I love s...
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pinkchip
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happy new year!
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So today I can honestly say I have not had one cigerette in the past year, 1 year smoke free, and now 8 months sober! It can be done!!!
As this day comes to an end I sit back and review all of 2012, it was rough. Losing my house in 2011, almost losing wife and kids, being so broke, I could not keep my power on, wh...
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flipper
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How do you handle negative people (Merqed)
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There are 2 people that are important in my life that don't believe I can/will quit. I get things like "yea, we'll see how long THAT lasts" and "I don't believe you want to quit" I DO want to quit! I'm tired of all the negative crap. BTW I've been drinking for 4 almost 5 years, I have on...
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The spiritual stuff
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Had a good discussion about the spiritual aspect of AA at a meeting this evening. I have always considered myself an open minded atheist - religion and spirituality are great for other people if that's what they want to believe, but it doesn't work for me. I'm starting to realize how cynical I am, and h...
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RubyTues
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A 'funny' for the Old Timers
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At the root of every gray hair, there is a dead brain cell. Someone had to remind me, So I'm reminding you, too. Don't laugh.... It is all true! Perks of reaching 50 Or being over 60 And heading towards 70 or beyond! 1. Kidnappers are not very Interested in you. 2. In a hostage situation, You...
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Pythonpappy
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Today's Gift 01 -03
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Moral Inventory It is fortunate that we can think in secret, because our thoughts would quickly get us in trouble if others could read them. In our thoughts, we can choose what we wish to reveal to others before we speak or act. In the long run, however, we do not really conceal our true thoughts and feeli...
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